Should my boyfriend go to counseling?

[Anonymous]

So I asked him would he move out but he's talking about fixing his credit. I told him he should probably move away from his dad. His dad was abusive to him as a kid and he moved in with him after highschool because his grandparents were strict. So his dad doesn't really care what he does. My boyfriend gets mad at what his dad says to him and sometimes it's easily. I don't think it's good to stay there with his dad especially at a place that brings back bad memories. My boyfriend claims he doesn't need it even though I see him get mad and he let's what his dad or others affect his mood all day. Even my mom agreed that he should. It's like he's trying to prove something to his dad. I can't force him bit I feel it'll help. What do you think?

[SteveSmith1985]

Yes, he should definitely go to counselling. He has exactly the sorts of struggles that counselling is meant to help sort-out (processing past trauma, analyzing your feelings about your current circumstances, looking at the best ways to move forward and whatever mental impediments there might be to doing so).

There is no question that this guy would benefit from counselling. The problem is... that he has to be willing. HE has to be brought around to AGREEING that counselling is worth a shot, otherwise it won't work.

That's a tough spot to be in.

[Asker]

I agree, I wish he'd go

[SteveSmith1985]

The only thing I can suggest is to try and frame it as something you need him to do for the sake of your relationship.

[Anonymous]

Therapist is like talking to a brick wall you sit there therapist doesn’t say anything may ask a question every now and again but therapist don’t Have meaningful conversations with there patients which is why I’d your Boyfriend wants therapy he should just talk to a brick wall It’s the Same thing only difference is A brick wall is inanimate object and a person is alive therapy doesn’t heal people have spent 10 years in therapy and are still not healed they Take bunch of Pills do therapy waste there life on The crap that causes the problems.

[Asker]

Yeah some therapists can be the worst but I feel talking to someone would help

[Subarugirl]

Then you have had some shit therapists…. And why it’s so important to pick one that fits your needs

[Opinion Owner]

If I wanted to talk to someone all I gotta do is leave the house and Go to the store and have a conversation with someone

[Subarugirl]

And that mentality right there is a big part of the reason that there is a massive mens mental health crisis right now..

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t believe that
There is no Mens mental health Crisis right now
Men just are more logical more reasonable better at Controlling our emotions that’s why we as men don’t need therapy

[Opinion Owner]

Therapy is a Myth it doesn’t do anything for us because we don’t have any problems to work through

[Opinion Owner]

As men

[Asker]

Lol not my boyfriend

[Subarugirl]

The professionals would disagree, but thanks for proving my point.

www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7343362/

[Opinion Owner]

It’s a Fact that emotions is a sign of weakness show emotion In a Fight you could get badly destroyed Show no emotion no Fear as a dude you can destroy that person people prey on emotions That’s why I don’t care for emotions

[Opinion Owner]

One of the reasons there’s other reasons I won’t go into

[Subarugirl]

And that’s why men commit suicide at 2x the rate to women…. Because anger is the only emotion they know how to express and suppress the rest because they don’t know how to process them or deal with them in a healthy way.

[Opinion Owner]

I will say it’s just not Logical to experience emotions doesn’t make any sense a waste of time and energy I feel no shame no Guilt so your Article is Not true in my case

[Opinion Owner]

As men we know how to Put our feelings aside and focus on other things so we Don’t feel the emotions and it helps us it’s beneficial to our mental health

[Subarugirl]

If you don’t feel shame or guilt then you’re a psychopath and that is a mental disorder…. A mental health disorder. You should see someone about that

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t feel shame or guilt I just ain’t tripping out over something I did if I Killed someone I wouldn’t feel bad about it

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn’t ever wanna Kill a someone it would really suck to have to Kill someone but If I had too because the other person tries to Kill me then I wouldn’t feel bad about it but if I could I wouldn’t Kill the person even if they try to kill me if I can Hurt them enough Very Quickly To put an end to there Attempt to try to kill me then I would but I’d have to act Quickly

[Subarugirl]

thats called being a psychopath and that is a mental disorder

[Opinion Owner]

Being a psychopath isn’t a bad thing Not sure what your complaining about.
My Brain just Looks cooler than yours and I cannot Experience emotional pain which makes me Better than reg people! 😁

[Subarugirl]

Talking care of your mental health is just as important as taking care of your physical health. Everyone should receive counseling at one point or another in their lives

[Asker]

I feel so too