I dated a Chinese girl who was an only child and had millionaire parents. The dad was an obessive workaholic. She had a horrible relationship with him, but that's what happens with a lot of these families. The dad busts his ass at the expense of the family and the wife and daughter(s) spend most of the money. It was really f-ed up. That's part of the reason why I got out of the relationship.
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I don't think Asians are more status focused then say north American white women.
However the young women base status more on wealth and intelligence (and future income) then young white women, who put more emphasis on athleticism and sporting ability. I guess you could say young Asian women act the way other women do once they hit their mid 20's.
All women care about money and economic status. That is the modern day way of measuring a man's value. Trust me, this problem isn't exclusive to Asian women.
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oh I know that. but not as many as Asian cultures. my Asian friend told me that even before his mom married his dad, his grandpa was like "marry him because he is ambitious and will be successful someday" instead of "hes a great guy." and having ambition has ONE of the reasons as to why she should marry him. in western culture, the person's looks and personality matters more than his economic status overall.
Asian cultures focus less on looks, because morals are more important. Not all women care about money, just like not all men do. That's very generalized.
Women in the US are FAR more welath and status conscious than in China I've nevfer seen a Chinese woman, other than a prostitute, let themselves be picked up by a guy just because hehas an expensive car. Many girls in my HS graduating class were gettting picked up at school by their much older bfs with relatively nice cars. It caused traffic jams getting home from school.
Haha, I admire your fiestyness, I concede. You know exactly what I'm referring to. I just think it's completely wrong to say your family "doesn't lack good values", are good Christians, and insult the QA for lacking sound judgment and that you even "pity" him for it. When really, you couldn't deny that you guys are racist towards African Americans. So, all these things can be said about you and your family. Does it mean you pity yourself too?
In simpler terms: It's wrong when people stereotype, generalize, and have racist judgments about YOU. But it's perfectly okay that you and your family do it to others.
THAT lacks sound logic and judgment. That's all I was saying.
this fighting is unnecessary seriously. and I am NOT generally a whole race. I have said it in my update that I am not saying that ALL Asians do it. I am talking more about the Chinese and japanese and that there are ENOUGH for me to feel concerned and frustrated. not saying everyone does it. make sure you read what I wrote, ilovejas.
I was having a civil, non-bias, objective conversation until she became insulting. With that attitude, it's obvious why her boyfriend cheated on her and left her.
People confuse generalizing, and what people like you really meant is "predominant" or "a large sum of individuals", which isn't incorrect. It hurt a few here, but at least some were adults and could talk about it.
Lmao, I'm not really over 45 (I'm 69 years old on here, not in a pervy way it was completely accidental).
However, I do think I picked on her in a way. She clearly wasn't very intelligent, and I was like the bigger stronger kid who beat up the weaker kid. It wasn't very nice.
Albeit, in her words, she "insulted me, so I gave her a small blow. Respect isn't given, it's earned."
No, you attacked her simply for being Christian. She did nothing to provoke anyone. It's one thing to disagree, but it wasn't alright for you to call her stupid and what have you for it. And she's not even a member now, probably because of you. You happy?
1. Me: Challenge her argument. She contradicts herself when she says she "pity's" the QA for "lacking sound judgment" and logic, when she herself lacks these things. Why? Because she blatantly insults someone for generalizing Asians, when at the same time she generalizes African Americans? Or maybe you agree with her view on that.
2. Calls me an a**hole, says she wouldn't take me home.
hahaha not gonna lie... this is kinda funny bro... but yeah its a f***ed up society we live in. a woman can kick, punch and scream at you and its okay but as soon as a man defends himself, its all domestic violence lol...just like if a woman looks at a man lustfully, its okay and she's romantic and when a man does it, he's a pervert and a sex predator. f***ed up sh*t man.
Haha, god! Thank you! I'm sitting here like, am I going crazy here, or is this really unfair and messed up? That's true though. It's funny because guys are stereotyped as being old pervs, but for example, you've got all these female teachers having sex with their students. The women usually get like 3 years, and guys get thrown under the prison for life. D:
It's because its tradition. If you date an Asian girl, they're parents will retire and expect you to support them financially so you need enough money to support your own family and their family.
well first not every Chinese is like that second but we do have one idiom- To a destitute couple nothing goes well..
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I think deep down the type of family one has and the money they have is something everyone is looking for. I don't know for Asians, but I know many cultures and groups of people value these things.
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It's because the women don't work, they tend to be very old-fashioned in that way, so it's far more important for them to pick a husband who can provide for them and any children that may issue.
Not to the same extent that Western women do, who are then expected to be able to fend for themselves financially, and not have to marry a man who can support them.
