Why Attracting Women is a Mind Game, and How to Play It

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Why Attracting Women is a Mind Game, and How to Play It

Have you ever wondered why that girl you've been crushing on for years doesn't like you and instead, takes the more confident, stronger (physically) guy?

As a 17 year old male I have had this happen way too many times and so has other men my age and above. There are two reasons why this happens. One reason is that it could be that you are just unattractive to her and unfortunately, I can't help you with that, but the other reason is that you aren't playing the right cards. In this Take, I will explain how 95% of attracting women is a mind game and how you can crack the code. Let's get started by first learning how to play the game:

1.) Think of it as a Texas Hold'em poker game

Why Attracting Women is a Mind Game, and How to Play It

Think of it like this. You are playing Texas Hold'em poker with your friends (if you don't know what Texas Hold'em poker is, Google it and then come back), and you have pocket aces (two aces in your hand, the best "hand" you can have). But your buddy stacks on his bets and makes you nervous, so you fold (drop out or forfeit the round) and when he reveals his cards, you see that he has nothing good.

What I'm trying to get at here is that you must be able to read body language and stand your ground. If she looks interested (like playing with her hair, eye contact, etc.) then keep playing the game, if she doesn't look interested (no eye contact, disgusted face, body turned away from you, etc.) then i'm sorry but you've already lost the game. There are two reasons why you have lost. The first reason is that she is simply not physically attracted to you, which I can't help you with. It seems as though today, girls tend to think poorly of those who they are not physically attracted to, so if you aren't physically attracted to them, you won't be able to even talk to them.

The second reason is that they are physically attracted to you, but you did not intrigue them enough for them to want to pursue you. Remember, the goal here, in poker terms, is to win the pot for that round, in other words, win her. In order to win the pot, you must intrigue the other players by placing bigger bets and eliminating the players by either placing too high of a bet (causing them to fold) or by the luck of the draw when you both reveal your cards. In order to intrigue her, you have to bring something special to the table (placing your bets).

Talk about a talent you have, an adventure you went on, what you like to do, etc. Girls don't like guys that bring nothing to the table, they will feel like they have wasted their time. All of this will get you to hopefully win her over, but if she's a tougher nut to crack, you might have to try this next point.

2.) Read her, then adjust

Why Attracting Women is a Mind Game, and How to Play It

I want you to read her like a book. Come up with a bomb-ass playbook of all her plays and see how she picks her guys and what strategies she uses, then adjust to what she likes. I personally believe that it is okay to change yourself a little bit as long as you feel comfortable with it. If she's into bad boys, start dressing and acting like a bad boy. If she's into nice guys (have fun finding a girl who likes that), then start acting like a nice guy.

Simple as that, but never forget who you are. You shouldn't be ending friendships with people just because you are trying to get a certain girl. I hate it when people say "find a girl who's into you for you", do you know how many girls, that you will be attracted to, are going to like you for you? Very slim. It's hard to find those girls, so sometimes you need to adjust.

3.) Study, Study, Study

Why Attracting Women is a Mind Game, and How to Play It

This kind of goes with point number two, but in more depth. You have to study the girl you like. You study for a test in order to ace it right? (I know some of you don't study for tests, including me, but hear me out) so you have to study your girl in order to get her. Study her behavior, what she's into, how she treats people, etc. No girl is the same, some girls are into different things than other girls, that's why you must study the girl you are into. Know thy enemy (don't think of her as your enemy though, that wouldn't turn out too well).

And there you have it. Three points explaining how to play the mind game that girls use all the time. Women in general are interesting creatures. Since the beginning of time, the woman would choose the male she believes suits her best and leave the other males in the dust. Kind of sad if you ask me, but then I started to learn that they play by a certain mind game in order to pick their soulmate. Multiple men have fell victim to rejection, including me, countless times, but hopefully you get something out of this myTake. Thanks for reading!

Why Attracting Women is a Mind Game, and How to Play It
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