I'm sure a lot of people go through their hating the opposite sex stage. Usually it's only fleeting but sometimes it lasts a while. I know I can't speak for everyone but I think a lot of us guys were always under the impression that if you were a nice enough individual (i.e. you're not a serial killer) were responsible (job, education etc.) and were reasonably good looking you would have no problem finding someone similar. When this doesn't happen I think it's natural to get frustrated.
Not all guys are ***holes. some of respect people. why should we not wonder why you complain about ***holes but then shoot decent guys. the article started off good though. I agree that guys need stop making excuses, if you want more girls in your life then step up your game. there's plenty of free help online and if it means that much to you pay for lessons or a seminar
Every guy who takes rejection seriously is a spoiled baby. Don't EVER assume anything. You don't get everything you want in life, so don't take things for granted. Getting a girl that you want takes work. Keep working on yourself and keep changing. Evolve to a better version 2.0. Keep the drama out of your life too - most drama these days starts within yourself. Girls play the 'game' because they won't settle for a guy who puts them on the pedestal.
3. "Seriously, if I'm spending two hours on my hair, I don't think it's too much to ask for a guy to appreciate how I look." What this really means is she only wants men who she likes to appreciate how she looks. Its like going fishing and using trying to shoo away the smaller fish so that you can catch the big one. And then BLAMING the small fish for wanting the bait and hating them for it.- its stupid.
1. You are either lowering your standards to accept someone whos ugly and therefore your going to be bitter or you don't. Either you get a woman whos ugly and not what you really wanted or you dont. There is no in-between.
2. Its not an unfinished thought its called a Freudian slip. (this article is meant to bash men written by a bitter woman.)
Haha I think I'm one of these guys and yes Gen X. I've been hurt in the past and I think I'm kind of like you described because I don't like the pain in the end. I'm looking for the one and I haven't dated in a long time(so it has not been working) but I now decided I need to get out of my rut. I'm gonna start dating or hanging out with girls because Call of Duty nights are getting boring. It's Call of Duty not Halo Now! Good post tho.
I always like to mention at this point that these jaded men are probably a by-product of some evolutionary behavior. If we realize that our flirting/courting behavior developed in an environment where there were very few people of the opposite sex of reproductive age. This would mean that a man is going to be reluctant to initially talk to her, and if she does reject him completely he's going to feel jaded and bitter indeed. It would be bad for the whole tribe if they didn't reproduce.
"We didn't walk up to Hitler and expect him to disband his reign of terror. We had to fight for it."
That's just a bad analogy.
"You probably know nothing about her. Her killer smile doesn't automatically give her a killer personality. Just move on."
So which is it? When do we fight for her and when do we move on? The only women that I want to fight for are the one's that I am passionate about, and I'm certainly not going to just let them go.
The women who come into my office do so as if they are on a 'runway' in Paris or London with the tightest shorts / levis they can find and are so vain and narcissitic as to look around in the process, as to casually glance around to see just whom is checking out their butt. I am talking about a State government office, where one would would think this would be the last place to parade your ass for all the boys and men to look at and admire and yes, comment on.
I think I laid it out pretty well. I'm not going to keep feeding men the "don't worry, it'll be okay" line. If anyone thinks that's judgmental and conceited, you can go ahead and think that. I have my own bone to pick both genders and I'm not grouping -all- men into one category. Like I've said time and time again, I'm addressing a specific type of male- the jaded one, the type of male who would rather sit around feeling sorry for himself.
Thanks for the vote of confidence, Meedo. I'm finding that most of the people who criticize the article spend more time making assumptions about what I'm saying instead of reading what I'm actually saying. They also think everything I say is conclusive even though I've stated that it's not.
But it's the classic defense mechanism where X is the magical solution but takes considerable effort
to implement so they'd rather disprove X than put in the effort.
5. Yes its worth it to have a 10 on your arm, because men want to be you, and because you have that 10 women want to be with you. And as long as your screwing them who cares, if she cheats on you, just screw other women too and tell her before hand that your not being exclusive. Maybe screwing you and chucking you is mans way of getting even for all the crap women do to them.
Men are not going to start dating ugly women and lower their standards.. its not going to happen.
4. You're putting everything on the line? pfft. You have a sure thing the moment you get in his car. ANd you don't have to put out, if you do, that's on YOU, not him. It takes 2 to have sex. The average date costs 100 bucks. He has to pay for you regardless if the date goes good OR bad. Its like knowing you are going to win at gambling every single time. I'm sorry, I don't feel sorry for you.