I'd say that is mostly true, but their parents, at least here in China, they generally DO care a lot, and when it comes to marriage, mostly parents still arrange or facilitate the marriage, and their kids ususally won't defy their parents; decision;\
More and more parents are starting to accept their children[s choosing their own partners; things are changing fairly fast
I suppose it's because they're the ones who get pregnant so they'll want a provider/protector to help them out during that time. Maybe throw some materialism in there for some of them.
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Yeah notice that too, I think it is just a cultural difference.
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I dated a Chinese girl who was an only child and had millionaire parents. The dad was an obessive workaholic. She had a horrible relationship with him, but that's what happens with a lot of these families. The dad busts his ass at the expense of the family and the wife and daughter(s) spend most of the money. It was really f-ed up. That's part of the reason why I got out of the relationship.
I don't think Asians are more status focused then say north American white women.
However the young women base status more on wealth and intelligence (and future income) then young white women, who put more emphasis on athleticism and sporting ability. I guess you could say young Asian women act the way other women do once they hit their mid 20's.
do you have any evidence? stool sample? FBI clearance?
Lmao! <3
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why are you asking tis question if you don't care about it yourself?
@They are loving the OBJECTS and not the PERSON.
_____lol what country isn't like that. where are you from?
Thanks. QA shouldn't be so angry about another culture.
All women care about money and economic status. That is the modern day way of measuring a man's value. Trust me, this problem isn't exclusive to Asian women.
oh I know that. but not as many as Asian cultures. my Asian friend told me that even before his mom married his dad, his grandpa was like "marry him because he is ambitious and will be successful someday" instead of "hes a great guy." and having ambition has ONE of the reasons as to why she should marry him. in western culture, the person's looks and personality matters more than his economic status overall.
Loooool
Asian cultures focus less on looks, because morals are more important. Not all women care about money, just like not all men do. That's very generalized.
Women in the US are FAR more welath and status conscious than in China I've nevfer seen a Chinese woman, other than a prostitute, let themselves be picked up by a guy just because hehas an expensive car. Many girls in my HS graduating class were gettting picked up at school by their much older bfs with relatively nice cars. It caused traffic jams getting home from school.
You will never see the like in China.
Someone asked this question again. What is it about Asian women that makes people ask this question?
yes I wonder too
tradition sucks, but these people are right, you already have your answer so no need for me to say more
ilovejas - lmao this chick blocked me. You basically admitted to my point, the truth tends to be unsettling..
And take me home? Don't flatter yourself. Lmao
i said like you idiot. what truth?
that you are a**hole? Lmao
when I said the question asker
lack sound judgement, I'm referring to his flawed logic.
go back to school!
Haha, I admire your fiestyness, I concede. You know exactly what I'm referring to. I just think it's completely wrong to say your family "doesn't lack good values", are good Christians, and insult the QA for lacking sound judgment and that you even "pity" him for it. When really, you couldn't deny that you guys are racist towards African Americans. So, all these things can be said about you and your family. Does it mean you pity yourself too?
Point the finger & there's 3 more pointing back
In simpler terms: It's wrong when people stereotype, generalize, and have racist judgments about YOU. But it's perfectly okay that you and your family do it to others.
THAT lacks sound logic and judgment. That's all I was saying.
why are all christians perfect? we don't have the right to get annoyed?
call us gold diggers when my family are working our ass off?
the truth is coming out you are not just an a**hole but an INSECURE idiot.
you just push the button a**hole! insulting my religion and my family.
it's not our fault white guys pursuing us and it's not our fault if we prefer white skin.
that is our standard of beauty. stop eating McDonald's because the grease is covering
your small brain.
the question asker is the first one to insult, generalizing the entire asians.
i just retaliate with small blow. you like insulting people right? I'm just giving you what you like.
so don't act like you're the victim here.
Lmao. Beast? I don't remember telling you what race I am. I merely used African Americans to point out a flaw in your logic.
It's okay for us Asians to be racist against Blacks and generalize them, but not okay for you to generalize and be racist to us Asians.
You are seriously a level one thinker. Your behavior is so blatantly acrimonious that trying to harm me with insults are ineffective. Lmao.
You actually thought by shaved monkey I was talking about your face, lmao. You are truly an idiot
It's a good thing you've got a vagina, because you wouldn't otherwise be able to rely on that primitive brain of yours.
"My family and I have good morals and are good Christians." Lmao!
You wonder why your boyfriend cheated on you and left you lawlzzz
this fighting is unnecessary seriously. and I am NOT generally a whole race. I have said it in my update that I am not saying that ALL Asians do it. I am talking more about the Chinese and japanese and that there are ENOUGH for me to feel concerned and frustrated. not saying everyone does it. make sure you read what I wrote, ilovejas.
