How were you taught to treat the opposite sex?

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How were you taught to treat the opposite sex? Guys, how were you taught to treat girls? Girls, how were you taught to treat guys?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My parents were great. And i appreciate the values they instilled in me. But i told my mother i had to unlearn a lot of their programming. I told her that it's not that her instincts were wrong. But she didn't account for how much her gender has fallen as a whole since her youth. I know it would be easy to view this as a bitter post from an angry man. But trust me when i tell you all my sister have said the same thing.😆 They have voiced how they all feel liked they've raised their sons to be gentlemen and didn't consider as much the type of women they would encounter.

Now don't get it twisted. I'm not bagging on all women. There are still good, honorable women out there. But they ARE the minority now. And they do not aggressively HUNT the men employing manipulative tactics like the very questionable women do. I've done my very best to impart wisdom to my sisters and their sons. But at the end of the day it's their life to live and their mistakes to make.😆

If i had one bit of advice to any young man dating today it would be "Know your boundaries, and do not sacrifice them for ANYBODY". Too many men today are a manipulated by women because they view their worth by how many and the type of women they attract. That is f***ing backwards. Your value comes from within. No woman can tell you your worth (some can try). But a man who knows his worth just laughs it off. And EVENTUALLY you WILL attract the right one. And all you need is that one, the right one. Stop living so much in this Bull💩 social media world. It's not real!👍

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Well I wasn't really taught I learned it by watching guys bully their girlfriends and I would say no why don't you pick on somebody that is your same gender why don't you pick kick on someone they can kick your ass why do you have to abuse somebody that you know you can hurt I don't see that as being fair that's how I learned that's how I feel that's how I live is I do not put up with it

Living on this planet Is to learn as much as you can possibly learn to give as much as you possibly give Love as much as you can possibly love Not abusing other people You are meant to find yourself you are meant to become oneless self one with others one with this universe Our God To be the best you can be And when somebody thinks that hitting somebody or yelling at somebody is doing what I just said it's time to straighten them out nobody ever needs to be hit nobody ever needs to be yelled at or disrespected if you can't control yourself you can't control anything and then you can't love anybody or anything because it's all fake

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Respectfully -- really to treat ANYONE respectfully.

Ofc in the case of a "person of interest" (for lack of a better PC term), I was taught to "be myself" which is 1/3 sweet and caring/attentive, 1/3 sarcastic and fun-loving, and 1/3 active/engaging. And really that's the perfect thing to do if I'm looking for someone to BE with for a significant length of time.

I was raised not to think of or want FBs (or, for that matter BFs, which were considered interchangeable terms to my parents and grandparents who raised me). I was taught that I'm "wife material" and anything less than an honest, formal courtship wasn't worth my time... that anyone unwilling to offer that were either "just friends" (i. e., acquaintances) or seasonal (holidays only) associations.

None of them lived to see the age of online dating (thankfully) or the hot mess that the world has become.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I wasn't taught anything about how to treat boys growing up.

But when I got married this is what I was taught.

I remember that loyalty was emphasized a lot and I have always been loyal without any problems.

I was taught to wait on him hand and foot, but that's what my generation did back then. Which included cooking for him everyday.

That having sex with him was my duty if I was married.

Respect was never mentioned.

To be loving.

I think that I learned more from listening to the lyrics in songs than I did from my single mom.

Billlewis · Answer

Both men and women will likely say they were taught to treat the opposite gender with respect, but neither does so very often.

Taurus_Woman · Answer

I was taught to treat the opposite gender as equals, with the same respect, dignity, and fairness as anyone else. The idea was never to see differences as something that puts one side above the other, but simply as part of being human.

Respect goes both ways, listening when someone speaks, valuing their thoughts, and not making assumptions based on gender. I was also taught that kindness, honesty, and boundaries matter in every interaction, regardless of who the person is. At the end of the day, the most important thing is to see people as individuals first, not through stereotypes or expectations. Equality means giving the same respect you expect to receive, and treating everyone with fairness in everyday life..

TrueConfection · Answer

This is a great question!

I was taught to let gentleman be gentlemen. I don’t get in my husband’s way when he opens my door and I say thank you. If he forgets his wallet, I pass him money so he can be the one to pay the bill. I don’t walk up the stairs in front of him. I accompany him on his arm. I don’t correct him in public or interrupt his stories. Basically, we have mutual respect. Other men who are not my husband are treated similar. I don’t race to get my own door, I don’t argue, and I try to remain gracious (although I’m not perfect).

emeraldsaphire · Answer

Being raised in a christian home I was taught to be submissive to my husband. I'd be the home maker, take care of him. And he'd provide and protect me. And as a kid I hated that. I was thinking we'd split everything. We'd both have a job, no kids. Funny thing is well I'm not a christian, I am submissive to my man now, I stay home and raise our daughter, he works and provides.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the person. I treat everyone with basic respect. That is what I was taught anyway. But later on I came to learn that respect beyond what's mentioned is earned. Those of the opposite sex who exhibit poor behavior don't earn that respect (same goes for those of the same sex by the way).

But when it comes to the women in my life, specifically my wife, my sister in law, my other sister in law, and my nieces, they get treated with the respect that close family should be treated.

