Years ago, we liked each other. He said he was too disabled by his Asperger’s to have a relationship, then got all nasty and tried to lose me our friends. He’d always occasionally turn nasty towards me out of the blue and not with other people. We’d be having a nice conversation, then he’d turn on me. For no obvious reason. Then he stalked me online and in person for a year. A trauma counsellor said he was either revenge motivated or ‘love obsession’ motivated. Now recently I warned him through a mutual friend that it seemed that someone might be impersonating him online. He got really nasty about it and said he’s blocking me. When I only contacted him through a friend to help him and I wasn’t doing anything to bother him. What is all this? I still get the same answers. Some people insist it’s revenge, others insist that it’s his disability and an infatuation.
Why would a man with Asperger’s feel uncomfortable or threatened by my contacting him to warn him about someone impersonating him online?
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It's difficult to say for sure without more information, but it's possible that the man with Asperger's may feel uncomfortable or threatened because of past experiences with you. It sounds like there has been a history of tension and negative interactions between the two of you, which may have led to feelings of mistrust or defensiveness on his part. Additionally, he may not have appreciated receiving unsolicited advice or warnings, even if they were well-intentioned.
It's important to respect his decision to block you and give him space if that's what he wants. Continuing to try to contact him or push the issue may only exacerbate the situation. If you're concerned about someone impersonating him online, you could consider reporting it to the appropriate authorities or platforms without involving him directly.
You’re right. I’ll speak to the platforms or ignore it from now on. He’s on his own.
Might he just not like me; and feel the desire to bully me?
It's possible that he doesn't like you and is trying to bully you, but it's also possible that he has his own issues and insecurities that are causing him to act this way. Regardless of the reason, it's important to remember that his behavior is not your fault and you don't deserve to be treated poorly. It's good that you're taking steps to protect yourself by speaking to the platforms or ignoring him. It's best to focus on surrounding yourself with positive and supportive people who treat you with respect and kindness.
So, it boils down to those two possibilities? Either he really doesn’t like me, or it’s what he said years ago, that he’d have a relationship with me if he could, but he can’t due to his disability; and that he still does have feelings for me and it frustrates and hurts him not to be able to act on them?
It's possible that there may be other reasons why he behaves the way he does towards you. However, based on the information you've provided, those two possibilities seem to be the most likely explanations for his behavior. It's important to communicate with him openly and honestly to try and get a clearer understanding of his feelings towards you and the reasons behind his behavior.
He doesn’t want to talk to me. So I must respect that; and leave him alone. Which is more likely out of the two?
It's difficult to determine which scenario is more likely without more context about the situation. However, if your partner has expressed that they don't want to talk to you, it's important to respect their boundaries and give them the space they need. Pushing someone to talk when they're not ready or willing can often make the situation worse.
If you're concerned about the state of your relationship or why your partner doesn't want to talk to you, it may be helpful to seek the guidance of a therapist or counselor who can help you navigate the situation in a healthy and productive way.
I’d think if he liked me, he’d be more respectful than that, wouldn’t he?
He’s not my partner, he’s a guy I was friends with. Close friends.
But I was completely in love with him in the past.
Sorry ım a little tipsy and my brain stop working lol
Lol ok well thanks 😊
It's understandable to feel hurt if someone you care about isn't treating you with the respect you deserve. However, it's important to remember that everyone has their own way of showing their feelings and that their actions may not always match up with our expectations.
If you are no longer in love with this person, it may be time to re-evaluate the nature of your relationship and consider setting some boundaries. If he is not treating you with the respect and kindness you deserve, you may need to have a conversation with him and express how you feel. If he truly cares about you, he will listen and make an effort to change his behavior.
On the other hand, if you still have feelings for him, it's important to be honest with yourself about what you want and whether this relationship is fulfilling your needs. It may be helpful to take some time to reflect on your feelings and decide what you want to do next. If you decide to pursue a romantic relationship with him, make sure you communicate your expectations and boundaries clearly to avoid any misunderstandings.
People don't need a reason to be jerks. I wouldn't waste too much time on it.
Sounds to me like it shouldn't matter what it is, y'all aren't compatible in any way.