I was having a civil, non-bias, objective conversation until she became insulting. With that attitude, it's obvious why her boyfriend cheated on her and left her.
People confuse generalizing, and what people like you really meant is "predominant" or "a large sum of individuals", which isn't incorrect. It hurt a few here, but at least some were adults and could talk about it.
You're twice the age of this girl, and you picked on her for no reason. Shame on you.
Lmao, I'm not really over 45 (I'm 69 years old on here, not in a pervy way it was completely accidental).
However, I do think I picked on her in a way. She clearly wasn't very intelligent, and I was like the bigger stronger kid who beat up the weaker kid. It wasn't very nice.
Albeit, in her words, she "insulted me, so I gave her a small blow. Respect isn't given, it's earned."
No, you attacked her simply for being Christian. She did nothing to provoke anyone. It's one thing to disagree, but it wasn't alright for you to call her stupid and what have you for it. And she's not even a member now, probably because of you. You happy?
Your perception is distorted.
Sequence of actual events:
1. Me: Challenge her argument. She contradicts herself when she says she "pity's" the QA for "lacking sound judgment" and logic, when she herself lacks these things. Why? Because she blatantly insults someone for generalizing Asians, when at the same time she generalizes African Americans? Or maybe you agree with her view on that.
2. Calls me an a**hole, says she wouldn't take me home.
3. I say she admits & can't take me home
And I attacked her simply for being Christian? How do you even infer this? It makes absolutely no sense, I barely even touched on it.
Also, she insulted ME and called ME stupid first.
Actual sequence of events:
1. "stop eating McDonald's because the grease is covering
your small brain. "
2. Then I proceed to stop being civil and begin throwing punches back.
I don't see you saying ANYTHING about her wrong doing, even when she INITIATED everything. This is bias, feminazi behavior.
Ashton Kutcher must be coming back, because I must be getting punk'd or something.
These are ALL the INSULTS she said to me BEFORE I EVER insulted her.
"I said like you, idiot"
"you are not just an a**hole but an INSECURE idiot."
"go back to school!"
"stop eating McDonald's because the grease is covering your small brain."
And somehow I'm wrong for defending myself after such verbal assault? This is a joke.
This reminds me of how society is now. A woman can kick, punch, scream at, piss on, sh*t on a man PUBLICLY, and it's OK!
Then when a man DEFENDS himself and is tackled to the ground, and is chased home with pitch forks and burning torches!
You keep f***ing with that sleeping dog and he'll eventually bite back.
For you down voters, keep it up. I get an erection knowing I pissed you off.
hahaha not gonna lie... this is kinda funny bro... but yeah its a f***ed up society we live in. a woman can kick, punch and scream at you and its okay but as soon as a man defends himself, its all domestic violence lol...just like if a woman looks at a man lustfully, its okay and she's romantic and when a man does it, he's a pervert and a sex predator. f***ed up sh*t man.
Haha, god! Thank you! I'm sitting here like, am I going crazy here, or is this really unfair and messed up? That's true though. It's funny because guys are stereotyped as being old pervs, but for example, you've got all these female teachers having sex with their students. The women usually get like 3 years, and guys get thrown under the prison for life. D:
It's because its tradition. If you date an Asian girl, they're parents will retire and expect you to support them financially so you need enough money to support your own family and their family.
well first not every Chinese is like that second but we do have one idiom- To a destitute couple nothing goes well..
I think deep down the type of family one has and the money they have is something everyone is looking for. I don't know for Asians, but I know many cultures and groups of people value these things.
It's because the women don't work, they tend to be very old-fashioned in that way, so it's far more important for them to pick a husband who can provide for them and any children that may issue.
They do work.
Not to the same extent that Western women do, who are then expected to be able to fend for themselves financially, and not have to marry a man who can support them.
we do work ..we are not living in the 1940s or 50s
we need to have dual income in order to support our families
I'm Asian and most Asian women don't care about economic status at all.
I'd say that is mostly true, but their parents, at least here in China, they generally DO care a lot, and when it comes to marriage, mostly parents still arrange or facilitate the marriage, and their kids ususally won't defy their parents; decision;\
More and more parents are starting to accept their children[s choosing their own partners; things are changing fairly fast
I suppose it's because they're the ones who get pregnant so they'll want a provider/protector to help them out during that time. Maybe throw some materialism in there for some of them.
Yeah notice that too, I think it is just a cultural difference.
Well aren't you so very kind today Mr Adolph
bitches who are insecure to Asians on the loose lol
Not all Asians believe in genies. That's generalizing..
i don't knw but in india girls won't love you until you have all luxuries that's why Indian grls are snobbish but yeah I still love them