My mother doesn't let me go out... WHY?

[Anonymous]

I'm soon going to be 17 and she doesn't let me go out on my own.

If I'm with friends, it's fine, she asks a lot of questions, but then she lets me go. When I wanna go out on my own, she denies me to do it. I can't even go buy a book, or a shirt alone.

For example, yesterday, I wanted to go visit my sister at work and spend some time with her and my mother said that I couldn't go alone, that she didn't have the money for me to use the subway and then she said that if I really wanted to go, she'd come with me.

I said no and I told her how insane it was. So she replied that I had to understand her, that she was tired... everything in such a pitiful way.

It's not even because of the subway, she does it every time I wanna go out.

I'm not in some sort of adolescent rebellion, I just want to be able to do what I have to do myself. I don't want her to buy me my stuff or to come with me every time I wanna go for a walk.

I've never done anything wrong, I'm a good girl, I'm simple, I'm not reckless nor anything... I don't know why she doesn't even let me get out of this house.

What should I do?

[risingphoenix201011]

Sounds like your mom may be starting to get empty nest syndrome because you are now older and exerting your independence. She is afraid of letting you go to grow up. If I were you I'd sit her down and explain to her that you are nowold enough to go do things on your own and what's she going to do once you turn 18? If she's afraid for your safety then go buy a small can of mace or something to ease her mind.

[Hayden01]

She is being protective because she loves you. She just needs to see you can be independent. So I would recommend letting her have the find my iPhone or something. To build her trust just get something small from the grocery store with her outside or something.

[VestEer]

I think she's the one that needs to understand herself...or your area is known for some terrible things. Either way, she can't expect you to drag someone along to every little thing you want to do. Tell her that.