Girls, would you let a close guy friend sit on your lap if there were no more chairs left, explain?

[Anonymous]

Would you offer first?
Would you think the close guy friend was weird or gay for sitting on your lap?

Please explain thoroughly

This happened to me the other day and I let him sit on my lap :)

[Trisha3103]

its actually depends on how close you are and what kind of relationship you both have.. as long as you guys are comfortable with it, what others think shouldn't really matter! i dont see how letting him sit on your lap would be gay though.. I probably would have done the same.. it's no biggie!😊😊

[Asker]

would you offer your lap first if you saw him without a seat and what would you say in your offer? Would you wrap your arms around his waist and why?

Could he sit on your lap without asking you?
Would it be different if it was a close girlfriend in this situation and why?

[foodtv]

I wouldn't mind if we are close friends I think we'd just laugh about it. Plus they'd maybe offer to switch positions or I'd most likely offer to sit on the floor. It wouldn't matter if it was my gay friend or just my weird friends.

[Asker]

would you offer your lap first if you saw him without a seat and what would you say in your offer? Would you wrap your arms around his waist and why?

Could he sit on your lap without asking you?
Would it be different if it was a close girlfriend in this situation and why?

have guy friends sat on your lap before?

[foodtv]

I'd probably offer my chair before my lap just because most of my friends are guys and really big. But other wise, if I was offering my lap I'd probably just say have a seat and gesture to them to sit on my lap. depending on why we are sitting like that would determine whether or not I put my arms around them, probably would just because I don't think any of us would care and it would feel "safer". I don't think it would be different in a situation with a close girl friend.

[foodtv]

and I think one or two of my friends have sat on my lap before.

[Asker]

nice I see have guy friends sat on your lap before?

[foodtv]

Ya, it was the guys, not the girls, haha. I'm closer with some of my guy friends than my girl friends.

[LittleCurlyBray]

I’ve always been open with people, but you have to understand, not everyone is open like you. It sucks! And especially at your age, it there’s people around that y’all can’t trust, other people might say y’all are dating or boyfriend and girlfriend. If y’all are a close group of friends, then I’m sure it’s all good! Just make smart decisions. You know him if y’all are close!

[Asker]

I agree... so you said you are open as in you would do the same?
would you offer your lap first if you saw him without a seat and what would you say in your offer? Would you wrap your arms around his waist and why?

Could he sit on your lap without asking you?
have some of these guy friends sat on your lap more than once and in what situations?
Do you have a specific experience in minds?

Would it be different if it was a close girlfriend in this situation and why?

[danii_2692]

I don't mind... My guy friends and I do it all the time, even when there are still plenty of seats around... A situation is only awkward if you make it awkward... Although its usually the other way around cause I'm quite small in build and they often joke about not wanting to break me...

[Asker]

would you offer your lap first if you saw him without a seat and what would you say in your offer? Would you wrap your arms around his waist and why?

Could he sit on your lap without asking you?
Would it be different if it was a close girlfriend in this situation and why?

you said you sit on them usually but have there been situations where they have sat on your lap and what have been the reasons for them doing so?

[Asker]

also your answers are helping me a lot by the way I am doing a project for social interactions so I need as much of your opinions as possible :)

you can message me your answer if you want

[danii_2692]

I offer to let him sit and then sit on his lap with out asking... I'm not shy so I ask straight up... And no I don't put my hands around his waist that could be perceived as a romantic gesture so no... They often sit on my lap without asking and I don't mind it in the least..

They sit on my lap cause they wanna play around or just because they feel like it and they know i don't mind...

And lastly it happens more frequently with my girl friends close or not i guess cause its not perceived as "inappropriate" by society just like girls hugging for extended periods of time is okay and guys doing the same isn't...

[Asker]

okay I see when you offer what will you usually say?
What situations will your guy friends sit on your lap normally?

"And lastly it happens more frequently with my girl friends close or not i guess cause its not perceived as "inappropriate" by society just like girls hugging for extended periods of time is okay and guys doing the same isn't.."
When you said this do you find it inappropriate or do you not for guys to do this kind of stuff?

[danii_2692]

Typically "Dude, sit on my lap or have my seat and let me sit on yours." If he's really close add a joke like "You know its the only time you'll ever get ass." And we'll laugh about it... But it hardly ever gets turned down...

Normally in a group setting where we are all talking and laughing doesn't really matter where we are... Most common place is actually my accounting class cause we all need a little comic relief/cool down in that class and we sit in a group and talk so when a friend can't find a seat close enough to be included in the convo there's always space on my lap... Lol...

No, i think its wrong to say that... Guys have emotions they'd like to express too...

[Asker]

haha funny when would you say this joke "You know its the only time you'll ever get ass"

so just to clarify if you were in a social setting and a guy friend sat on your lap what would you do? Would he be expressing his emotions by sitting on your lap and how so? Would you find it awkward or weird or no?

[danii_2692]

I only ever use that joke on a really good friend who won't think that it might mean more...

I wouldn't mind it... I would continue speaking and acting like I always do... He isn't expressing any emotion besides a need to sit... And I wouldn't find it weird because me finding it weird would cause the whole situation to be weird and there's nothing I hate more...

[Asker]

so in situations of need your friends (male or female) are allowed to sit on your lap and you wouldn't mind? Why so?

[danii_2692]

I wouldn't mind in the least... I just don't mind it even if there was no need for it...

[Asker]

Danii you said before your lap is always available to friends especially if you are hanging out in a group and someone can't find an ideal spot to sit

Would you really not care if it was a guy friend or a girl friend in this position?
Are your guy friends allowed to sit on your lap whenever they want I guess?

