What girls can a short guy hope to date?

[Anonymous]

-Can't go after tall girls they prefer super tall or tall guys.

-Can't go after average girls they prefer tall or above average height.

-Can't go after short girls they prefer above average or average height.

So what does that leave short guys?

His right hand

Development of a misogynistic attitude

Friend zone

ALL OF THE ABOVE

Updates

+1 y

Everyone that has answered so far has dodged the actual question


btw I am 5'11 which is not classified as short, I don't know why everyone assumes just because I decide to ask a random question about short guys in the dating game; means its about me or I am short or have an attitude problem.

[ararune555]

Have you noticed how quick people are to just absolutely trash talk short guys? I don't imagine you'd see such replies if it were a girl asking about her oddly shaped nose or feeling insecure about her breast size or whatever.

Next, they manage to somehow argue both that height is not a big deal, yet you should make up for it in other ways. Imagine if guys said that since the girl doesn't have the breast size you like, that she has to make up for it. Imagine the outrage and the labels he'd get.
It's not a big deal, just don't date girls taller or your height, date girls shorter than you so that they don't feel uncomfortable. So height doesn't matter, yet girls will be uncomfortable if you're shorter, gotcha.

If girls didn't have double standards, they wouldn't have any. Girls, everything you say not to sound shallow, only makes you sound more shallow, because you're so hell bent on keeping this facade, that you're not even considering to say the truth, you're as shallow if not more shallow than men. You may not necessarily be lying, you might simply be deluded. But there's an easy way to test this. Make two profiles, on one you'll be a short and not so attractive guy, and on the other you'll be tall and handsome. You'll be the same person of course, but check out what kind of attention you'll get respectively with each profile. Have you ever read about guys who would put up an ad where they indicate their short stature and never get any reply, and then they add another ad where everything's the same except now they're 6'2, lo and behold 22 replies. Must have been confidence, *shrugs shoulders*

[EngineeringStudent]

Well, being moderately tall myself, I can't say I know what short men go through. Based off of my own observations, however, there are ways one can maximize their dating prospects.

Short stature is a disadvantage, but it certainly doesn't put one out of the game. Preferences don't mean standards. Most girls do generally prefer taller guys, but a good chunk of them wouldn't mind dating a guy who wasn't tall. Also, there is the occasional anomaly who would actually prefer a guy closer to her height. Don't make it obvious that your height bothers you. The only thing that would accomplish is turning off those girls who truly wouldn't mind.

[briannamarieb]

Dude, this anonymous guy doesn't care bout what they can do to try and get more girls. He's just focused on letting people know that being a short guy sucks and there is no possible way of making up for it. Oh and to argue about why the possible ways a short guy could as you said maximize their dating prospects would still never make up for being short.

[ararune555]

The thing is, height isn't a thing of preference to women, it's actually one of the most important requirements, i'm not from USA and girls won't tiptoe around the truth as much here, so i've had plenty of girls outright confirm they wouldn't date someone short. My beak nose would qualify as a disadvantage, but height is a disqualifier.

So basically, your argument is reduced to anomalies? Anomaly is nothing but a girl who can't afford to be picky. It amazes me that it's so acceptable to mock short people and then even blame them for feeling self conscious. It's like saying to a girl that thinks she's ugly, well it must be that they don't want you because you're self conscious about it, definitely not because they don't find you attractive.

[Anonymous]

Really hot, smart, funny, tall guys have asked me out.

Guys with nice eyes and average height and a sweet attitude have asked me out.

But I won't date any of them because I am in love with my friend who is just an amazing person to me. I just have a huge crush on him. Just for his personality.

He is 5'5'' I am 5'3''.

I answered "Friend zone" because you never know... I bet some of those girls in his friend zone are secretly into him, even if he is short.

[Girlie8780]

personality can make up for height. I have a friend who's five foot and dated a six foot tall girl because he is actually amazing in every way other than height. I'm not saying that short guys have to be amazing like him but height isn't the only factor when you look for someone to date.

[ararune555]

Everyone has a personality, it's obviously a huge factor if right from the get go you have to make up for it. It's like saying looks don't matter to guys, it's just that if you aren't super pretty, you better make up for it in some other way.

It isn't the only factor, but do you see the problem here? If so many girls already have the mentality that you have to make up for your height, then what happens when you consider other factors?

[Anonymous]

I don't think the height matters in my opinion. It depends more on the person. My boyfriend isn't extremely tall either. He's like 5'8 or 5'9.. and I adore him! (:

[ararune555]

5'8/5'9 is average height if you're from USA for men, so i don't know what you're trying to prove there. Not all girls can get the extremely tall guys either.

[StacyGold]

Voted D, although in retrospect: I would definitely not want to be friends with some back-stabbing manlet.