3. I have female friends who laugh about rejecting men all the time... that's bullsh*t.
1. So jaded men should date 900 lb 80 year old women with 20 cats. Fine... at least I won't be lonely. And maybe some of those jaded men are good on the inside but no women gives them a chance because they come off "creepy" when really they are just nervous as hell.
2. Sounds like your a jaded woman. "all men are undeserving of women." whatever.
3. Yes its too much to ask for a man to compliment you on your hair, and then primarily dismiss him because you wanted no male intervention.
@Meedo when a girl pretends she can read your mind, you know there is something wrong with her..
She tells me in order that I'm superficial, and asshole, that all girls are "good girls", that I'm broken, and the girls I date are the "wrong girls"..
I have no clue why guys are on Epiphanies case here. This article doesn't adress you if you are not bitter. And frankly we shouldnt be . I am not the luckiest person in the dating world , but women can't help bieng attracted to whomever they are attracted to . If we men take a more positive attitude in life we will surely get the girl of our dreams .
Seriously? I might have responded with a "wtf, did you even read the article?" until the lack of questions and answers on your account set off a troll alert.
Thank you, though. I do feel flattered that you went through all the trouble to create an account just so you could bash my article with a comment that has nothing to do with the article itself.
WOW! I don't even know where to start with this article. Let me just say this just proves that women don't deserve honesty from men. Women like this are shalow anoying and just plain stupid. You spend hours trying so hard to make yourselves beautiful on the outside while your rot and get uglier from within by the day. What hapens when the outer beauty fades? You just becom a biter old bitch. Here's an Idea why not try geting a personality so we can actualy tolerate being around You more than a week.
Quantumdefender, I don't know what author you're talking about but it definitely isn't me. Women do make mistakes. I've referred to several instances in this article where girls make mistakes (not just the "wrong girls") which means you either haven't read the article or you have ignored those parts.
Nah, it's cool - I understand what you mean now, though. It's easy to hate on other people's good fortune because we think they "don't deserve it", but even the best of us aren't saints all the time. We're all human and there are times when some issuing of the benefit of the doubt is in order. 8-)
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I'm sure a lot of people go through their hating the opposite sex stage. Usually it's only fleeting but sometimes it lasts a while. I know I can't speak for everyone but I think a lot of us guys were always under the impression that if you were a nice enough individual (i.e. you're not a serial killer) were responsible (job, education etc.) and were reasonably good looking you would have no problem finding someone similar. When this doesn't happen I think it's natural to get frustrated.
Not all guys are ***holes. some of respect people. why should we not wonder why you complain about ***holes but then shoot decent guys. the article started off good though. I agree that guys need stop making excuses, if you want more girls in your life then step up your game. there's plenty of free help online and if it means that much to you pay for lessons or a seminar
Every guy who takes rejection seriously is a spoiled baby. Don't EVER assume anything. You don't get everything you want in life, so don't take things for granted. Getting a girl that you want takes work. Keep working on yourself and keep changing. Evolve to a better version 2.0. Keep the drama out of your life too - most drama these days starts within yourself. Girls play the 'game' because they won't settle for a guy who puts them on the pedestal.
3. "Seriously, if I'm spending two hours on my hair, I don't think it's too much to ask for a guy to appreciate how I look." What this really means is she only wants men who she likes to appreciate how she looks. Its like going fishing and using trying to shoo away the smaller fish so that you can catch the big one. And then BLAMING the small fish for wanting the bait and hating them for it.- its stupid.
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1. You are either lowering your standards to accept someone whos ugly and therefore your going to be bitter or you don't. Either you get a woman whos ugly and not what you really wanted or you dont. There is no in-between.
2. Its not an unfinished thought its called a Freudian slip. (this article is meant to bash men written by a bitter woman.)
Haha I think I'm one of these guys and yes Gen X. I've been hurt in the past and I think I'm kind of like you described because I don't like the pain in the end. I'm looking for the one and I haven't dated in a long time(so it has not been working) but I now decided I need to get out of my rut. I'm gonna start dating or hanging out with girls because Call of Duty nights are getting boring. It's Call of Duty not Halo Now! Good post tho.
I always like to mention at this point that these jaded men are probably a by-product of some evolutionary behavior. If we realize that our flirting/courting behavior developed in an environment where there were very few people of the opposite sex of reproductive age. This would mean that a man is going to be reluctant to initially talk to her, and if she does reject him completely he's going to feel jaded and bitter indeed. It would be bad for the whole tribe if they didn't reproduce.
