Why are they flinching at my touch?

[Anonymous]

It's not irrelevant that I am pleasant looking. I've had guys ask me out and I do not think I am hideous or repulsive at all. The only friends I have are 3 guys. We've been friends since I know of myself and as we grew older little has changed about it.

I often see other male-female "friends" rub each other all over. Maybe I am stuck up, but letting my male friends touch me so much, hug me all the time for no reason, or sitting in their lap for example always felt like too much. Ever since we were kids we kept our distance and our physical contact was a normal expression of closeness that hasn't caused anyone to get a boner.

But here is something rather odd I noticed lately, since me and my friends spend a lot of time together hanging out, just the four of us. First there is the first friend (not the new thing I noticed) that tried to replicate all those other friends' behavior and tended to grab me a lot for no reason. I kept escaping until he gave up on the idea.

Then come in two of my closer friends. Both flinch at my touch sometimes. Whether it may be a tap on the shoulder, accidentally touching their arm etc. It seems as if I carry some horrible skin disease they are trying to avoid. I have never been rude to them, or warned them about this explicitly. So I don't think I am the one who made them dodge me like plague.

Why do you think this is? (If you need more info, ask.)

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Did this retarded site really stuff my question in Sexuality section because of the word boner? -_-

[Kiran04]

Because you exude the "don't f***ing touch me" aura. People pick up on and reflect that. She doesn't want to be touched, therefor touching her is a crime. If she touches me, I'm technically touching her therefor I'm committing a crime therefor I run like hell. You can't have it both ways. Either you're open to having your personal space encroached upon and you can do the same to others or they can't touch and neither can you.

[Asker]

So there is no in-between where we don't dry hump, but can make physical contact?

[Kiran04]

Not for you and your friends because you've already made your stance clear. You can't un-ring the bell. It'll take a while to change it now.

[Asker]

I never prevented them from touching me completely. I never made that stance. We do touch, actually we did in the past. Not excessively of course. But lately, even that has been stopped (by them).

[Kiran04]

Hard to undo damage done. No idea why they've suddenly decided they don't want to be touched at all, but I wouldn't get your hopes up. Like I said, there is no un-ringing the bell.

[Jacques529]

Well it might be kind of hard to change things now all of a sudden since they are so used to you guys not touching (if I understood this correctly). Also, when you touch them, don't hold the touch maybe just a play hit or something like that until they start to get acclimated to the idea of you guys touching each other.