How do you feel when you receive pity holiday invites?

[Anonymous]

I’ve received 3 for Thanksgiving this year. It’s hard, when you’re talking to a distant friend or coworker or boss, they ask what you’re doing for Thanksgiving and you say something like just enjoying the time off and taking it easy. And they respond with you’re welcome to come to my family’s Thanksgiving. And I politely decline and feel like shit after. I’m a confident independent woman and I do suffer from depression and loneliness but pity invites don’t help. I really want to feel like I BELONG somewhere. I want to eat Thanksgiving dinner with people I didn’t have to question if I would be there in the first place. The holidays are really hard for me. 😔 in the past, I’ve traveled to get away from this. But this year, I’ve settled down into my own place in a new city.

[AltaCalif]

Hey, it's free food. As a guy who almost ended up on the streets, I wouldn't refuse anything that's free. Hell I'd try to make jokes have fun maybe buy some alcohol.

Now if I wanted to have my own Thanksgiving gig, I'd make friends and call them over.