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My dad was always the kind of cold, authoritative parent. He is a great dad, but he wasnât the emotional type, he was never physically affectionate with hugs, and he was never verbally affectionate either. Granted, he is in his late 60s now, so I think thatâs how his parents treated him as well. I love my dad, but he doesnât show his love in a way that children need. He is the type to show his love by doing acts of service or gift-giving. He always saved money to take me and my sister to the zoo every other weekend, or buy us toys, etc. But he failed to tell us he loved us or was proud of us. Even now as an adult, he still shows his love by either putting gas in my car early in the morning while I'm asleep or by doing my laundry when I'm out of the house on the weekend. It's greatly appreciated and I know he does these things to compensate for his lack of affection.
My mom was always warm, affectionate, but an authoritative parent. She is an amazing mom, and I love her. Growing up, I was difficult as hell, and I had a lot of issues because of early childhood adversity due to being neglected and adopted. My twin sister, oddly, wasnât like me, and was similar to my dad and was attached to him. I was attached to my mom, and I still am. She is literally my rock lol. She always went above and beyond for us, and she still does. The way I would describe her is: âThe stereotypical grandma who has a tendency to overfeed the family, and will âadoptâ people as their own.â That is literally how she is. Anyways, my mom was always closer to me because I required more attention and care, and I needed someone who was warm and affectionate. When I got a bit older, maybe 14, she was far more authoritative than my dad, which made me angry at her and pushed her away. But, she was still warm and affectionate towards me, always.
My father was in the military so he was extremely strict. When he got angry it was like being yelled at by a drill sergeant. My mother was very patient and loving, but sometimes too emotional.
Long story short I had virtually no friends growing up and lived inside of a strict bubble.
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Super sweet! Kind, loving, attentive.
More strict with me than my sisters because i was the "good" one.
Cuddles.. I was shown love by food. Lots of support and encouragement.!
Never found out who my father was.
Mother had me at age 15. She tried to be there for me best she could but there is only so much a 15 year old can do. However, before her deployment she was always sweet and loving. When I was 10 she joined the Army and was absent a lot in her first term (9/11 was pretty fresh and she joined in the early phases of the war).
After her deployment I lived with her on base during her 2nd term in service. Over time her drinking got worse and she was mean and abusive the few times she was around. When I was 18 I ran away from her and moved in with a friend to try to finish my senior year of high school, but my ex's stepdad caught up to me and got me kicked off base since mom was no longer in the service at this time. This forced me to move out of state and back with mom at a completely new school for the last 3 months of senior year of high school. This was during my mom's first year out of the military and her mental health and drinking were at their worst and when drunk she was even more abusive. Only when I told her I was joining the service myself did she actually make attempts to fix her mental health. This was all in 2012. I shipped to basic training when I was 19.
My childhood relationship with my mother was rough. However, I understand what she went through and she has improved her mental health a lot. Things are mostly good between us now.
They are. However, I can still tell the mental damage the military took on her. She is truly a complete hermit and her mental health prevents her from being able to work. Both the VA and SSA (I believe that is who it is) have deemed her unfit to ever work. She is deemed 100% totally and permanently disable and unemployable due to the mental damage from the military. This drives her even more crazy because she is the prideful type to try to work anyways. Our relationship itself is ok, but every time I am around her it hurts because I still harbor hope somewhere she will heal even though logically I know better
I think she plans to do that eventually.
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My father was kind and so forgiving. He made homework fun. Patient, calm, and buddy buddy, we would joke a lot.
My mother was strict and bad with words, but her love was expressed through actions. She was very protective, which was annoying, but her love was FIERCE <3
Distant, neglectful, and absorbed in their quarrels and fights.
My father remarried and pretended he had only his new family for a time.
My mother tried her best sometimes, but alcohol and other vices often strayed her into a dark path and took out the worst of her.
You would think being the baby of the family youd get a lot of attention but I probably got the least out of my brothers and sister. They mainly were chill with me but I think they probably wanted me to get in trouble because I hardly ever did. LoL
My dad was nonexistent, my mom is a complete narcissist that can't see the emotions in other people. Everything is always my fault.
They weren't around so i wouldn't know. But i was raised by my really over protective grand parents that made me rebellious
The same as they are now: Too old to understand I'm changing. No, no one is telling me to change my name for them, mom. It's my own damn decision.
My parents were pretty strict but for good reason. They always stressed school first and enjoy later. I was definitely a handful and more. They disciplined me a lot but I deserved it. I wouldn't change anything.
I was with my momma for a while and sometimes she would drop me off at peoples house I didn't know and sometimes my daddy's house which I barely know about but now I'm living with my grandma and step-grandad yeah it was hard.
I was the smallest of their kids so they were always over protective lol.
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They were good parents. They were not overly affectionate but they were supportive of me and I know they did their best.
my Dad has always been a good Dad and understanding my Mom was good and also did some messed up stuff. now and then i have bad feelings about it. I am getting better :)
Very warm and busy, made me feel like a spoiled brat honestly. I think I was their favorite child, but they always made it obvious to care for everyone.
Bad enough that I have ptsd and a bunch of other issues carried on from back then even now. Glad to be free of their drama as an adult.
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Thye were a mixed bag. Definitely a product of their circumstance and time. But I donât think they were terrible.
They were strict. Not in a bad way, but we didnât get away with much.
My parents were very strict on what I wanted to do but they did it for the best reason and I loved them for it too because I don't know what or where I would be if it wasn't for them
My parents have always been wonderful. I just wish my dad wasnât busy most of the time.
Mom was very dominant in my life and enjoyed control over me, I miss that
Neglectful, emotionally abusive and restrictive
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