I think telling your mother is OK but also tell her that you fear how your father would react.
If I was your dad, I might at first be a little ballistic in my heart thinking "Who is the little fuck who plucked my daughter's cherry?", but, very quickly, I'd calm down recognizing that this is the way of the world and the way it has been for 10000s of generations.
So, I would then sit down and talk to you calmly and ask you a bit about the boy but also if you had any questions about boys. I'd then tell you to just be careful and that, if you have any questions, you can talk to your mother or me because we realize that you are just growing up, this is a part of life, we love you, and just want you to be happy, healthy, and safe.
Only if you need their help in obtaining birth control, or other related matters. But I also recommend honesty and I can see it if this is some thing that's bothering you. I'd get mom off to the side when dads at work and say "mom, I've got something to tell you but, promise me you won't tell dad". She will agree. Dont tell dad. Tell dad if and when you have problems with boys.
It's completely okay not to tell your parents, however, if you feel the need to, or need birth control then I would tell your mom. There's nothing wrong with having sex and not telling your parents. So don't stress! :-)
Sit your mom down and tell her you need to be put on birth control.
Condoms can break. At 15 you don't need a baby. Stop having sex until you are on bc. And continue to use condoms too.
Need to tell your parents... my mom knows about my boyfriend and I having sex... She was very supportive and she bought us a box of condoms.
I am literally in the same position. I don't know if I should tell her or not.
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It depends how close you and your mother are. You aren't required to tell her, but if you have a close relationship then I would.
Well since you promised, yes. If you hadn't then I'd say wait until she'd ask.
I really don't think its any of their business. If you and your mom are close and not telling her is like a betrayal, then that is sorta bad on your part. Like you are breaking up the bond between you and mom by keeping secrets.
If its affecting you this badly I'd say just go for it and tell mom. If you really trust her... if not then keep it in but secrets have a way of coming out... one way or another.
If you feel like you want to tell her. With the relationship I have with my mother, I will not tell her. If we had more of a "best friend like" relationship, I might.
Yes you should. Be sure to act normal and confident and mention you are always using protection. That way you earn her trust.
I had sex for the first time when I was 14 but it was to a girl and I did tell my mom and she didn't care since it was with someone my age
Usually I'd say it's none of their business and it's up to you, but you did promise
Tell her for safety reasons and because of the promise you made.
Just tell them so they know you need to visit a doctor.
In the long run it will enhance your relationship with both of your parents if you stop hiding. You will also feel a lifting of burden by being honest.
Wait, you're 15 and had sex?
*does not compute*
You should probably tell you're mom before it gets to be a long time
All I can say is that you should tell them whenever you feel ready to.
who cares about virginity, you?
A promise is a promise
A promise is a trust binding word...
very smart to tell them
They don't need to know.
It isn't their fuckin business?
I think it's better to tell them later
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