How can I get my brother to stop acting like a perv?

[Pink2000]

My brother moved back home after being gone 6 years for for his job. Since being back, he keeps asking me really personal questions. He asked me if I was virgin and if not how many people have I slept with. Then he asked if I had my coochie pierced after he saw my belly button piercing. It’s weird af to me and it makes me uncomfortable. He’s 37 years old and I’m 22. We have a big age difference. I told him he’s weird for asking me that and he doesn’t understand how. He’s always made comments about my body growing up. He would point out my wide hips and my big butt but I thought he was just being an annoying brother.

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I forgot to mention that my grandmother, mother, and aunt were all sitting right there when he made these remarks. So I really don’t know who to turn to cause that’s all the family I got…

[razelove]

Maybe be straight up and tell him real life isn't like the wincest porno. I get that a lot of women who are taken advantage of have that happen from a family member, but can't think of many adults that would get into a consensual sexual relationship with their family.

It's crazy that you'd need to explain that to a grown ass man, well, kind of. From the moving back home part I'm assuming all of y'all are living with your folks?

Maybe make it a goal to get out of there, because it doesn't seem like he will.

[Pink2000]

My dad passed away last month so we’ve been staying with my mother. He stays with her more than I do because I really don’t like being around him much. I have an apartment.

[razelove]

Ahh, so that's more of a temporary measure until your mom gets back on her feet? That's rough, I don't know how I would be if I lost my wife, nor do I know how she would be if something happened to me. Regardless of today, or 20 years from now.
Though that does make his actions 10x more disgusting... It isn't game of thrones, dad's gone, so have a kid who has an uncle, aunty, mommy, daddy relationship with his parents *shudder* the family spiderweb rather than tree.

[lightbulb27]

He's way out of line. Maybe he doesn't understand, guys can be dunce. We just had to talk to our yong boy about saying innappropriate things and he didn't understand. Boys are idiots.

that said, they need to learn. Explain it to him as matter of fact.

[Justmeagain1]

I find it inappropriate. Regardless of who it is that makes them remarks - that’s your business etc. hold him accountable for his actions - draw some boundaries somehow, if not you can gain help and assistance with this by searching up setting and maintaining boundaries with family members that utilise sexual innuendos.

[elizamichale1]

Well its not really his business what u do or have done specially when u r not comfortable with it...

My brothers used to pass n even now say a lot of stuff but i am okay with it n even i comment back on their stuff

[MementoMori777]

Sounds more than just being annoying, tell him to stop being so perverted that he shouldn't be thinking or speaking to his sister that way, the more you let him, the more he will do it, homie weird af smh

[Anonymous]

Sounds a bit like he's just teasing but there's probably some sexual intrest on his part.

It's no real big deal to be honest. You may as well let him jerk off to you in the shower or over your boobs, give him handjobs or blowjobs to get something in return such as money, to use his car or a rude somewhere. Or whatever. Guys don't think with their brains.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Tell an older relative what he is doing and get someone who will listen to you.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@Pink2000 What he is doing is wrong and worst come to worst file a police report with the police at the local magistrate on grounds of sexual harassment now once he receives a summons issued they will give him a chance to plea guilty and if he does, he will just pay a fine but if he refuses than his ass will goes to court. And go to 6 months to jail

[Yesdarlingmoon]

you're either trolling or he is just sick in the head, stay away from him; blood don't mean shit.

[Pink2000]

I’m so serious.

[Yesdarlingmoon]

stay away

[sage2021]

@Yesdarlingmoon
Please stop falsely accusing or insinuating to other members that they are trolling! There is too much of that here.
Check out the person's profile before you accuse someone of being a troll. What are you? GaGs troll police? Stop it!

[Pink2000]

@sage2021 Thankyou !!!

[OlderAndWiser]

You didn't mention your parents. Are they in the home? Maybe the threat of talking to them will make your brother stop.

[Msputiton]

I know you told him he is weird for saying it, but maybe sit him down and explain how uncomfortable it makes you.

[Red_Arrow]

Tell him it is none of his business and nothing more!!

[Red_Arrow]

After telling him it is none of his business, look to your mother, aunt, and grandmother and say, "isn't that right?"

[bananathunder]

would be a little more "normal" if he was just a horny teen but that is pretty creepy with him being that much older than you and you both being adults

[the_sinner]

Try being more harsh on him. He needs to get a jolt in order to stop. If he still tries to get back at you just to satisfy his ego the you gotta contact the higher authorities ASAP.

[AsaKyo]

Give him a piece of your mind because that's just gross

[Andres77]

Slap him in front of everyone else and tell him to stop being a pervert

[Bklynbadboy12]

Wait this is your biological brother? And why do you tell your father to talk to him

[Pink2000]

My father died last month. And yes my biological brother.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Damn I'm sooooo sorry I didn't know 😔

[Masumgunahkar]

This is ridiculous, give aggressive answers and never dare to ask such questions again bro.

[Agape93]

Umm... what the fuck

I'm going to dm you.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

That's some extremely weird ish. Be serious and tell him to quit with his BS.

[EaterPeter]

Turn to mom first. Say it out loud that it feels really uncomfortable. Mom I need you to intervene.

[EaterPeter]

Share with someone who makes him very uncomfortable about it.

[EaterPeter]

Nun ya. Get the f out of my privates.

[DizzyDesii]

Damn you hate to see it… tell your mom

[Pink2000]

She was sitting right there when he asked me that. She’s no help.

[DizzyDesii]

I’d distance myself from him completely and tell him dont come around me. I had some cousins who did this and they say shit like “it ain't like we first cousins”… umm our grandparents is siblings, get tf away from me with that

[Pink2000]

That’s so gross. What’s wrong with folks.

[OddBeMe]

Jesus Christ. Tell your parents he’s a deviant and if they don’t kick him out fck them all.

I know housing is tough but 22 is a bit old to be living at home anyway.

[Pink2000]

I don’t live at home. My dad died last month. He moved back in to be with my mom and I’m coming home more to be with her as well. I got my own place.

[OddBeMe]

Oh my bad. But even worse he’s doing this shit as you guys are grieving. Your mom needs to step up and set him straight or he’s on a path to the sex registry.

[Pink2000]

22 is still young. All of my friends still live with their parents. We’re also all students.

[OddBeMe]

Yes I know. And I’m getting old. The housing and job market sucks and college tuition is a third higher than when I went to school.

But I guess I see a lot of questions here about “how can I get my parents to let me have sex in my room?” And they’re 25. Lol

[OddBeMe]

But seriously your brother has a deviancy and probably a porn addiction. It’s the worst time for your mother but she’s got to take action.

[nawtee_me]

He still is being an annoying brother...

[Anonymous]

so you gonna fuck your brother?