My best friend of 18 years completely ghosted me and I don’t know what to do about it?

[Anonymous]

My best friend is a guy and he started dating his boyfriend 2 years ago. Me, him, and his boyfriend were always very close and we would hang out and do things together. I recently divorced and I felt like he wasn’t really there for me. Which hurt a lot. He never liked my ex anyways but figured he would be supportive and comforting and he was not. Since I was going through a lot there were times I just wanted to talk to him…not his boyfriend. I’m friends with him too but sometimes I just wanted to talk to my bestfriend. There were never times when it could just be me and him. His boyfriend always had to come along or was in the background on the phone giving his 2 cents. It started to really get on my nerves so I said to my friend that I missed just being able to hang out with HIM or talk to HIM. I told him how I really truly like his boyfriend and I’m glad we are friends but I missed my bestfriend. They are attached to each others hip. They live together and even work in the same building so they are together almost 24/7. I didn’t think it was unreasonable to want to spend some time with my friend that I never get to see. Well my best friend literally just quit talking to me. I would try to reach out and he wouldn’t even respond to me. Never even told me happy birthday. I don't know what to do? We have been best friends for 18 years and barely had a fight and now he has a boyfriend and forgets all about me.

[Iron_Man]

Talk to him in person and talk to him about your true feelings of your friendship

[Asker]

I’ve tried

[Iron_Man]

What is it recently? You have to get the guy alone one on one

[Iron_Man]

And what kind of a friend wouldn’t work out a problem and explain to you

[Asker]

That’s what’s confusing about it. I don’t understand why he won’t talk about it so we could just work it out. I can’t even get him alone to talk to him because him and his boyfriend are so far up each others asses it’s ridiculous.

[Iron_Man]

Do they have the exact same days off? You’re just gonna have to go knock on his door when you think he’s alone that’s a lot of immaturity going on, especially after 18 years of knowing somebody.

[Iron_Man]

How long has this been going on?

[Asker]

They literally do work the same exact days. Monday through Friday and hours are off by a little. One starts at 8 the other starts at 830 so they ride in together every day. This has been going on since the very beginning. So over 2 years. At first I didn’t think anything of it but once I started to get annoyed that I could never just see my friend without his boyfriend being there that’s when I said something and that’s when he ghosted me. Funny thing is I don’t even know we’re he lives. They moved in together and I got them a house warming gift and they never invited me over.

[Iron_Man]

Just go to his house and ask him. Can we talk outside or something and sit down

[Iron_Man]

Thanks for most helpful award

[Anonymous]

For him you're not his priority...
Priority change sweetheart

[Asker]

Obviously but just because you’re dating someone doesn’t mean you completely forget about your friends.

[Opinion Owner]

I agreed but you have to also understand that he also have private life..

Are you ok?

[Asker]

And that’s fine. I understand everyone has a private life but 24/7 365 you gotta spend it with your significant other? And just forget about your friends? Weird

[In_Trance]

Where is your SO in all of this?

[Asker]

No clue. We divorced.