How can you live as an ugly failure?

[Anonymous]

I’m ugly and also not good at anything. I’m still in college at this age and I just look hideous. I’m my sisters shadow because she’s beautiful and finished university living with her rich boyfriend. My parents and everybody including my friends favour her. While I work for minimum wage, my boyfriend is on EI, and I’m stuck in college. I used to get bullied and even my mom and relatives treat me like shit. What can I do?

[kyleelyn199723]

You can start by thinking highly of yourself instead of thinking you are a failure because you didn’t graduate or aren’t doing life at the same speed as somebody else. 25-29 is very common to still be in school. I am a college student and there people even with grand kids in my classes! You need to start thinking more highly of yourself because your family and people treating you a certain way may be a reflection on how you treat yourself and people around you. It’s not the world against you. It’s you against you.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

You are treated the way, you treat yourself.

Everybody has there own journey if you couldn't respect yourself people see that and try to take advantage of it.

Learn to know that you don't owe something to someone and you are doing best you could for yourself without anybodies mercy so you are great in yourself don't allow someone to talk something shitty just shoo them off

Come out of the shadow and be as an individual untill you learn to take incharge of your own success or mistakes and own them nobody is gonna respect you and more over you don't need a validation from others I am developing same and it's working out good as of now the h
Key is to over come the fear by facing it one step at a time

[Anonymous]

You can learn to love and accept yourself and stop comparing yourself to other people and focus on being the most fully realised version of your authentic self as you can be.

If you stop allowing other people to define who and want you are you will be much better off regardless of your situation though it may also be helpful to remove toxic people from your life as well, but this will probably happen on its own once you love and respect yourself.

You probably aren't ugly but even if you were it still doesn't help you to frame and or view yourself in that way.

[SofiSin667]

Cut off the toxic people in your life and fix whatever you feel uncomfortable with.

[Ironic_Method]

Comparing yourself to others is always going to result in feeling terrible.

Sounds like you should get away from anyone toxic in your life and figure out what makes YOU happy.

On a side note, you thinking you're ugly while having a boyfriend seems weird. You have someone that wants to be with you, so who else are you trying to impress?

[Anonymous]

You have a boyfriend so you are doing better than me. Try not to compare yourself to others. Look at how you are doing now compared to 5 years ago; if you like the progress you have made keep at it. If you don't reevaluate your approach and buckle down and try harder.

[Asker]

Umm I love my boyfriend, but he smokes and drinks alcohol everyday, has explosive anger. Although I can see he really loves me... Further his mom drinks and smoke often too and they swear a lot.

[Opinion Owner]

If you don't like him you should find someone else.

[Celtero]

I mean... why frame it like that?

Just enjoy your life, plenty of enjoyable things to do by yourself away from annoying and bad people.

[jahaims]

By not comparing yourself to others. If you are ugly you can't change that so just come to terms with it. Of you aren't good at anything that is your own fault.