Why even let toxic exes interact with you is beyond me. People that actively engage or do nothing to block toxic mfers out of their lives indirectly ask for it. I don't let any toxic person into my life unless I allow it. I don't entertain their fuckery, for what they're đź—‘
I am pretty strong with exes that i didn't “give myself to”. But the 3 that i had sex with hold some weight and i still have a vulnerable spot with them sadly
Well remember we're married twice, our daughter (my biological) is the oldest, the boys are my step kids. So they were my kids before the second marriage.
Yea cause as a kid, i was NEVER gonna refer to my moms bfs as “dad” and anytine they called me their kid, i reminded them i wasn't. Hell i dont claim my own dad lmao
Im not tryna worry about the past. he's the one tryna come back. Im just saying that i feel like he should know its awkward for me hearing that “my kid” shit. Especially since he was always about refusing to take care of another persons kid
you allow him access to you to talk about those things and he's moved on so in his head it's not awkward. He just wants attention. If he really wanted to leave her he would've left long ago. He's too invested in her especially since he's helping with her child. Men don't leave where they've invested because they don't want to feel like a sucker.
Yeah men do that. Cause you know the main thing men cry about is women being ," gold diggers". Men don't want to feel like they've invested in a woman for nothing. He's in too deep. a lot of times situations like this make a man feel good because they're needed. Seems like he's kinda bragging in a way.
I don't know he doesn't like that she doesn't have a job and won't get one. Her fam kicked her out and she's been living with him for like 2 years. She got laid off and refuses to try to get another job so he's been caring for her and the kid because she won't do shit and the kids dad lives in the same city and hardly does shit
I dont really like to date a woman with kids. I know it’s not a bad thing and what not but me personally I just don’t wanna… the couple times I did there was drama with the baby dad and me and I just don’t like that.
Yea i usually avoid dudes with kids because of the crazy baby moms and because I don't know if im ready to share the attention (because of course we know and want the kid to come first). But the one dude i dated that had a kid ugh she was so fckin bad
I realize the older I get and continue to date the chances of meeting a woman with a kid is more likely to happen, I would just like to have my first with a woman that hasn’t had any yet either, I wanna share the experience with her ya know.
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Stop thinking about your lame ass exes lol. I would have had to be there when he/she was really young for me to call them my kid.
Hard not to think about him when he's poppin up offeringme the thing i want most
Why even let toxic exes interact with you is beyond me. People that actively engage or do nothing to block toxic mfers out of their lives indirectly ask for it. I don't let any toxic person into my life unless I allow it. I don't entertain their fuckery, for what they're đź—‘
I am pretty strong with exes that i didn't “give myself to”. But the 3 that i had sex with hold some weight and i still have a vulnerable spot with them sadly
I have two step sons, who are my kids. It probably took me a year or so to be my kids
Was it before marriage that you called them yours?
Well remember we're married twice, our daughter (my biological) is the oldest, the boys are my step kids. So they were my kids before the second marriage.
Probably when the kid is comfortable enough for me to call him my kid, and him calling me dad.
Would it likely be before marrying her
Probably not, unless we don't plan on marrying
And thats what im getting at. he's never tryna marry her
Then probably after we have a kid of our own
when the kid is comfortable n ok with calling me mom or step mom
up to the kid not to me
Yea cause as a kid, i was NEVER gonna refer to my moms bfs as “dad” and anytine they called me their kid, i reminded them i wasn't. Hell i dont claim my own dad lmao
Never, EVER, leave one person for another person!
Not only is that infidelity, but it's also terribly unwise!
I've done it before but no im not doing that this time around
Okay; good.
You have a boyfriend so I wouldn't worry about the past. It doesn't deserve to live rent free in your head. He chose that path let him have it
Im not tryna worry about the past. he's the one tryna come back. Im just saying that i feel like he should know its awkward for me hearing that “my kid” shit. Especially since he was always about refusing to take care of another persons kid
you allow him access to you to talk about those things and he's moved on so in his head it's not awkward. He just wants attention. If he really wanted to leave her he would've left long ago. He's too invested in her especially since he's helping with her child. Men don't leave where they've invested because they don't want to feel like a sucker.
That actually makes sense. But he keep offering me this baby, i just may take it. I just don’t want to be with him in the end
Yeah men do that. Cause you know the main thing men cry about is women being ," gold diggers". Men don't want to feel like they've invested in a woman for nothing. He's in too deep. a lot of times situations like this make a man feel good because they're needed. Seems like he's kinda bragging in a way.
I don't know he doesn't like that she doesn't have a job and won't get one. Her fam kicked her out and she's been living with him for like 2 years. She got laid off and refuses to try to get another job so he's been caring for her and the kid because she won't do shit and the kids dad lives in the same city and hardly does shit
Never.
I may like them a lot, but still they aren't "my kids".
I would have to adopt the child before I'd go there.
Thats what im thinking
I would refer to the kid as mine, when we are married
Thats what im sayin
I would only call them my kid when we got married. Any earlier than that would be premature
Thats what im thinking
If I dated someone with a kid I would call the kid my girlfriends kid or by his/ her actual name
after I married her and she and the child gave me permission to say that
Yea like i think the marriage is gonna have to come forst
When it was my kid, I don't see myself taking care of someone else their kid
I see
I would refer to them as “the kid” “her kid” or just by name. Or maybe my step Son Daughter. I really doubt I would ever say my kid.
Yea i agree with “the kid”
Never because I would never take a baby momma seriously.
I wouldn’t date a woman with kids unless I was older and her kids were full grown already
The moment me and The Kid get close :)
Okay
I have a stepson who I call my stepson.
I can’t really do that.
What Do you mean
I dont really like to date a woman with kids. I know it’s not a bad thing and what not but me personally I just don’t wanna… the couple times I did there was drama with the baby dad and me and I just don’t like that.
Yea i usually avoid dudes with kids because of the crazy baby moms and because I don't know if im ready to share the attention (because of course we know and want the kid to come first). But the one dude i dated that had a kid ugh she was so fckin bad
I realize the older I get and continue to date the chances of meeting a woman with a kid is more likely to happen, I would just like to have my first with a woman that hasn’t had any yet either, I wanna share the experience with her ya know.
When the love is getting stronger.
Marriage.