Guys and girls, can you be just friends with someone attractive?

[Pinay_ako]

They tick all the boxes of your dream person… but they don’t feel the same for you. But they’re okay to be friends. Will you be their friend or not?

[SaidNobodyEver]

I think I’ve only been friends with people I find attractive in some way. If I wasn’t attracted to the even in a platonic way I don’t think I would’ve been interested enough to hang around. But if she’s the perfect one I think I’d be dissatisfied with being friends. Watching her date would be torture and unfair. I’d have to shoot my shot.

[Shadow_Monarch]

Since it already happened, my answer is yes

[NathanDavis]

first, I will answer your first question... yes, I can be friends with someone attractive, some of my best friends are very attractive girls

the "explanation" of that is very simple... my best friend is very attractive, but my girlfriend at the time was also attractive, so I was in love with an attractive girl while I was also friends with another attractive girl... so, while my friend was very attractive, I was NOT ATTRACTED to her in that sense not as much as I was attracted and IN LOVE with my also attractive girlfriend, lol

and now, I will answer your second question, which is quite different... and the answer to that would most likely be no... because we are speaking about someone that is not only attractive, but she also has A WHOLE LOT MORE going on for her and those are all things that I find to be a must for me, or a dream scenario... so I think that I would not be able to ignore that all the time and pretend to be okay with just being friends... I do not like to pretend and I never pretend so I guess that I just would keep my distance just because I would not be able to be a genuine friend and nor she nor I would deserve something like that

[alderoth]

I have been friends with super attractive people and people I wasn't interested in. Looks only matter, or go, so far. People can be attractive, but if they are a terrible human, I can't put that aside, and have sex with them. If I am friends with someone I like, usually I tell them when I get the nerve, and if they say "no thanks", I tell them "okay, that's cool. I'm glad we can still be friends," and I just admire them from afar. Love is a deep genuine feeling that has you caring for someone no matter what or who they do. That's just me though. Everyone is different. Take care and be safe!!

[normalice]

Sure. Though that's impossible as a path to seduction is a major component of what I find attractive. Sexy looking women are pleasant to be around and so make perfectly fine friends so long as they aren't full of themselves, but I'm not really into them unless there is an obvious way to... get in to them. And my powers of observarion are pretty dull in this regard so when i say "obvious" I pretty much mean they stick their ass in my face more than twice (first time could be an accident, second a joke, but after that it's likely they mean it). But it's rare to find anyone at all, hot or not, that isn't full of themselves, so...

[dynamicyandere]

I believe I could… But, I would need some distance. I wouldn’t want to be seeing them all the time or interacting with them too much—that could cause a lot emotional pain.


I would wish them well and be good to them. I would want them to be happy and hope for the best for them. I would be protective of them.


I would want to be there for them because I care. It would hurt to see them with someone else. But, I would push my feelings aside and be happy for them so long as they are being treated really well.


They would have to be extremely important to me for me to do this though. We would need to have ready established a very strong bond.

[dynamicyandere]

For them to “check all the boxes” they would need to be someone that I know on a deeper level. They would need to be a friend that I fall deeper in love with the more I get to know them. They would need to have the kind of beautiful soul that you just can’t forget. They would be very wholesome and kind and caring. Like a pure soul in a dark world. We’d probably have a sort of older brother younger sister type of dynamic.

[Prof_Don]

I could and I am right now.


Every female friend I have , has some major compatibility reason why we never dated.


Ex. doesn’t want kids, not emotionally attentive enough for my needs, not wanting marriage, age gap, religious differences, sexual incompatibility (ex. bisexual, swinger, etc.), family cultural incompatibility, etc.


People operate differently in a relationship dynamic than a friendship dynamic. So a straight guy that has female friends he thinks are cute, is feasible while staying faithful to his partner.

