My best friend is always picking on my looks/appearance?

[Anonymous]

It really hurts my feelings but I don’t want to come off as too sensitive. She has only recently started this behaviour, before she used to compliment me all the time and even used to tell me I should be a model. Now, it seems as though she picks on my appearance in subtle ways. When we’re sitting down next to each other she pokes at the small amount of fat on my stomach, and comments on the rolls on my jeans “because my legs are short.” She also talks about my face features constantly, saying my eyes are squinty. Her little jabs really hurt as she does them continuously, but I don’t know why she’s being mean as a best friend. It can’t be jealousy because we’re BOTH pretty.

[btbc92]

Jealousy is jealousy. Though her behavior coincides with either not being self-aware, or she is a fake friend. You also lack boundaries if this is something that is a pattern for you. You should be more than capable of standing up for yourself and telling her you don't appreciate her saying or doing stuff like that. At the same time, if you say nothing, people be if innocent or not, wouldn't know where you stand. Most people say nothing and expect everybody to be mindreaders. When in reality a lot of people cannot read what is happening to you. If you always keep quiet about it, then you silencing yourself. You may think you only doing it to "keep the peace". But this type of behavior and even bullying becomes worse.

However, only you know who this person is. If she is a bully, stop being friends with bullies. If you never asked of her opinion on your appearance or looks, simply tell her that respectfully. If she cannot honor it or fights with you, then you already know who you are "dealing" with. Sometimes it may not be insecurity or ignorance, but flat-out insecurity. And no matter if you think if your pretty, or not according to the standards of the world. At the end of the day, everybody has their own insecurities, on different levels, and expressed in different ways. Nobody should ever pick on you. Honesty is was different than bullying. If she is bullying you, stop being friends with bullies. Because I can tell you now, you've befriended a bully.

[Asker]

Thank you! Hmm, well I think she is aware because she’s identified them as my insecurities before. She literally said “I know you have insecurities” so she’s knows. I have said things before in response, I said “well that was rude/insulting” after her comments, and she just laughed and didn’t say anything. So I don’t know.

[btbc92]

That's a bully. No normal person behaves like that. Time to move on and not tolerate that kind of person. That means they are there to sabotage you and hinder you. Not uplift and being a friend.

[btbc92]

Stop befriending bullies that have no intention of loving or caring about you. She knows exactly what she is doing.

[lfiel475]

First of all, us sensitive people are going to save the world because we are in touch with our emotions. Secondly, if she's a real friend, she'll want to stop hurting you.

[Wise4myage]

She is not a best friend, and she needs to know how you feel.

[Iron_Man]

Put a stop to it and Don’t put up with that take a stand

[ChiPaPa]

End the friendship. Don't take any shit.