It's understandable that you may have mixed emotions about your dad starting to date again after your mom passed away. It's important to remember that everyone grieves differently and there is no set timeline for when someone should start dating after the loss of a spouse.
While it may feel difficult to accept at first, it's important to try to support your dad in his decision to start dating again if it's something that he wants to do. It's important to remember that your dad is his own person, with his own wants and needs, and it's okay for him to explore new relationships if that's what he feels is right for him.
It's also important to communicate openly and honestly with your dad about your feelings and concerns, while also respecting his choices and autonomy. You may want to consider seeking support from friends or a therapist to help you work through your own feelings about your mom's passing and your dad's decision to start dating again.
Remember, everyone's grief journey is unique and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. It's important to prioritize your own emotional wellbeing and to support your loved ones in their own journeys towards healing and moving forward.
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It goes both ways. We all deal with grief differently. I remember my mother getting rid of most of mad dad's stuff after he passed away which really angered me. But she was just trying to keep busy. She has saved a few of his things and kind of venerated it now. And I know she'll never re-marry. It's just how she dealt with that grief. It eventually hit her like a tin of bricks later.
I don't know how long your parents were married. But after a while it becomes part of you. It's like you're institutionalized. And to lose your partner is like having a piece of you amputated. It's understandable for you to not like it on some level. But know a new woman coming into your dad's life CANNOT erase the memory of your mom or the love that those two shared.
I to am going threw this my mom passed away much of last year 7 months late on my dad was on all these dating sites and showing me all these girls with their boobs hanging out and everything else hanging out like I really want to see that I didn't say nothing because I know I know that you're supposed to move on and let go but I have a I have a hard time with it being so soon they were married for 34 years I mean how do you just I know you're right about some people can't just can't be alone and you're right about that I get that I do but I mean I don't know I guess there's good in this bad to it I'm sorry that you have to feel those feelings I'm here for you if you ever want to talk going through the same thing my friend anything you need I'll always be here to listen as I have no one to listen to me in that department I have a lot of things going on in my life if I was to ask questions I would be on this all day LOL I hope you you find some sense of peace with what's going on like I said your story sounds like my story if you ever need to just talk I'm always here to listen I'll give you my number privately if you'd like
I know how you feel. My grandad passed a year ago and my grandma has already moved on and I felt exactly how you mentioned.
I mean she's 78 and the relationship isn't serious I think it's just someone to do nice things with. I don't have the best relationship with my grandmother and I know she's a massive gold digger and surprise, surprise her new boyfriend is even richer then my grandad was. He seems like a sweet man yet I haven't met him yet but my gran likes a man she can push around.
It doesn't help now she's got a new man she's throwing all my grandads stuff out and referring to it as junk. I just feel hurt on his behalf
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I know what you're trying to say and how you feel but you need to understand that him dating others after your mum passed away doesn't mean he's trying to replace your mum with some woman. Not every person can be strong enough to cope with the loss and continue to live the life at an old age with no companion. He's probably feeling very lonely and maybe he's trying to distract himself from having constant thoughts about your mother that's making him weak and hopeless. He's trying to move on and give life another try. I think after a year of dealing with grief, you shouldn't judge him or hold against him for wanting to find a partner.
Im sorry for your moms passing. I truly am. But if i was married, I don't know if i’d even wait a year to date again. Youve been married so long you start to miss flirting. I don't know ig it would depend on if i had kids to give my attention to instead
unfortunately life goes on without your mother...1 year is normal... maybe not your liking because she was your mother... and having a dead parent is numbing... my father has passed and my mother never dated but she has a lot of medical issues... it's never easy... but it's normal to date 1 year after passing if you want my 2 cents.
Its a good thing probably that he is out there trying to continue living life.
Some people cannot cope with being single, they need romance just like we need sleep or rest.
Absolutely normal. It's selfish of you to expect him to be lonely. Bro, you're 45. Not a teenager.
Sounds like that love was in for real. Think about it, could you ever replace your mother? How about your father?
It is more common in older men that can't function without the help of a woman. Give him a break. He needed your Mom and now he needs help.
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