Is this girl not afraid of me? Will she retaliate?

[Anonymous]

I was jealous of this girl because a lot of guys liked her and were very close friends with her. They would share secrets and invite her to all their favorite places. On the other hand, they would ignore me even if I was present. As a result, I started trash-talking behind her back. I thought she wouldn’t know. If she did, I thought doing this would make her afraid of me and become submissive. However, after she found out, she completely ignored me. She never badmouthed me to anyone, even the friends we hang out. None of our friends know that we have beef. I’m kinda afraid about what she’s doing because she was kept silent for over a year. She doesn’t associate that much with people I hang out now. We have classes together, but she’ll act like nothing happened. Sometimes I’ll ask some of our mutual friends to ask her if she wants to go to a party but she’ll only reply that she needs to study because it’s important. I want her to be afraid of me!

[Controluremo]

Girl you're insecurity towards her is so big. And you're totally immature. That friend of yours is matured enough to get herself out from the drama and not giving a fuck. The best revenge isn't fighting back, It's walking away and living your life the way you want it to and not minding those naysayers. You lost the fight. She already won. The moment she ignored you, doesn't give a fuck bout your shit and continue her life as if nothing happen- she already snatched the victory on that moment.

[Asker]

Is that why people look down on me and admire her? Why do I feel like people think that I’m lying?

[Controluremo]

I guess so. Cuz you talk shit about someone and I think you need to get rid of your insecurity. It'll be hard but it's worth it. Don't ruin someone's name because of your jealousy. It's just showing how insecure you are about your self.

[Asker]

I want to reconcile with her. We graduated in last May. Apparently, I heard that she's going to Harvard so I definitely want to apologize for what I have done. If not, I guess I can go to Harvard's campus and apologize.

[Controluremo]

Dm her and ask her to hang out. Tell her there's something important you want to say. Tell her you want to apologise in person

[Asker]

I did. But she's not replying, and she blocked me

[Controluremo]

Send her a heartfelt letter. Pour everything you wanna say to her in that letter. But if you're really fixed on going to visit her, then do so. Do what you think is the best choice but if you're hesitant to visit her cuz you're scared, then send her a letter and see how it will go.

If by any chance you visit her and she refuse to meet you up. Then it's no longer in your control. You already did what your best. Write her a letter. Either she forgive you or not, try your best to move forward and forgive yourself on the process. It's pretty much understandable why she doesn't want to see you again. The letter is your last chance once you already visited her.