Is it ok for me to be angry at people who have deserted me. but still want me here?

[Anonymous]

So I got deserted and left behind, "abandoned," if you will. and nobody has had anything to do with me. Now that it has been such a long time, I decided to move away. They are trying to control my decisions and keep me here. by saying it's not a good time to move. Go talk to someone about it. I've known you ever since you were this old. Ah, I don't think it's fair to ask me to stay in a toxic environment. I was not supported, they abandoned me and now they want me to stay. I would love to hear people's thoughts on what they would do.

[SallyTho87]

You have to do what is best for yourself in any situation. You have clear reasons to move forward without the individuals who are now taking interest in you. That is an unfair predicament to you, as it's basically people attempting to come back into your life, and pull you emotionally, trying to convince you to stay.

Think clearly why you want to move. Will it benefit your lifestyle / life / peace? Will it improve your life? Do you have financial ability and support to move?
If so, DO IT.

People don't realize those they have around, until they are gone. "You dont know what you have until it's gone" That saying is exactly whats happening here. They probably took your presence for granted, and decided NOW, since you are actively choosing yourself, they will guilt trip you or emotionally manipulate you with these "I've known you since you were 10! This isn't like you!!!" BS.

Dont fall for it. Put yourself first and create the space you need. Good luck!