Should I have more kids?

[Anonymous]

Im 45 and have ibe daughter 14 who has autism and she said she doesn't want any kids. She cries though for friends. She has everything that goes along with autism and i work 60 hours a week average at my job. I always wanted more kids and to be a grandma do you think i need to give up on that dream for her. My mom died never had a dad so its just me and my husband. I did tey to have one few years ago and i miscarried

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+1 y

I go back and forth a lot on it.

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+1 y

I go back and forth on it like the should I shouldn't I think I want to however would that be to hard for my daughter in long run thing.

[Anonymous]

"Give up that dream for her"? - I don't understand. Give up what dream? Well 2 things that definitely don't work in your favor, 1) age 2) working 60 hours a week - doesn't sound like you've got the time. Plus I'm guessing your daughter needs what little time you have also with her issues? So personally I would give up that "dream" if you aren't changing any of your circumstances or lifestyle.

[Asker]

Thats true.

[boggboss]

Only u can decide somthing that important I personally would say no I don't think your daughter would respond well to it and u then already are putting pressure on your new child to have kids

[Asker]

Thats true.

[Anonymous]

Children are a blessing. It is okay to have additional children if you desire to be a grandmother. Grandmother's love their grandbabies. I think they love their grandbabies more than they did their own children. Good luck with your decision

[Asker]

Thanks

[Andres77]

No!!!
Have you looked outside lately?
Or EVER watched the news?

[Asker]

News outside? You mean the covid thing?

[Andres77]

Life!
It's crazy out there!
Crime rates at record levels in the history of the nation.
I would suggest AGAINST having any kids now.

[Asker]

True.

[Anonymous]

Eh, she is only 14; most women don't get the baby fever until their late 20s.

[Asker]

True. In other words i may be a grandma after al even if i dont have more kids lol.

[Opinion Owner]

Plus if she is in public school they are probably filling her head up with nonsense like the planet is overpopulated.

[Asker]

True lol

[Nidal_AA]

After 35 i think ots a risk

[Asker]

Ya not with ivf however more so with health issues yes..

[Asker]

Had my daughter at 30 though and she alreasy had health issues lol.

[Nidal_AA]

There is no constant rule... U could have all perfect conditions, be 25 and still end up with problems... Consult a doctor... And if its do-able then dont hesitate... Best of luck

[Asker]

Thanks true could have one more i spose even if they can't have any kids lol.

[Asker]

at least theyde be a friend.

[Nidal_AA]

Hahahha... I hope it all goes well and great

[rebeliouse]

go for it and enjoy all the sex trying :D

[Asker]

oh well would be ivf lol as i miscarried last natural one. So If i did though probably not much more the one I have is a handful.