[whiskeyontherocks]

No
If I’m interested I’m all in or not at all and if she doesn’t feel the same I will not be able to just be friends. Associates or acquaintances yes. Probably put up bigger boundaries so I don’t get stuck doing good boyfriend shit on a just friends relationship.
I watched a close friend get friend zoned and he was completely used and manipulated. Every time he started to pull away she would lead him on I learned from his experiences that you have to put up strong boundaries after rejection otherwise it can get out of hand you might even get caught up in her boyfriend drama but have nothing to do with it.
My opinion just don’t

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Most definitely yes.

I am not stupid enough to hope for her to see romantically. If she does not, then she does not. And the chances of the opp. thing are pretty low.

So, for girlfriend, I would look somewhere else. But it she wants, I can be friends with her.
No point in wasting time with her in the hope. Better go somewhere else.

[hotwife98]

It would be difficult if in this scenario you had feelings for them that you couldn't get over.

Its immature to not accept something that you don't like, I think the average adult would be able to process that they aren't interested in you and you could transition your feelings from romantic to friends.

[Tinana]

Sure I’m friends with so many attractive people. I’m not interested in dating my friends. Plus I’m not sleeping with anyone just because they’re cute like what’s the point I don’t want a baby. It takes more than looks to attract me so I can definitely just be friends with an attractive guy

[reelteen]

Of course, you just have to maintain boundaries. My fiancee has flat out told me that I have some really pretty friends, but she isn't worried that I would cheat on her with them. They have been friends for a long time, and I never saw them as a potential partner.

[mermaidcancermoon]

Yes. Typically if I felt me and a guy werent compatible for a relationship, i would friend him. Looks aren't everything in a relationship. Someone can be an attractive dud and id never desire them outside of the friend zone.

I do not friend men that i want to date. Im not one for blurred lines.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Oh yeah, a lot of my friends are very attractive.

We're friends. Their looks don't matter to me as much as their personality and soul do.

And also, I don't know, maintaining platonic friendships is normal. Not everyone needs to be a romantic object.

[Faith18letsgo]

Yes, that being said I've had a crush on my best friend for at least 4 years. I told her but she's straight, we still cuddle, sleep in the same bed and make jokes about being together. It's the best kind of torture, so absolutely yes, but it will hurt.

[Ευδεμονια]

It’s really hard if I’m really attracted to that person, to the point I see her as a woman. I think I’d prefer to distance myself!
I had a friend that was very attractive to me and when I realised what I felt towards her, I had to distance myself from her for years, we lost contact. Now we’re friend again, since I contacted her, she’s always attractive but I don’t see her as a woman so it’s ok.

[WhitneySnow]

Attractive is different than your dream person. I could be friends with an attractive person if they didn’t like me that way. I don’t know if I could be friends with my dream person if they didn’t feel the same way about me. I hope I could but I’m just not sure.

[HighValue]

Most people can't. I can be friends with someone I find physically attractive if there is something that makes them updatable for me such as a bad past, doesn't want a compatible lifestyle, or if I am already taken then it would be easy because I would lose interest in them anyways.

[Zeus_66]

Of course you can. One of my closest friends, who is like a sister to me, is an absolutely beautiful woman. I find her looks very attractive, but I was never attracted to her physically. I can't explain it, but our chemistry is friendship, and it will always be just that. My wife has known her as long as I have. She is a former roommate of ours when we all lived together in our early 20s. Amazing times!

[Adronicus]

No, why should men set themselves up for being friends with someone they're sexually attracted to? Women love to use men like this as an emotional tampon / financial support. A man like that is stupid for giving his time / energy away for nothing in return other than being used. A man's power is in his ability to walk away / set boundaries. Not being friends with women I'm attracted to is one of my boundaries.

[anon1903]

Of course. No means no. Friend zone sucks, but what you gonna do about it? Force them. I know some "nice guys" who become less available as soon as you tell them you're not looking for a date and are single. That's manipulative. And they wonder why women won't date them.

[Wubs3000]

Yeah. I would say for friends who you are attracted too and like their personality, there will probably be a slight interest in them at least. That interest will stay until one of you rejects the other or you get together. (Or ofc one of you is already in a relationship)