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[danii_2692]

I really don't mind guy or girl, I don't mind... And yes they are allowed to sit on my lap whenever they want... Unless we are having a one on one conversation cause I don't wanna talk to your back...

I'm @danii_2692
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[Asker]

ok I followed you

[AwkwardEscapee]

I would prob just expect him to stand or sit in the floor. Or we both sit on the floor☺. I don't think it's gay... I've actually seen a few times where the guy purposely sits on the girl's lap bc he likes her. ( not saying that's what this is tho).

[Asker]

but would you let him sit on your lap though?

[FasBOR7Horus]

Absolutely. I rather like it. My best friend, Alekkzander, doesn't really let people touch him that much so when he does something like that means he's comfortable around me and that makes me really happy.

[Asker]

would you offer your lap first if you saw (or Alekkzander) him without a seat and what would you say in your offer? Would you wrap your arms around (Alekkzander) his waist and why?

Could he (Alekkzander) sit on your lap without asking you?
Would it be different if it was a close girlfriend in this situation and why?

[Asker]

also why do you like it?

[FasBOR7Horus]

Some times I offer some times he does it on his own. It wouldn't be different with another person because I like hugging and stuff.

[Asker]

so you would hug him if he sat on your lap?

[Asker]

when you offer what do you usually say?

[FasBOR7Horus]

1. Yes.
2. I usually just catch his attention hen tap on my lap a few times and then stretch my arms out a little.

[Asker]

when you stretch your arms what do you mean stretch them to do what?

[FasBOR7Horus]

Towards him

[Asker]

how would you catch his attention?

By stretching your arms do you pull him to your lap?

How do you initiate the hugging?

[FasBOR7Horus]

1. I say his name or tug on his shirt
2. No. I'm basically saying "come here"
3. When he sits down I just wrap my arms around his stomach.

[Asker]

what situations will you pat your lap in to get him to sit on your lap? how long do you leave your arms stretched out?

Do you keep your arms wrapped around him for the whole time he is sitting on your lap and why do you wrap your arms around him?

Do you sit on him or no and why?

[Asker]

also if he sits on your lap without asking you what would you do? Would you still wrap your arms around him and why?

[FasBOR7Horus]

1. At any time where he is standing.
2. Until he shakes his head or sits down.
3. Yes. Because it makes me happy. I don't know why it just does.
4. Yes. I'm pretty co cious about my weight and it makes me feel better about it.
5. I would wrap my arms around his stomach and rest my head on his back. Because he's my best friends and I know he doesn't dislike it. It makes us both happy.

[Asker]

so in what situations will he sit on your lap? Do you have a specific situation in mind that you can share?
Will you wrap your arms around him overtime he sits on your lap?
Is he allowed to sit on your lap whenever he wants whether you offer or he does it without asking?

[FasBOR7Horus]

1&2. As i said before. In any situation be is standing.
3. Yes.
4. He kinda does what he wants.

[NonceySketzer]

Yeah man why not
If he was one of my friends I wouldn’t see a problem with that
I wouldn’t assume he was gay unless I had proof 😏 but yeah man
Of course I wouldn’t offer first, I’m a socially awkward, introverted teenager

[Asker]

would you offer your lap first if you saw him without a seat and what would you say in your offer? Would you wrap your arms around his waist and why?

Could he sit on your lap without asking you?
Would it be different if it was a close girlfriend in this situation and why?

[hsshannah96]

Since it’s not me sitting on their lap, it wouldn’t be awkward in my opinion. But it depends on how much they weigh. If the guy friend is bigger than me, I think they may hurt me

[Asker]

would you offer your lap first if you saw him without a seat and what would you say in your offer? Would you wrap your arms around his waist and why?

Could he sit on your lap without asking you?
Would it be different if it was a close girlfriend in this situation and why?

[hsshannah96]

No if he asked I would say yes but it wouldn’t. Be an auto offer

[xmysteryx]

If we were really close I'd offer to get up for him but I wouldn't mind letting him sit on my lap either. I don't see how a guy sitting on a girls lap makes him seem gay if your that close then it's fine because your close friends.

[Asker]

would you offer your lap first if you saw him without a seat and what would you say in your offer? Would you wrap your arms around his waist and why?

Could he sit on your lap without asking you?
Would it be different if it was a close girlfriend in this situation and why?

[xmysteryx]

I'd offer. I don't know what I'd say in my offer and I'm not sure if I'd put my hands around his waist or not. Of course he has to ask in some way or give a little hint to me and it wouldn't be different If it was a girl.

[Asker]

if he asked to sit on your lap what would you do and say?

[anmari2001]

I guess its fine by somw people but I would feel uncomfortable since I don't have guy friends, maybe I would suggest it in a jokingly way but not for real

[anmari2001]

I love your hair by the way, so long ❤❤❤

[Asker]

thanks baby you're gorgeous xxx

Wait but don't close girl-friend friends sit on your lap whats the difference?

[anmari2001]

The difference is that i hasn't get used to it

[raxhere]

Just ask him casually like "Why did you even sit on my lap that day😂😂" with some emoji.. Don't ask it awkwardly or make him feel awkward.. Let it be chill..

[Asker]

would you let him sit on your lap as well?

[raxhere]

Hmm i haven't encountered that situation yet.. But i think I'd offer him my seat..

[pitzi]

If he is a small guy yes lol I don't wanna be crushed. Also only if he's close with me.. I wouldn't sit on his lap though...
I might be the first to offer as a joke lol

[Asker]

would you offer your lap first if you saw him without a seat and what would you say in your offer? Would you wrap your arms around his waist and why?

Could he sit on your lap without asking you?

would it be different if it was a girl-firend instead?