When do you disconnect from friends if they continually create drama?

[lightbulb27]

Lets say they are doing something wrong... they know it... even know why... but they won't stop. You've listened, explained, coached, guided, supported... they get counseling even and that has not progressed them. The wrong they do can "blow up" and hurt themselves or others but they are unable to stop as yet. In the meantime, the drama continues as they play out to you the drama of their daily life.

They can be a wonderful person in some areas, but poison in others.

Do you abandon such friends, when?

Example: Adolph loves his girlfriend and is wonderful to his favorite dog. But Adolph is hurting others via his policies, based upon his fears.

Bob is lying to his girlfriend... he knows it's wrong, and knows why he does it... but keeps doing it due to fear of the consequences. The result is emotional drama as his girlfriend is confused and frustrated.

"Yea I was drunk again that's why I used him and had my 5th kid, but I can't..."

I stay a committed friend since we get along, nobody is perfect

Leave - wasting time if they are drama generators

Depends

[rosemilk]

i'd say asap!!

don't be nice and don't be a doormat for their drama and emotions. i recently went through this with coworkers and it really messed up my mental health. i'm a bit better now, but still have slight "trauma" from it. so please, notice the toxicity, and remove yourself from it asap. you'll thank yourself later.

[Unit1]

I step out as soon as I can't tolerate it for much longer, which isn't very much to begin with.

While in a business trip in San Diego and being on a lunch break I have expressed my interest in firing some guns with the guys. Some older women from the marketing department came in for lunch too and just managed to overhear what I've said about wanting to shoot some firearms and then they started getting political about it with each other (e. g. banning firearms). I finished my lunch and left just in time. Yes, WORK *is* MORE interesting than POLITICS!

[lightbulb27]

yes guns are a sensitive topic for some. guy at work once brought a spent cartridge to work as decoration... he offended someone and so had to remove it.

[Unit1]

Yikes. Not a very good place to work at i suppose

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I went with "depends". Mostly it depends on how much of that drama spills into my own life. Also I just mostly hang out with people I enjoy spending time with. I don't really think in terms of the binary, "This person is my friend, this person isn't anymore." I think more like, "This person is really nice and I feel like hanging out with them, so I'll hang out with them today."

[handsomelad70]

Look, at 70, I'm WELL PAST the age where I want or need drama merchants, but if they've been buds for more than two generations as are some of my boys, they'd have to create A LOT of drama before I dropped them.