[JHAYES317]

Good thing you outed yourself

[TheoryOfAvarice]

So tired of all these angsty short-guy questions.

I'm not going to date ANY guy who's so hung up on how tall or short he is.

Boyfriend is 5'5", I'm 5'3".

There's more to dating and attraction than how tall you are.

[Asker]

If your tired of the questions then don't answer them. Last time I checked, this is a site for asking such questions.

And newsflash most people are hung up or self conscious about something, height being in the question posed.

[TheoryOfAvarice]

I'm just saying. Don't act like there's no hope in the world for you, just because you're not 6' or whatever. It's pathetic.

I realize that we all have our insecurities, but come on. Everyone is attracted to different things. Short guys are NOT unattractive.

[Asker]

Why do you just assume I'm short? What, average or tall guys can't point out the shallow standards of women in regards to height?

And again this site sugar coats to much crap. Short guys will be overlooked, agree<

[TheoryOfAvarice]

I assumed so because you didn't state otherwise and because most guys who post these questions consider themselves to be short.

And I'm not sugar-coating anything. I'm just telling you what I think. You're the one being narrow-minded.

[ararune555]

Well you know what? The worst attitude here is demonstrated by women, honestly it's disgusting the way you attack this guy. You say everyone has insecurities, but somehow it's ok to even mock a guy who might be insecure about his height. Imagine if people reacted in such manner when it came to your insecurities.

If it was really about attitude, you'd never get a boyfriend with one like that. And you girls always have an absurd justification like "guys don't want to date taller women". No, that's not true, i am deeply saddened that people are even suggesting to ignore taller women, i don't want to choose on that basis.

Classic bullshit "everyone's attracted to different things". It's not true at all, beauty is objective, it's measurable and scientifically it's been demonstrated that some traits such as height in males are universally important, obviously women not only preferring, but requiring a taller man. There's always a midget girl saying height doesn't matter to her.

[JHAYES317]

Yeah but would you date a guy who was your height?

[peace-love-couture]

Well if the short guys spends his time on girlsaskguys throwing himself a pity party, his right hand

A

[Asker]

Or maybe the guy in question, wants to get out in the dating game but realizes in reality, no woman wants the short guy.

Do you prefer to date a short guy? Doubt it.

[Gangactivities911]

Confidence and social skills are more important than height I think so develop those really well and you’ll be ok I know short guys who do super good with women

[Careeve36]

I would say being short myself you not only have to have personality, but also self confidence. Girls dislike any guy tall or short without any self confidence.

[ararune555]

Luckily, you're not short. So keep thinking it's about your confidence or whatever bullshit, or do you imagine all the short guys have confidence issues?

[briannamarieb]

Do you know how short rappers like T.I are and I think Little Wayne is also a little short, so you just have to learn how to charm them with charisma and body language instead of height.

[Asker]

Yes I am well aware money is a compensating factor.

Though... Money < Money + Height

[briannamarieb]

Not even money its just their overall demeanor and confidence that draws you to them...money would just be a bonus.

[Asker]

Money+Overall demeanor+Confidence < Money+Overall demeanor+Confidence+Height

[briannamarieb]

Look why ask a question if our never going to be satisfied with any answer. You need to shake this height issue because your always going to be short no matter what for the rest of your life and you can either take some advice and grow for it or be a miserable douche bag about it for the rest of your life. A guy at my school was short and DIDN'T have money or the height, but he had confidence and (I hate this word)swagg and he got girls that even the taller guys couldn't get.

[briannamarieb]

@update I assumed you were short because you were being negative like no matter what advice I was trying to give on how short guys can get whatever girl they want you would always come back with something negative.

[Asker]

Okay and my point is, height would always be considered a benefit.

[briannamarieb]

Basically your not asking a question your just stating an opinion which is not what this site is for sorry. Short guys should try talking to girls their height or an inch or two short just so the girl doesn't feel uncomfortable or find a woman that likes to date shorter guys. There is nothing wrong with a girl that doesn't want to date someone shorter than her just like guys don't want to date a girl taller than them.

[Asker]

No. I'm asking a question and you just answered it. "Short guys should try talking to girls their height or an inch or two short just so the girl doesn't feel uncomfortable or find a woman that likes to date shorter guys"

In other words, short men's dating pools are severely limited to a girls height, just like my initial assumption. Re read my question, come back to this when your done... k?

[briannamarieb]

No you already have your mind made up about this, so why even have people give opinions.

[Asker]

Because opinions prove my predispositional assumptions.

[briannamarieb]

Kind of, but not really. Everyone has something about them that doesn't make them dateable or attractive to some one else therefore everyone in the world has a certain group of people that wouldn't date them. That's why there really is no excuse on why a short guy can't get with girls or whatever because I''m pretty sure that guy has his own standards that he is looking for.

