Are pretty girls treated better than other women? If so, why is that and could you mention some examples?

[Anonymous]

I've noticed that if a girl tends to be conventionally attractive or fits the criteria of beauty standards, she will also assumed by society to be kind, smart, talented, funny, sometimes, without having to try at all, or possessing all these qualities.

This is something that I've noticed both in real life and online on this site. (there are some girls here, for example that are popular, have a lot of followers and are considered by people to be nice, or smart, although their comments and questions don't seem that special to me, just because they have a pretty profile picture). Also, they can get away with saying stuff that would be considered mean or harsh by other people.. If it's said by someone young and pretty, it's funny

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Oops I actually made an error here
I meant *they can get away with saying stuff that would be considered mean or harsh, if it was said by other people

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I can't believe so many people are saying that discrimination based on physical appearance doesn't exist, or that good-looking girls actually get treated worse... There have been numerous studies on this phenomenon that show people perceived as conventionally ugly are treated worse than those seen as attractive. Even little babies prefer to look at conventionally beautiful faces rather than conventionally ugly ones

[MrOracle]

In some ways, yes, they are treated better, and in other ways, they are treated much worse. You already know about how they can be treated better and be given privileges, but think about how many men only want them as a sex toy (because they are pretty, caring nothing about who she is as a person), and how many women hate them and treat them horribly because they are jealous.

Everything has liabilities, but it's easy to ignore them, especially if you have never been close to someone who deals with it. Think about fame - there are many upsides, but you lose your anonymity and your privacy and often your safety. It might even cost you huge amounts of money to pay for security. Most people never really consider the costs of fame, only focusing on the positives. Beauty has the same duality.

[Asker]

Yeah but at least, when you're pretty someone always steps up to save you and protect you, when other people are being mean to you... When you're ugly no one gives shit about your feelings. They don't see you as a person

[MrOracle]

I'm not saying that you are entirely wrong, but you are also not entirely right. I've certainly helped many women (and even men) regardless of their looks. I'm not saying that everyone would, but plenty will and do.

[anon1903]

That's true. Mom had a boyfriend who had all kinds of doubt because mom was so pretty, every guy wanted her and that apparently meant she was willing to sleep with each of them, or so her ex thought. They broke up on that.

[Anonymous]

Yes it happens a lot especially by men. We do that cause we’re hoping oh maybe she will remember that time I paid for her sandwich so she will suck my cock. Sad yes but we look at it in a sexual way. We want to get close to her, or be close even if we know we will never get to hit that. Men do that in hopes that something sexual will come out of it. Usually never does but one can keep trying. Men will do things such as wait up late for a girl even if it means him losing sleep for work. Driving certain distances, paying for her stuff. They get into clubs free a lot because the club knows what draws in the business which is men who will spend money on drinks for women. Maybe even promotions at work. Look at the news, the women who work there are usually very pretty. Never really seen a fat a hot woman. No point intended. It’s all over.

[Opinion Owner]

*never really seen a fat hot anchor woman

[Asker]

Seems that money and looks make the world go round.. I never realized what a tremendous privilege some people have

[Opinion Owner]

Yes indeed they do. Life is not fair. It’ll never be fair as much as we try to make things equal.

[Gloree]

come to think of it, me neither.

[Paulalove98]

Yeah it happens but just be yourself honestly. You don’t need their validation to define your worth or value. Heck I used to be an outcast and picked on in school but as I got older I just cared less about what people would think. While I’m an average looking girl to most, my boyfriend finds me beautiful and I find myself beautiful. As you go through life and experiences, you’ll care less, and life will show you who really matters beside everyone in society. I mean in high school there was some girls who got their way but literally nobody cares or talks about them no more at least not that I know of lol. I think most of the “pretty privilege” stuff is school based, sometimes work based but it depends where you work.

[Akam93]

Cause there pretty basically. No one would treat an ugly woman the same way. All men seem to treat pretty woman with respect and the uglier woman they just ignore. I would know I've always been that ugly woman and every man has always treated me like shit.

[Asker]

I agree guys tend to ignore women they don't find attractive
But I don't think you're ugly at all, if that's you on your profile pic

[Akam93]

It is. But believe me I dont many guys that like me still. Lol

[Prettysammie]

I’m usually considered pretty I guess. I don’t think guys treat me with respect.

[Arik_jade]

@Akam93 you look good

[Arik_jade]

@Prettysammie can you please share your pic?

[Danny_dan92]

Think of it this way,




When you see a man you find attractive. Are you going to be a bitch or be rude to him? No. You’re going to be very sweet towards him.




