We have been best friends for about 5 years now. We now stay together while in college, going on 2 years now. Before we were already close as hell. Now that level has risen. I have developed feelings for him about 8 months ago. We are both gay.
Our friends swear we act like we are in a relationship, but we are not. We have a real caring strong relationship. But now I really want to take it further. I know him better than I know myself. I really can't explain our bond. But I'm not sure if he feels the same as I do. He expresses how much he loves me as a best friend and even calls me honey or says "we are in a relationship but just without relations" to friends.
He really gives me a lot of mixed signals. When I go out on a date or chill with someone, he acts a little jealous. He takes notice to how my appearance is. He often says I never give him any compliments. My friend told me that he said "I was his boo", while drinking. He really acts like a boyfriend. But he says he only sees me as a friend. I have not told him how I felt because I'm not positive on how he feels toward me. Our friendship is real complicated. The only thing we don't do is get intimate with each other. We often get into debates about things only people in a relationship would care about. He is real blunt and I'm scared he would hurt my feelings. I often vent with my other two close friends but that has gotten old.
Now a new problem has risen with this also. He has met a guy , through me. (big mistake). They both clicked well, but the guy has left for the War overseas and won't be back til December. He even wants to stay a month. I'm not cool with that at all. So now I'm am pressed for time, before it is too late.
What should I do?! As you can see I'm really scared of rejection.
Our friends swear we act like we are in a relationship, but we are not. We have a real caring strong relationship. But now I really want to take it further. I know him better than I know myself. I really can't explain our bond. But I'm not sure if he feels the same as I do. He expresses how much he loves me as a best friend and even calls me honey or says "we are in a relationship but just without relations" to friends.
He really gives me a lot of mixed signals. When I go out on a date or chill with someone, he acts a little jealous. He takes notice to how my appearance is. He often says I never give him any compliments. My friend told me that he said "I was his boo", while drinking. He really acts like a boyfriend. But he says he only sees me as a friend. I have not told him how I felt because I'm not positive on how he feels toward me. Our friendship is real complicated. The only thing we don't do is get intimate with each other. We often get into debates about things only people in a relationship would care about. He is real blunt and I'm scared he would hurt my feelings. I often vent with my other two close friends but that has gotten old.
Now a new problem has risen with this also. He has met a guy , through me. (big mistake). They both clicked well, but the guy has left for the War overseas and won't be back til December. He even wants to stay a month. I'm not cool with that at all. So now I'm am pressed for time, before it is too late.
What should I do?! As you can see I'm really scared of rejection.
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