Detached from mom?

[Anonymous]

My mom complains that I act cold in a way where stopped smiling coming to chat with her from time to time. I got tired of my mom's attitude and habit to add a side comment to situation that doesn't require it. For example i woke up and was looking for my uniform and before I walk through our third room she looks at me and ask what I'm doing. I say just looking for my uniform and she immediately ask if it was in the laundry and I need to stay on top of my clothes. I have a extra uniform and stay on top of my stuff. I got tired of her comments to situations that put me in a negative space to the point I've become emotionless when around her and only listen if the house needs help. I don't know how to go about this situation as when I'm near my family I being to not feel anything

[Anonymous]

I know this is an obvious answer but maybe it’s time to move out. You are very grown, yet I don’t think she’ll respect you as much more than her child until you’re out from under her roof and her care. I think you’re in a place where you’re just sick of being under her thumb and that makes perfect sense. Moving out isn’t easy, but I think even with a roomie you’d feel much better having that freedom.

[Asker]

Currently, I've applied for a year college program as life situations have delayed me. I just got accepted and have to stick it out until I graduate

[Asker]

2 year xray*

[Opinion Owner]

Well, I’m not sure if sticking it out is from necessity or convenience while you’re in school, but in any case if you’re stuck there for 2 years then you’ll just have to stick it out. I just think she needs to gain a sense of respect for you as a man and not her little boy. It’s hard to set those boundaries with her while you’re still at her house, being taken care of.

[Asker]

Necessity I live in ny and about to get a loan to pay it off due to me having a bachelor's already (glorified paperweight). And yeah at miminium the plan would be to finish school and move out as I'm already working I'm the hospital

[Opinion Owner]

Man, sounds like you’re between a rock and a hard place then. If there’s no plan to move out any time soon, then you’re stuck living with her until you can. Boy moms need boundaries, and you can’t set them properly until you’re from under her roof. Even if you’re paying rent and whatnot, you’ve been there all your life, she won’t know any better than to treat you like her kid she cares for.