Thus the same applies to men. However, an attractive woman COULD receive a lot of hate towards her from other females out of envy. I’ve witnessed this with my own two eyes

[Asker]

Nope I'm polite and treat most people with respect, unless someone's being mean to me

[Danny_dan92]

Well good on you, your parents raised you really well. That’s how everyone should be. But you can’t control or change that

[Monalisa77]

Unless your like me and self sabatoge...

[Danny_dan92]

Self sabotage?

[Monalisa77]

Yelling at them. I didn't think ij could find someone so perfect

[Danny_dan92]

Yelling at them?

[Monalisa77]

I don't know how else i need to explain it lol i assumed he smoked and he reacted badly to the pt he cut me off.

[Danny_dan92]

Yikes, that’s a bad day

[Monalisa77]

Would u react badly to that if someone did it to u?

[Danny_dan92]

Yelled at me telling me they find me attractive?

[Monalisa77]

No at assuming u smoked lol

[Danny_dan92]

Lol I vape rn. Going to quit but a girl I was talking too told me to stop. That’s not why I stopped talking to her tho

[Monalisa77]

Do u mind me asking Why did u stop talking to her?

[Danny_dan92]

Pm me. I don’t wanna blow up the askers notifications.

[anon1903]

Handsome is what handsome does. If a person doesn't get in my way, I'd always be kind to them. Irregardless of their looks.

[Danny_dan92]

Huh?

[anon1903]

I respect people irregardless of their looks

[anon1903]

Unless I have personal problem with then

[anon1903]

*them

[Danny_dan92]

Gotcha

[Anonymous]

Yes pretty people get better treatment, same for guys too.

There was a college cooking competition for guys. I got first position among all guys participated, mine tasted better too, I got praise from judges. But the guy who's food wasn't good at all and didn't get any position got the most praise from girls just for participation and just for the hint that he is at least interested in cooking, because the guy was good looking.

I used to get top marks too in every class but girls always told the guy who used to rank like 8-9 th as the smartest because he used to look hot.

If you are a not so attractive guy , none of your other qualities matter to the opposite gender. But you don't need to have any qualities if you are good looking. That's how the world is , I am now used to it.

[Asker]

Yeah, it's sad how people are so superficial and are more impressed by external appearance, rather than one's intelligence and education. We live in a world, where celebrities and models are more appreciated over doctors and scientists

[Gloree]

yeah. sort off. I get away with stuff a lot at work. my bosses barely complain. my work most times is last to finish and my colleagues just used to share my work among themselves.

my boss buys me clothes each time he is abroad which almost caused a problem with my boyfriend.

at first I thought it was because I had good luck till a friend told me it's cause of my looks. I have this ever young innocent look which I glamour up with a good dress sense and cool makeup.

but while it brings luck it also triggers trouble with some people who seem to have made a conscious effort not to be affected by looks. Example is my other boss, a woman. she is soooooooo strict. I don't like her. luckily I have my immediate boss to save me always.

[DaveJord]

Honestly, I disagree with you. I my experience their looks have nothing to do with their qualities as a person... actually the prettier they are the more unrealistic their expectation on a relationship is.

True, people tend to be more forgiving of better-looking people, but honestly that is not enough for me. I have been done wrong by too many of them, and prettier women tend to be less forgiving and feel more justified in what they do.

Number of followers on here means nothing. I am an influencer and editor, because apparently, I have written some good stuff. But when you get a tag like that, for example... I am influencer in dating and relationship stuff... well everyone that follows those topics become one of my followers. It is not like 2,000 people individually choose to follow me. They chose to follow the topic.

[coachTanthony]

Good looking people in general are treated better in life at work on the street in a restaurant etc. On the flip side people who are jelly at these people can also be rude to them so it's a double edged sword for sure.

[Asker]

Yes but they will always have someone to jump in to save them

[coachTanthony]

Yes agree... this is called riding the person's coattails.

[MCheetah]

Yes, they are treated better than ugly people. But they are still hated by many. As @AsaKyo said, everyone tends to have haters, even the rich and beautiful. However, the attractive have LESS haters than most.

[Asker]

For sure.. I don't know why people are so oblivious to this fact. Maybe they make themselves feel better by pretending that we live in an ideal world, where everyone's treat equally

[TenderFantasy]

I guess it's just a sad fact of human nature, but actually I have seen ugly people be treated good too (as long as they are either rich, have something other than looks to offer like a job connection or friend, VIP connection, etc.).

I think it is all about what people can get out of you. Also looks FADE as you get older, no one is an exempted from that!

[AsaKyo]

Pretty girls get treated like shit

Ugly girls get treated like shit

Handsome guys get treated like shit

Ugly guys get treated like shit

Everyone gets treated like shit lmao

[Asker]

True but some of these categories get treated like shit more than others...

