Is my father a narcissist?

[Anonymous]

this is not something new to me or my mom but i need to share this on here. my father has been abusive towards my mom at least since i was born. not physically (but sometimes, yes) but psychologically. today we were having breakfast and i noticed my dad was mad, he didn't say a word to my mom or me; my mom asked him "are you okay? something happened?" and he only replied with "nah" or "i don't feel like talking". after breakfast he went to sleep again (or lay down on bed) and my
mom asked him if he was okay, and why did he suddenly went back to bed again. he literally yelled "leave me alone!! you are crazy!! i can't stand you and your daughter!!" " didn't feel good this morning, you are my wife, the minimum would be taking care of your husband!!" (literally NOTHING happened this
morning or yesterday or even last week). he dressed up to go for a walk, and continued to tell my mom "see what you did? this is what you wanted right?" and "open your eyes, you are so gullible, like always" so my mom said "open my eyes about what exactly?" (he ALWAYS says "open your eyes" to my mom every single time they argue) and dad said "nothing, you'll figure it out with the years". then he proceeded to leave the house, with a pack of cigarettes and nothing else. he came back like 30 minutes later, saying nothing to both of us. we ate, then again later he went to bed. when he came back my mom again
asked, "what happened before?" and he said "why do you care so much? huh?" (i was like, you said she should take care of you so she's taking care of you?) and then he said someone tried to steal his cigarettes and had a fight in the street. he told her that like 5 hours later that supposedly happened. is
this normal? i feel like he is a narcissist and needs mental help. any suggestions?

[HollyK21]

There is narcissism happening but overall I think he’s just turned into a bitter, jerk of a man who takes your mom for granted. The way he speaks to her is absolutely ridiculous, but it doesn’t sound like your mom stands up for herself and instead will try the “what’s wrong, are you okay” route. It’s a toxic situation and your mom deserves better, but often times older women stay in those marriages for many factors, like the idea of growing old alone, feeling like she won’t find someone at her age, maybe used to the partnership of a marriage and having that financial support, and the fact that she’s loved him all these years. You could suggest some sort of therapy but if he doesn’t see an issue with his mannerisms then he’d likely reject the idea of professional help and keep mistreating your mom.

[Anonymous]

is that even your dad

did your mom cheat

[Asker]

yeah that’s my dad and no my mother never cheated. she doesn’t even have a mobile phone

[Opinion Owner]

your dad sounds insane