"We didn't walk up to Hitler and expect him to disband his reign of terror. We had to fight for it."
That's just a bad analogy.
"You probably know nothing about her. Her killer smile doesn't automatically give her a killer personality. Just move on."
So which is it? When do we fight for her and when do we move on? The only women that I want to fight for are the one's that I am passionate about, and I'm certainly not going to just let them go.
The women who come into my office do so as if they are on a 'runway' in Paris or London with the tightest shorts / levis they can find and are so vain and narcissitic as to look around in the process, as to casually glance around to see just whom is checking out their butt. I am talking about a State government office, where one would would think this would be the last place to parade your ass for all the boys and men to look at and admire and yes, comment on.
I think I laid it out pretty well. I'm not going to keep feeding men the "don't worry, it'll be okay" line. If anyone thinks that's judgmental and conceited, you can go ahead and think that. I have my own bone to pick both genders and I'm not grouping -all- men into one category. Like I've said time and time again, I'm addressing a specific type of male- the jaded one, the type of male who would rather sit around feeling sorry for himself.
Jaded men also aren't so open to criticism :)
Thanks for the vote of confidence, Meedo. I'm finding that most of the people who criticize the article spend more time making assumptions about what I'm saying instead of reading what I'm actually saying. They also think everything I say is conclusive even though I've stated that it's not.
But it's the classic defense mechanism where X is the magical solution but takes considerable effort
to implement so they'd rather disprove X than put in the effort.
5. Yes its worth it to have a 10 on your arm, because men want to be you, and because you have that 10 women want to be with you. And as long as your screwing them who cares, if she cheats on you, just screw other women too and tell her before hand that your not being exclusive. Maybe screwing you and chucking you is mans way of getting even for all the crap women do to them.
Men are not going to start dating ugly women and lower their standards.. its not going to happen.
4. You're putting everything on the line? pfft. You have a sure thing the moment you get in his car. ANd you don't have to put out, if you do, that's on YOU, not him. It takes 2 to have sex. The average date costs 100 bucks. He has to pay for you regardless if the date goes good OR bad. Its like knowing you are going to win at gambling every single time. I'm sorry, I don't feel sorry for you.
3. I have female friends who laugh about rejecting men all the time... that's bullsh*t.
1. So jaded men should date 900 lb 80 year old women with 20 cats. Fine... at least I won't be lonely. And maybe some of those jaded men are good on the inside but no women gives them a chance because they come off "creepy" when really they are just nervous as hell.
2. Sounds like your a jaded woman. "all men are undeserving of women." whatever.
3. Yes its too much to ask for a man to compliment you on your hair, and then primarily dismiss him because you wanted no male intervention.
@Meedo when a girl pretends she can read your mind, you know there is something wrong with her..
She tells me in order that I'm superficial, and asshole, that all girls are "good girls", that I'm broken, and the girls I date are the "wrong girls"..
I don't hate, but I DISLIKE women like her.
I have no clue why guys are on Epiphanies case here. This article doesn't adress you if you are not bitter. And frankly we shouldnt be . I am not the luckiest person in the dating world , but women can't help bieng attracted to whomever they are attracted to . If we men take a more positive attitude in life we will surely get the girl of our dreams .
Seriously? I might have responded with a "wtf, did you even read the article?" until the lack of questions and answers on your account set off a troll alert.
Thank you, though. I do feel flattered that you went through all the trouble to create an account just so you could bash my article with a comment that has nothing to do with the article itself.
WOW! I don't even know where to start with this article. Let me just say this just proves that women don't deserve honesty from men. Women like this are shalow anoying and just plain stupid. You spend hours trying so hard to make yourselves beautiful on the outside while your rot and get uglier from within by the day. What hapens when the outer beauty fades? You just becom a biter old bitch. Here's an Idea why not try geting a personality so we can actualy tolerate being around You more than a week.
Quantumdefender, I don't know what author you're talking about but it definitely isn't me. Women do make mistakes. I've referred to several instances in this article where girls make mistakes (not just the "wrong girls") which means you either haven't read the article or you have ignored those parts.
Nah, it's cool - I understand what you mean now, though. It's easy to hate on other people's good fortune because we think they "don't deserve it", but even the best of us aren't saints all the time. We're all human and there are times when some issuing of the benefit of the doubt is in order. 8-)