[PinkRose24]

I get treated with respect

[AsaKyo]

@PinkRose24 Then you're doing something right cause' I always get treated like shit 😂

[PinkRose24]

Maybe you're a feminist?

[AsaKyo]

@PinkRose24 I'm not lmao

[PinkRose24]

Are you sure you don't have feminist qualities in your personality?

[PinkRose24]

Or defects lmao

[AsaKyo]

@PinkRose24 Yeah, I'm not a feminist

[PinkRose24]

🫤 maybe you're area has rude men?

[Ms_Facesitter]

Yes unfortunately many people are superficial and if you look attractive to them they will treat you better. You don't know if they are friendly because they are a good person, because they like you as a person or if it's just for your looks and that isn't fun.

[Lis-the-librarian]

Look at the Jenna Ortega craze or the Margot Robbie craze before that. Everybody acts like they are super talented, kind and what not. But its mostly their good looks that get them this attention.

[Asker]

I think Jenna Ortega is quite overrated as an actress. For some reason she annoys me, when I see her on screen.
I disagree about Margot Robbie; she's versatile and has proven herself in different kind of roles. She was good even in roles that required her to wear heavy makeup, such as I Tonya and Mary Queen of Scots. There's no comparison between those two in my opinion

[Sasha0426]

They do get treated better. HOWEVER, they also get stalked and they get bullied by those who are unattractive because of jealousy. Quite honestly, I wish everyone could be nice to each other no matter how we look. It would make the world a better place.

[Asker]

Well, at least someone will always step in to defend them. No one cares about ugly people. They are considered to be bad by default by others and bullies, like you said...

[Sasha0426]

I know how it feels when no one stands up for me. But, you know what? That taught me to be stronger and to stand up for myself when I know no one else would.

[anon1903]

This question instantly made me think of my mom. Whenever there's crises, we take her along to talk her way out. The success rate is 3/4 times, they let her go because she's charming and pretty. It's very important to look good.

[anon1903]

Mind you, she doesn't flirt. She's just really smooth.

[inhua]

pretty privilege has always existed since the dawn of time throughout history and the animal kingdom. men and women both suffer from this though for unattractive women the treatment is nowhere near as bad as that of unattractive men.

[Asker]

It's the opposite actually. A woman's worth is tied to her looks, whereas unattractive men can compensate for their lack of looks with their personality, charisma, intelligence, money etc. Men are visual creatures, they're primarily attracted to looks, so they're wired to ignore unattractive people

[inhua]

personality and charisma are tied to looks due to the Halo Effect. 2 different people of different looks can say the same joke and get 2 different reactions. intelligence plays very little role because it has no genetic value. money will only attract women for the wrong reasons. no man is truly gonna get a woman who loves him for who he is but what he is. and women are just as visual as men.

[MCheetah]

@inhua @Asker
I agree with you. Since men do the chasing and women do the choosing, they hold all the leverage and power in the dating world. Not to mention, women tend to reject men for things that are harder, if not impossible, to fix, such as wealth or height. Usually, men only reject women for being overweight, and even THEN, it's usually only white men who tend to be the most shallow. Plenty of 5 out of 10 women can get a man, especially men above her level. Few 5 out of 10 men can get a woman, even women below his level. Height, looks, income, and ego are all the things men need, to get a woman. A woman ONLY needs looks; she doesn't need to be 5'10"+, earning six or seven figures, or have confidence out the ass, to get a man. Asker only thinks it's harder for women, cause she's never had to be a short and/or unattractive man before.

[Lovelydove13]

Yup men are always attracted to pretty girls... but when it comes to dating they also consider the girl's character. Bad character can be a turn off...

[RangerBlue22]

This goes for everyone. But western attractive women are among the most privileged category of people on earth.

[exitseven]

If a girl is hot she hardly ever has to worry about getting a speeding ticket, unless it is from a female cop.

[Anonymous]

I don't know if guys find me attractive or not but what I do know is every guy I met has been nice and respectful to me. Even if I reject a guy he takes it well and respects my decision. I don't know why but I think they automatically assume I'm a nice person because they are always delicate with me.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh babies always stare at me but they have a blank stare lol

[Opinion Owner]

Oh and what I just realized is guy always try to joke with me or tease me. I used to think it was rude but everyone keeps telling me they are flirting with me. I'm not good at picking up signals like that.

[suzzieQ]

That is called pretty privilege. It is a form of privilege people get because they are considered good-looking to society’s definition of beauty.

[boggboss]

Its not only women good looking people tend to be treated better its believed a human trait

[Soremain]

Yes I agree they're treated better, but I don't think they're assumed to be kind, smart, talented or funny. I believe people SAY that they are, just to kiss their asses because people want to be liked by them.

[Guy13]

Yes and there’s plenty of research to prove it