hell no. you shouldn't even allow your wife to have a best male friend. they should not be hanging out like that. its inappropriate. if he's so damn special to her then she should have married his ass. you're her husband and you need to put your foot down.
That's a little insane. WOW I sort of feel that something is off in your head a bit. I'd fckng flip. That is inappropriate! Did you know about their relationship before marriage?
I'd separate for a while but it seems if you do that, she'd probably do something with him.
Get counseling. Relationship counseling. It should give her some perspective.
Maybe you should open yourself up to having a close female friend. Not completely out of spite, but to give you some perspective on how a relationship like that really is. Maybe even give her some, too.
I find it funny that girls always say guys and girls can be platonic friends, and them having male friends is perfectly fine, etc.
Well, if that was true, all these girls would be saying it's perfectly fine if she goes on a trip with her best male friend to Europe. Sleep in the same bed in a different country, etc.
It's all platonic right? Girls and guys can be friends right?
Never that. Honestly, I've learned that if a woman you're with even ASKS you something like this, you might as well find a new woman.
She obviously feels this kind of behavior is OK, and you denying her of it will only piss her off and more problems will persist in the future.
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My mom's best friend is a guy and it sounds very similar to what you're experiencing. I know that it did weird my dad our for a long period of time and he always viewed the friend as a potential threat to the relationship, but out of respect for my mom he didn't act on it. Turns out many years later, he came out to my mom that he is gay and expressed it to her first out of the closeness of their friendship. My dad never had any idea at all this guy was gay, neither did my mom, and neither did the guy I don't think. Today that guy is Uncle Dave and he and his husband have a good life and a little adopted Asian baby. I wouldn't worry too much about it or you're going to push your wife away. I am in no way saying this situation I presented is comparable to yours, but I am saying that there are cases where it is just a genuine friendship.
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I would talk to a pastor about this. Go see him, arrange a meeting for you and your wife, and ask your wife to go with you. If she refuses to go, make sure you go to see the pastor anyway, so at least you can talk. It is better if your wife goes though, because it will provide a balanced perspective for the guy to understand the dynamic between you two.
My cousin dated my best, now my best friend and I are together. I would definitely stand up to her, they could end up being with each other. He needs to back the f*** off and let you be her husband!
Is he gay? If not then they'll probably be together later in life anyway. Some people are just ment to be together. I didn't beleive this till I ended up with my gf.
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It's time to ditch her. She doesn't care one bit about how you feel at all and she seems like she's being the controlling one. It's funny because on TV and society always talks about the bad husbands , but they never talk about the bad wives. As for her friend I think you need to put your fist down his throat.
Hey now lets not start woman bashing. You had a lot of ladies supporting up there myself included. People cheat on people doesn't matter what sex or sexual orientation they are. People cheat and hurt each other. My husband cheated on me. We tried 'working' on things. Then his 3rd girlfriend showed up. We are now divorced.
Wow! That's rough, buddy! I wouldn't wish this scenario on my worst enemy.. it looks like your mind has been made but your heart is really attached. Sorry this has to happen to such a great guy!
Well here's my two cents. She has checked out of your marriage. She puts his and her interested and desires above the marriage. She in effect chose him over you. She has no interest in touring Europe with you, her words but has all the interest in touring with him. It's tough but she is not worth fighting for because you'll never have her. A marriage is 100% commitment from both sides, not 50/50. She obviously has little to no regard for you or your feelings. Contac an attorney.
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Since she's not listening then I would tell her you want to go to marriage counseling maybe she will see the seriousness of the situation seems like you have put up with this long enough you guys are married, everyone should see and respect that.
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Nope you are not over reacting at all. If I were you she would be served the divorce papers before getting on her flight to Europe. Where there is smoke there is fire.
Look bro a girl and a boy can't really be friends because the guy is trying to fuck unless he's gay. Now women don't always see this. but tell her to test it by sending him a message saying let's fuck and see his reply
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hell no. you shouldn't even allow your wife to have a best male friend. they should not be hanging out like that. its inappropriate. if he's so damn special to her then she should have married his ass. you're her husband and you need to put your foot down.
That's a little insane. WOW I sort of feel that something is off in your head a bit. I'd fckng flip. That is inappropriate! Did you know about their relationship before marriage?
