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Should I ask this friend why the other friends are behaving so anti social?

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One week ago I went to some bar-restaurant with 4 lady friends, we were classmates from high school long time ago. We dont hang too much or too often due to the fact that all of them (except me) are married with kids (alreayd grown up) so their social time is limited in some way but if a gathering is arranged with time, they can manage to make a little time to socialize and see each other, that is the reason we dont hang out so often. All the gatherings we went out together in the past I am the only one who had set it up and organize, neitehr one of them had done it in the past beacuse they say they dont have time to set up anything up even if it just to say lets meet here, this date place and time. Last week a gathering not all friends attended even if 3 of them assure me they were coming , they never went.

In the past wew were like 8 ladies and like in 4 times we had gone out to the house of one of those ladies who had welcomed us into their house to mingle, we even know this friend husband already. We were some kind of lets say close group as the same ldies always hang out. But during the pandemic things changed and I did not see a reason why. During pandemic we made one virtual meeting and we all agree to see each other after the crisis passed. The crisis passed and one more time I started to organize a gathering again like old times,, so this year around March I texted and gave them the idea to meet up again, all of the 8 ladies agree and said "Sure lets organize something only let me know when and where" (As Im always the one with the initiative to organize something if it is not for me we dont even see each other).

At the end nothing took place, the friends stopped texting, seem like they lost interest, so I stopped saying anything. In May of this year through a FB photo I found out some of the friends from this chat grpup went to a Birthday party of anotehr lady friend we all know but but the bday lady did not invite me or even others.

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Then the weeks later and there was

anotehr gathering from antoehrh lady we all know and the same 3 ladies who attended the last bday went to this one again but not invited the others eitehr. It seems some of those 3 ladies who belong in our text group may be mad or upset to us for an unknown reason that simply if I do the invite they dont attend if anotehr lad friend (we all know) and were kind of close int he past) do the invite they do attend but me and oither ladies are not present.
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To my last week invitation I invite all the ladies from the text group and all of them thanked me but did not confirm me if they were going but I did my part and say well if they can just stop by, just one out of those 3 ladies in particular attended last week, the other 2 assure me they were going but at the end they never did.
Yesterday all of these 3 ladies went to anotehr gathering with another lady we all know including the 2 who confirmed me they will stop by to mine but never went.
Should I ask this friend why the other friends are behaving so anti social?
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