Girls, girl/girlfriend says has feelings for me but wants to know more about me and the feelings to say yes?

[Anonymous]

girl who is a very good close friend (both been through life stuff) who i have known for 2 years says has some feelings for me but wants to investigate her feelings and also know more about me before saying yes. Has turned down someone else too for me but...

whats this? she does have childhood issues and parental issues and stuff. is this a trusting me thing? she says she has feelings and knows me quite well so why the investigation as to how i am?

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6 mo

also asks friends those around me as to how i am? does she not trust me? is this a trust thing?

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6 mo

i have loved her for a long time and she knows that, but I don't know, trust issues i guess.

[Bethany22]

Yes, sounds like a trust issue. She's obviously doing what she thinks she can to try and convince herself that it's okay to trust her feelings and be with you. Did you not show interest in her before? Maybe she doesn't understand how you could go from not pursuing her at all for two years, and now you're suddenly interested in her. She's worried your feelings won't last long.

[Asker]

i did she knows i have loved her since a long time. she explicitly knows that. but i think she has issues where i said something nice i'd do for her and 3 days later she asked me out of the blue did you really mean that. she has had a quite tough childhood, and daddy issues so.

[really_dmb]

You are not clear with her you make her confused, watch your behavior with her and be more clear
And stop lying we know when men lie to us

An honest woman opinion