In Certain Cases, Is it Possible to Be Friends with Your EX?

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****Any Thoughts on The Subject? xx

FunkyMonkee · Accepted Answer

I've had no problem with it, most of the time. It's them that have had the trouble staying friends with me. Sally broke my heart but, I stayed friends with her afterwards. Last time I saw her 20 years after we fucked, we practically fucked again on the street a we were saying goodbye to each other.

Even though Carol went back to her ex-hubby who refused to let her have any contact with me, we stayed in touch for most the next 4 decades and, after he died abut 8 years ago, she decided she wanted to be my girlfriend again! A few months later, she got pissed at me over money (about 58 cents she wanted to cat food to feed a stray cat and all the money I had in the world was the loose change in my pocket that I found at the drive through windows at the mall the night before!! No way in HELL am I giving up MY last dime to feed a fucking stray cat! Other than to say nasty shit to me, she hasn't spoken to me in 3 years! I even sent her b-day card last year and never got ANY response from it!!

Not only did Anu lie to me, steal from me and cheat on me but, a few years after I broke up with her, she accused me of trying to fuck her niece just because I told her she was really pretty!! I've always considered her to be MY niece, too! Then there's the fact that she was at least 30 years younger than me!! So, that one, I DON'T want back and WON'T TAKE back!! It's bad enough I can't even trust her!!

pizzalovershouse · Accepted Answer

Yes if you get a devorce you have to learn to get along if you have kids that is what a friend of mine did

White_Widow · Accepted Answer

It can and sometimes it can be hard but it's doable. I've stayed friends with most of my exes. Some of them are in my close friends group. I don't talk to them on a daily basis or anything. But a few times a year we all come together to catch up and everyone moved on with their lives. My ex husband I do speak on a regular basis but that's because of our son. On the other hand, I wouldn't call my ex husband my friend though lol.

SphynxUK · Accepted Answer

I am still friends with my ex, a year after we split. I’m also on good terms with my ex husband, 7 years after we split.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

It may be possible, in some limited cases, and it's a great idea if you have children together. Otherwise, you need to ask yourself why you REALLY want to stay in contact with this ex, and what impact will this have on future potential partners.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I was friends with an ex for years. We had a dog together and it was fun taking care of the dog even though we were not dating any longer. And to be honest, I really didn't like dating her when I was dating her. If it was a situation where I was really in love it would have been difficult remaining friends.

belle_kai · Answer

I used to think though but there's no point unless you have kids together better to part ways and heal and move on separately otherwise if they're kids involved then keep everything to the kids, maybe eventually as time goes on and you get over them you can become friends. I would always always be civil infront of my children

xJeremyx · Answer

Its definitely possible. I am still extremely close friends with my ex, and she already has a new boyfriend.

We still value each other as trustworthy friends and can rely on each other when needed.

Of course, we broke it off amicably, thanks to my parents objecting to us having a relationship at 16/17, and we also saw that we needed time to grow and mature.

I still do check in on her from time to time to make sure she's doing good.

macjets007 · Answer

No, don't try it! You both will get feelings, or 1 of you and then you'll want to hangout again. Then the ruminating about "are they with someone right now", "am I texting her while she's fucking some dude" kind of thoughts begin to creep in.

Then you both likely want to hangout again, and it seems great. The most likely scenario is you hangout again and it's the same old thing after the 1st few times back together is great but leads to the same issues that were not resolved. 2nd scenario is only 1 person wants to hangout and the other is moving on... if that's the case it is super hurtful.. again! 3rd scenario is you try to be platonic friends with them but it is subconciously just leaving open a little window of hope you two can work things out.

The only way it can work is if you have found a new significant other; that will work!

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

I'm friends with 2 of my exes. 1 of which we just stayed friends when we realized we really had no romantic feelings for each other. And the other we started as friends, tried dating, wasn't working, stayed friends

itsmegrave · Answer

There are some situations where one can still maintain a friendship with their ex-spouse. But if they don't see eye to eye then it's probably best to end things amicably rather than try to keep a relationship going when you know that it won't work out.

Twalli · Answer

My sister is friend with her ex who is either bisexual or was in the closet homosexual when they were dating. My sister was his first relationship, so it's possible. She's friendly with him and cordial with his husband despite the fact she hasn't met the latter. She also thinks his husband is hotter than him. She dated him all throughout his college years (she spent 8 years due to health reasons).

Alex8736 · Answer

Sometimes things just don't work out and 2 people have rational thinking it's very possible but if a relationship ends due to constant cheating then those are the ones where you would cut all contact because if and when your ex gets kicked to the curb they will try contacting you saying "I made a mistake"

ohsheeT · Answer

I think it depends on how the breakup happened if it was out of control things that were said but yes you can become friends with anybody so your choice but those people have to be a part of that choice and want it to work

AviatorTom · Answer

After an amicable divorce, it's possible to be friends. After our divorce after 20-years of marriage, my ex invited me to a picnic, and we've had a few family outings since then. It does help that we have children.

