I had a close friend from the earliest classes of school and university. she found a job right after we graduated and i didn't.. since graduation she avoids me , every time i asked her to hang out she apologized. she didn't send me happy birthday msgs didn't accept my invitation on instagram.
Why do some close friends disappear from our lives without real reasons? Ghosting?
I think maybe you have some big clues in what you wrote that you may not consider. You happen to be experiencing a very transformative and pivotal time, people are transitioning from student to the rest of their lives, I think this may be a factor of her behavior, she may be writing off her student life and trying to focus on her future, thereby dismissing people unintentionally... people can be very inconsiderate, but often it’s because they haven’t the strength to be considerate as all they can think of, is what they can control and do themselves
Can be a natural part of getting older. Life gets in the way of things. I've drifted from many friends over the years, lost contact with a lot. It's just one of those things. The age of social media makes it slightly easier, but even so, sometimes you have to chalk it up to experience and move on
I left and was left out from my group of friends, because I started working. They thought I'm avoiding them but I didn't have any time, I was both working and studying at the same time and was trying to figure out some stuff about myself. We still keep contact, mostly when I initiate it, but people come and go. We shouldn't be too upset about it.
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Oh same! I've had this friend since past one year. She's from a different country and now when I contact her after 3 months (my exams) she completely refuses to even read my message let alone replying. She even blocked me. This is really disturbing! Why do they do this? I don't know
Yup, it happens. After all these years I can't honestly tell you why either. But I think people get so wrapped up in their own lives and problems and just living that they fail to reach out. And then it becomes an embarrassment so they simply avoid it. Oh well, enjoy them while you can.
All things happen for a reason. It would appear that somewhere, somehow, you said something, done something and you didn't even spot (mere surmise). Only you can know that. Anyway, he's the one with the problem. You don't need to worry about it.
I had a best friend... We used to be very good friends in high school.. Gradually he made lot of friends around him coz he's extrovert.. Being rich it's easy for him to make friends as well (mostly fake imo)... We still shard the room later for 4 years but it was not a genuine friendship that used to be in h. s... Now he moved off and staying somewhere... There's no contact with him since 2 years..
Friendships do that, we all grow at a different pace. I wouldn't say it was ghosting you, she's just grown in her life and your friendship has had to adapt because of it. It's not always easy to understand but it does happen quite frequently.
People vanish as soon as they dont need us anymore but the first trouble they get... the missing friend reappears. Dont make effort to make people be in your life. If they were worth it you shouldn't be missing them cause real friends never leave us.
I think she’s moved on, and she’s made some adjustments of which ghosting some people out of her life is one. You have to move on too... As for job you’d get a nice one!
Humans are very social so it's likely she found a new group, made new friends and has moved on (I'm going through the same thing) it's hurtful but it happens.
Its like people just get busy in there life and makes new friends but when they don't find moment spent with you so surely thay will start missing you.
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