[Asker]

Kind of, but not really. Everyone has something about them that doesn't make them dateable or attractive to some one else therefore everyone in the world has a certain group of people that wouldn't date them. EXACTLY. Being a short guy limits your dating pool, because about 95% of women wouldn't consider dating them. AND THIS IS ONLY ONE TRAIT. Keep in mind people have preferences about everything. By the time women's standard are all said and done short guys really aren't considered for dating.

[briannamarieb]

Depending on everyones definition of short. My not dateable short guy would be 5'8 or shorter, but another girls short guy might be 5'5 so the guys that I consider to be short aren't short to her. There are similar personalities of all women at different heights there's the girl next door that could be 5'1 or 5'5 or 6'0 or if you want the outgoing party chick they come in all different heights as well.

[ararune555]

Of course he has already made his mind up. He's asking because he'd like to see if he's wrong, and your answers aren't convincing. I love it when people make such absurd accusations.
It's as if he should just take your word for it, even if it's not logically or demonstrably sound.

I am amused by how much girls like to elevate themselves just in order not to appear shallow, when they really are. Give me a break, body language? I've seen the most insecure tall guys get a girl with ease, they don't have to do any work, they're just attractive physically, that's what it's about, we're animals. But heaven forbid you might for a second admit that you're not beyond evolution. Just look at that guy Jeremy Meeks, the guy's a criminal yet women are drooling over him. But yeah, personality, body language (smashing a teenager's skull)

[ararune555]

"Short guys should try talking to girls their height or an inch or two short just so the girl doesn't feel uncomfortable or find a woman that likes to date shorter guys. There is nothing wrong with a girl that doesn't want to date someone shorter than her just like guys don't want to date a girl taller than them."

This is why he's calling you out on your bullshit. You can't fucking say height doesn't matter and then proceed to say this. Why would a girl feel uncomfortable if height isn't that important? Classic female hypocritical bullshit. I've never heart about guys not wanting taller women, because i sure do find women of all sort of heights attractive, just not the fat ones.
You don't need to be smart if you tell the truth, so i'd stick with the truth.

[kayotik]

*facepalm*

Your attitude is a bigger turn off than your height.

PS. I'm 5'3" and I love short guys.

[Asker]

Huh? What attitude? Are you just making a rash assumption about me and my personality based on a question I asked, pointing out dating and most women's thoughts about short men in the real world?

[kayotik]

Your attitude about your height. Many short guys, especially on this site, seem to be very bitter and whiny about their heights. It's annoying. The fact that you posted this question has caused me to infer than you are one of those guys.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Honestly, if you look at all the answers women give around here when it comes to height or the answers women give elsewhere or in real life or notice the pattern, short guys do get pretty screwed there. But ya, you just gotta be confident and not care about your height and you'll find girls fine.

[kayotik]

Well, the thing is, I actually do prefer short guys. And I've said so repeatedly. And I've been accused of lying about it. Some guys are so fixated on being bitter about their height that they don't really care what anyone has to say. Sorry, QA, if you are not actually one of those guys, but I feel that it was a logical conclusion to reach based on my past experience with these types of questions.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Eh, you're honestly not the norm for girls when it comes to height. Sadly. Not that I care, I don't know a girl taller than me lol. It's just a pity so many girls put so much emphasis on height. And, I don't think I'd really see a reason to prefer one way or the other honestly. Short or tall or whatever. It's nothing they can control in their life.

[ararune555]

What is the bitterness an indicator of, and why do you use it like it's an actual argument? If people are bitter, there's a reason they're bitter. If people are bitter about their height, it must have caused them a great deal of inconvenience to become bitter about it, don't you imagine?

You're mistaking causation for effect. Nobody's born bitter about their height, people make them bitter. And women are all too ready to blame it on the attitude, as if the guy always had such attitude. Some of the biggest douchebags have no problem getting women, but you're always ready to blame it on his attitude, it couldn't be that he's just short.

[GoddessShosanna]

Silly, little boys. Manlets are gross, weirdo clowns!

[JHAYES317]

You are a gross, weirdo clown

[AlixMinx]

All of the above. Short guys are losers.

[JHAYES317]

You are a loser

[gaggleii]

How short are you exactly?

[Anonymous]

Relax.

Love,

Wee man.

[Opinion Owner]

A down vote? I am almost 6'7", I have nothing to worry about in the height department. Average height in the US for a white male is 5'10".. So why are you bitching if you're above average? You aren't even short.

[Opinion Owner]

Wahhhhhhhhhhhh Wahhhhhhhhhhhhh I'm 5'11"... Wahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[Asker]

Congrats troll. This question was not about you, nor did I ask anything about you because I don't care.

[Opinion Owner]

F*** off dude. Keep whining. Sew your balls back on.