Friend removed me from social media. Should I confront or move on?

[roxystars19]

I'll be as brief as possible. I have (or maybe had at this point) a good friend/coworker, but he's a guy. He started dating this girl around 6 months ago. At first, he said he didn't want anything to change. But I noticed a difference in his behavior. He's gotten more distant and doesn't want to hang out anymore saying he's too busy, but I'm positive it's because he has a new girlfriend.

Earlier today, I saw that he removed me on Instagram and blocked me on rejected my request on Facebook. As hurt as I am by this, I am ever more confused because he acts fine at work. Other than being a little more distant, he hasn't mentioned any problems between us.

Should I ask him what's going on or just get over it and move on?

[DoggyDude]

Ask yourself why you care about this; I don't find I get overly concerned about my friends online behaviours, generally speaking (as long as they aren't being unfriendly to me IRL). If I was unfriended by someone, say a gaming friend, I'd likely just re-send them my friend invite and leave it there (see if they accepted it later); If they where previously close I might reach out to a common friend to ask if there's some issue.

When it comes to a guy in a commited straight relationship, its often difficult for the guy to maintain the same level of connection with other girls when he's involved. The average guy is less naturally social than the average girl, and if they have a girlfriend that tends to dominate their social interest (when it comes to female friends).

I'd say, just accept it, and continue being whatever friend you always have been to him. Accept the new him as the 'him in a commited relationship'.

Regarding dropping connections online, sometimes a very new girlfriend whos somewhat insecure will question they guys connections, and if the girl has had previous marriage or even children with another guy she might seek to cut off the guy from any friends she feels might be threatening (insisting he not retain contact).

I've seen this when a guy friend of mine got involved with a girl who already had 3 children. She carefully curated his friends meeting each of them and only approving of the ones she felt supported her unquestioningly, discouraging Simon from keeping in touch with the others, often by keeping him super busy with her friends she knew she could trust.

So, just accept its the new him; Enjoy him as a friend when you can and don't worry when you can't (and if you find you can't stop thinking about this, consider if maybe you made the wrong move assigning him as 'just a friend'; not sure what you would do now, but if you come to understand you have deeper feelings for the sake of his relationship you might want to be less friendly yourself).

[Night_Descends]

Just move on. He didn't bother to give you an explanation, so don't ask for one either.

[MemeSupreme]

it's bc of his girlfriend probably

bring it up since you two work together like it's convenient to ask him bc of that

[Nikki1989]

It is only social media. Stick with the real world.

[Hayley-Jade]

Well, it depends on the situation and your relationship with your friend. If you value the friendship and want to understand why they removed you, it might be worth gently reaching out to see what's up. But if it's not a big deal or if you feel like it's best to move on, then focusing on other connections and priorities could be the way to go. Trust your gut and do what feels right for you.