FreyaRed · Answer

Maybe, I've never tried. It's better to keep distance, there are plenty of other people who deserve a chance and didn't disappoint me like my exes.

Red-Blaze · Answer

Some can end up an ex as of a miss fit of both sides, it can end without garm or real pain and sure then it can happen, as you got togeder you got something even if in the end its not that close

NathanDavis · Answer

yes Paris... I have been very good friends with two of my ex-girlfriends, and for at least 16 and 12 years... zero drama and no problems at all

menina · Answer

Yes, I think it is. I would say it depends on people's personalities and how/why the relationship ended.

Avicenna · Answer

Sure. I'm good friends with one of mine (granted we parted amicably and she is a really nice person with a great heart).

Nigjt · Answer

Yes for myself it is possible as long as she's willing to I don't know of any of my ex's that I still wouldn't want to FUCK or have sex with in some kind of way so most of them we still do. God. Bless

Apulu_Imback · Answer

From my opinion yes Miss Paris, only in the condition where break up was due to simple reason like loosing feelings, long distance, etc. But I don't think it's possible in cases of cheating or any such serious issues.

BoobMan · Answer

It absolutely is Par! But only if you're banging a much hotter chick! (For a guy anyway.) I'm sure something similar applies for girls.

PeteBy · Answer

Logically you'd think yeah. I mean you were drawn to each other.

Hate some of my exes with a passion though. Women can be vindictive.

Of course I retaliate and they don't expect that but that's another story.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Absolutely not. I tried being friends with my ex who cheated on me. It hurt because all she could ever talk about was him and how perfect he was.

Jennz6 · Answer

Yes of course, especially if you have children together.

exitseven · Answer

It might be. I never have done this but now that I am older I can see how it might be okay.

Iron_Man · Answer

Once you’ve dated that’s extremely difficult but if you’ve always been friends from the beginning then that’s different

Likes2drive · Answer

Yeah, I still talk to my ex , she doesn’t give me a hard time anymore, it’s usually about our kids but other topics come up

DancingQueen16 · Answer

Sure because last month my boyfriend texted me and told me that he'd rather just have me as his best friend than his girlfriend because before he told me he liked me we were best friends from 6th grade to 12th grade

Massageman · Answer

Well, we exchange Christmas cards with two ex-GFs of mine. So, yes.

CaptainLegal · Answer

Yeah sometimes, depends on why you broke up though.

TroyDT · Answer

Easily. If you get along but the romance just does not click, why not keep the friendship?

Guardian45 · Answer

I've usually been friends with my Exes; two of them for more than 20 years.

Anonymous · Answer

You're not friends. You'll never be friends. You'll be in love 'til it kills you both. You'll fight, and you'll shag, and you'll hate each other until it makes you quiver, but you'll never be friends. Love isn't brains, children, it's blood -- blood screaming inside you to work its will. I may be love's bitch, but at least I'm man enough to admit it.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Nope cause how can you move forward if you hold on to the past and how is that fair to the new person in your life

msc545 · Answer

Depending on how much time has passed and how bad the breakup was maybe

Aerolyn · Answer

I think it's possible, but it takes two real deal mentally healthy and down to earth people who didn't break up on bad terms to make it happen.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm still friends with most of my exes... And they all live in Texas so I hang my hat in... Oklahoma...

Still, though, I'm friends with all but 2 of my exes... Some are distant, some are people I talk to daily, some are still FWBs

CubaPirate · Answer

Depends on the circumstances of the break up

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Yeah, I think it's possible, because not all breakups happen on bad terms.

RealMarek · Answer

It” don’t know about other cases, but it’s not possible to be friends with my ex.

douride2 · Answer

It could be possible. I'm not friends with any of my exes though.

EaterPeter · Answer

It's smart for parents if they have kid/s together

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Yes, not every breakup has to be nasty.

Mediterraneansoul · Answer

Depends how much you ruined their life as result of your emotional outburst

AsaKyo · Answer

I wouldn't recommend it

boobliker · Answer

a bit of time must pass in most cases

bubblegunnn · Answer

Ofc! I still be friends with my ex tho

mandyfire98 · Answer

I'm best friends with my ex

krin_m · Answer

Yes, absolutely!

Anonymous · Answer

Sure, if children are involved.

humanearth · Answer

Sometimes

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Only in Cobra Kai. TCHF

Papabubbles · Answer

I have to be because of my son.

jimmy2 · Answer

I doubt it

nawtee_me · Answer

yes it is...

nickaboy · Answer

No, never

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