Is my mom's fear logical?

[Anonymous]

Next week, I'm going on a trip and will be scuba diving for the first time ever. I've joined the group for beginners and two of my friends are coming too.

3 days ago, my mother woke up screaming and is telling me not to go. In her dream, she saw I was getting dragged by the waters and other crying to get me out but couldn't. In her dream, something bad happened to me and I was gone.

My mom hasn't been herself ever since. She's very nervous. I've tried reassuring her these points: It was just a bad dream, I'll always be in contact, it's a trusted group with all equipments and signals (my friends know them very well), etc.

I'm an only child (she had me at age 39, she had fertile issues and would miscarry every time) but is her fear logical? She's very nervous. I've never seen her like that ever before.

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1 mo

She doesn't want me to go because I've never scuba dive before, how I don't know what I'm doing, etc. I don't know how to get her to calm down.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Uhm... you don't just "go scuba diving"... you have to go through the classes first. No legitimate operation is just going to throw you in the ocean with tanks and a regulator.

https://www.liveabout.com/your-first-scuba-dive-2963219

"It's just snorkeling with a tank"... no... no it's not. At all..

[TheSpaceGnome]

It is in fact a dangerous activity.

A malfunction in your gear could happen, or a playful or agressive animal could tug your breathing apparatus off of you and you could drown.

And depending on where you are suba diving, something could drag you down or just kill and/or eat you.

You can't breath under water, you have pressure limits, predatory animals do exist, non predatory animals can be overzealous, currents exist and you could bang into or get swept under a rock and get stuck.

Plenty of things can go wrong, and anyone who does go scuba diving should be aware of that and be extremely careful and aware of their surroundings, oxygen levels, and gear.

The less worried you are, the higher your chances of death are, because you are more likely to not pay attention well enough to what is going on.

[Smashingdoozy]

No it's not Logical you're much more likely to die in a car crash on the way to the diving spot

[lightbulb27]

not sure about logical, it's sad though, she's afraid of losing you. That would be a huge worry... she does not want to be in life having lost her child.

You could try to give her tools which she can have some control. communications, prayers, light a candle. or just honor your mother and not do it.

I know my mom lost a lot of nails worrying about her kids.

[Astarlessnightsky]

There are dangerous currents at sea, but if you are going with a guided tour these usually avoid the dangerous areas.

[Shbashh]

Yes, of course. You are her child, and scuba diving is a very risky and dangerous activity. She's going to worry about you no matter what. That's perfectly normal.

[OtterMan68]

no, it's not logical. It's emotional.