For those not in my family I do hold doors still.. But I don't go out of my way to assist, help or be overly nice. Reason being, interaction with the opposite sex stands to risk false accusations or worse. So I just keep my distance, unless my wife is present

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

To be respectful, show off less, don't act reckless around women, don't fight around them, watch out for people being sleezy especially if they're drunk, walk on the street side, offer your arm, never ignore a girl crying alone, don't hang out with guys who use drugs to get women, never lead a woman on, be honest with your intentions

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I left home at age 16 to start college 350 miles from home, so I learned from my fraternity brothers, not from my father.

I treat a girl like a queen. . . but I also tell her that if she wants to continue being treated like a queen, she needs to treat me like a king.

InknKink · Answer

I wasn't taught to treat anyone in any particular way if not poorly. My father was absentee and my mother an abuser of men. I was distrustful of everyone in early life and had to weed my way through the thickets in order to find my own balance.

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely we were all taught to "save" ourselves for marriage.

But I was extra old school. Guys in our house taught to be very respectful to women.
Basically my dad said nothing, although maybe he was slightly encouraging of sex. But then I thought he was a slightly dirty so I didn't want to listen to him.
Tbh I was scared of sexual activity.

Girls were taught to not get pregnant.

Actually my sister lived with a guy and then split up and I got the impression my mother was ashamed and my sister left the country.

Glitcherydoo · Answer

The man’s love should be sacrificial.

she should respect him.

if there’s no respect then she should end the relationship.

If he loves her and she respects him, it should be the epitome of intimacy.

Calyptomaniac · Answer

I was specifically taught to treat everyone the same. We're all people.

kaucky1 · Answer

When I was younger was not able to do anything but now the I older I can't just sit there let it happen I stand up fight if I have to if it happens to be more than one to fight then there is nothing right about anything but anger is never good to bring home or office and for to reason jealousy issues loyalties

OneViewpoint · Answer

I was taught to open a bottle of wine for them and give them endless sympathy until my ears bleed. But seriously. They're people. Treat them the way you want to be treated by other people.

SaoirseS · Answer

My mom taught me to treat people (regardless of gender) as I want to be treated. My dad had other ideas which I have thankfully ignored.

NathanDavis · Answer

I actually was never told " you should be this way with men... and this other way with women"

4ngelic · Answer

I've never been taught anything about how to treat a guy. I don't think it's really something girls are taught, it just goes one way.

Godihateyou · Answer

I was taught to never date a woman I had to pay a toll to see. I was taught to never be in a room alone with a woman because they will accuse you of crimes, I was taught that women at work do nothing so cover your ass if you HAVE to work with them. I was taught correctly

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I believe I was deeply taught to treat any girl as my equal. Because, growing up, when I discover that my view wasn't universally shared, it truly shocked me lol

MrChinaski · Answer

I wasn't 'taught' anything. My father was a strong role model who lived a life of respect and compassion. What parents do is more important than what parents say.

CherryLove007 · Answer

Treat people like I would treat my grandmother. With high respect. People are not here to be played with and lied to.

lilBigPotato · Answer

I got taught to be respectful to other people, independent of their gender.

HawkPerception · Answer

I wasn't taught a thing on how to treat the opposite sex. Everything I learned was from experience, common sense, and movies and shows.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

BEAT the snot out of them every chance I get!! But, seriously, I give LOTS of love and treat them VERY well. I wouldn't like it if they did bad things to me so, I'll never do that to them, either!

AgentG111 · Answer

Be polite be professional and have a plan to always have the ability to take everyone out at every time everywhere you go!

Treating someone do the respect to their age not respect of what you believe that their mental capacity is.

Agape93 · Answer

As my superior. That my role, was to clean, have kids, cook and be a man's quiet place.

loveslongnails · Answer

I grew up in matriarchy, more or less, although it was representative republic. Mom had a vote, dad had a vote, if it was a tie, mom wins. LOL. Women were respected, never hit or beaten.

jazzy34 · Answer

Kindly, but at the same time, my mom taught me not to fear men. I’m not a shrinking flower.

Finchie40 · Answer

With kindness and respect , with loyalty and honesty ,

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

As for me I wasn’t taught, I learned & it’s called RESPECT.

beenherebefore · Answer

I wasn’t. That’s why I had so many issues and didn’t know how to interact with guys growing up.

Spencer10 · Answer

Respectfully. Hell treat everyone until proven otherwise with respect.

Massageman · Answer

I was taught to treat people the same way I'd like to be treated.  Do unto others as you would want them to do unto you.

Titanic1912 · Answer

I was taught to treat them with the upmost respect and kindness. Especially handle the more fragile girls very gently.

AngryCarl3 · Answer

My parents were Old School so I was always taught to treat women with respect. Even when they were obviously up to no good.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Nothing. Common sense tells me people should be treated right and with respect regardless of gender unless they don't deserve it.

Anonymous · Answer

I was taught to be polite, and I am... mostly (depends on who she is, and how does she treat me).

msc545 · Answer

In the same way I would treat a bottle of nitroglycerin - very - carefully.

Starlux · Answer

Treat women with just as much respect as men if not more than men.

Anonymous · Answer

Respect and all that These days I just avoid them

thegreenyogi · Answer

With respect and to demand respect.

Lesbologist · Answer

quid pro quo... pretty simple.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

My mother demanded that I put women on a pedestal.

RavVid · Answer

With courtesy.

exitseven · Answer

You never hit a girl.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

How: 'trial and error' 🫠

Jen_oic · Answer

@BCRanger10 training

Twalli · Answer

Treat everyone the way you whish to be treated

tonita926 · Answer

By watching tv growing up

LiamS95 · Answer

With much respect!

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

As a sister...

oldman26 · Answer

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