I'd separate for a while but it seems if you do that, she'd probably do something with him.
Get counseling. Relationship counseling. It should give her some perspective.
Maybe you should open yourself up to having a close female friend. Not completely out of spite, but to give you some perspective on how a relationship like that really is. Maybe even give her some, too.
I find it funny that girls always say guys and girls can be platonic friends, and them having male friends is perfectly fine, etc.
Well, if that was true, all these girls would be saying it's perfectly fine if she goes on a trip with her best male friend to Europe. Sleep in the same bed in a different country, etc.
It's all platonic right? Girls and guys can be friends right?
F***, the f*** no..
Never that. Honestly, I've learned that if a woman you're with even ASKS you something like this, you might as well find a new woman.
She obviously feels this kind of behavior is OK, and you denying her of it will only piss her off and more problems will persist in the future.
My mom's best friend is a guy and it sounds very similar to what you're experiencing. I know that it did weird my dad our for a long period of time and he always viewed the friend as a potential threat to the relationship, but out of respect for my mom he didn't act on it. Turns out many years later, he came out to my mom that he is gay and expressed it to her first out of the closeness of their friendship. My dad never had any idea at all this guy was gay, neither did my mom, and neither did the guy I don't think. Today that guy is Uncle Dave and he and his husband have a good life and a little adopted Asian baby. I wouldn't worry too much about it or you're going to push your wife away. I am in no way saying this situation I presented is comparable to yours, but I am saying that there are cases where it is just a genuine friendship.
I would talk to a pastor about this. Go see him, arrange a meeting for you and your wife, and ask your wife to go with you. If she refuses to go, make sure you go to see the pastor anyway, so at least you can talk. It is better if your wife goes though, because it will provide a balanced perspective for the guy to understand the dynamic between you two.
I'd divorce her, your wife shouldn't put friends above her own husband.
My thoughts exactly
I am sorry your marriage isn't working out, I'm just being brutally honest.
Thanx bro...FML
There are a lot fish in the sea and you'll find someone that will respect you.
Yes sir but who should I turn to what company?
My cousin dated my best, now my best friend and I are together. I would definitely stand up to her, they could end up being with each other. He needs to back the f*** off and let you be her husband!
Is he gay? If not then they'll probably be together later in life anyway. Some people are just ment to be together. I didn't beleive this till I ended up with my gf.
It's time to ditch her. She doesn't care one bit about how you feel at all and she seems like she's being the controlling one. It's funny because on TV and society always talks about the bad husbands , but they never talk about the bad wives. As for her friend I think you need to put your fist down his throat.
Agreed...women get away with a lot of more bullsh*t than men
Hey now lets not start woman bashing. You had a lot of ladies supporting up there myself included. People cheat on people doesn't matter what sex or sexual orientation they are. People cheat and hurt each other. My husband cheated on me. We tried 'working' on things. Then his 3rd girlfriend showed up. We are now divorced.
Wow! That's rough, buddy! I wouldn't wish this scenario on my worst enemy.. it looks like your mind has been made but your heart is really attached. Sorry this has to happen to such a great guy!
Yeah I know
They are lying to you. Something is going on. Stop being a pansy and stand up for yourself. (sorry but you know inside it's true!)
I would tell her to divorce me and marry him. I'm sure she wouldn't be happy if you had a best female friend to go on trips with.
You're still a fairly young guy. There will be other women.
Well here's my two cents. She has checked out of your marriage. She puts his and her interested and desires above the marriage. She in effect chose him over you. She has no interest in touring Europe with you, her words but has all the interest in touring with him. It's tough but she is not worth fighting for because you'll never have her. A marriage is 100% commitment from both sides, not 50/50. She obviously has little to no regard for you or your feelings. Contac an attorney.
Since she's not listening then I would tell her you want to go to marriage counseling maybe she will see the seriousness of the situation seems like you have put up with this long enough you guys are married, everyone should see and respect that.
Nope you are not over reacting at all. If I were you she would be served the divorce papers before getting on her flight to Europe. Where there is smoke there is fire.
? I thought your wife cheated on you with your best friend?
Look bro a girl and a boy can't really be friends because the guy is trying to fuck unless he's gay. Now women don't always see this. but tell her to test it by sending him a message saying let's fuck and see his reply
She isn’t only your wife :))
I wouldn't let her go