What happens to guys who never ask women out?

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I had an uncle who recently passed away from cancer. He was 70. In his entire life, he never asked a woman out, he never approached them. Like me, he was extremely shy. Besides his mother, he never experienced female companionship and he never had sex. I believe I got lucky when I met my girlfriend because I believe I would've ended up like him due to the fact that I had no experience with women at all. Is what happens to guys who never ask women out?

aficionado · Accepted Answer

I'm EXACTLY like your uncle here, because I have never asked a woman out until now (and I doubt if I ever will). I have a morbid fear of rejection. And being a a more emotional and sensitive man than most others, I consider rejection as a personal insult and humiliation. Besides, I'm quite insecure about my looks too.

Girls have asked me out in the past and I have been in a couple of relationships too. As for 'what happens' to me, I don't know. And frankly I don't bother. I'll take life as it comes. I'm not desperate for love or sex. If it happens, its a bonus.

moviedude714 · Accepted Answer

usually never having a relationship and dying a virgin, thats usually the cold harsh truth

Vennie · Accepted Answer

It would depend on how shy he is. If he's shy but can at least flirt and smile, then we might start a conversation and it goes on from there.
However, if he's like your uncle to the point of not even smiling nor looking at the woman, then nothing happens.

eaglette · Accepted Answer

I know guys like that. They will never directly ask a woman out. But they do have to be able to flirt and show interest so the girl can then make the move realizing he's shy

crazyemster · Accepted Answer

I'm sorry about your uncle :(. Hopefully that doesn't happen though, because girls can make the first move too. I've made the first move more than once.

JackKerouac77 · Answer

My Dad had a cousin who was like this.

Honestly, it's just kind of hard to imagine.

Thank God I've already had two girlfriends so I at least have experience, but man... it's kind of like a psychological trap you get yourself in. Terrible.

Sorry to hear about your uncle, hope he was a good dude.

Stay based, my friend.

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

"Men who have lived significant lives are men who never waited: not for money, security, ease or women." - David Deida

David Deida said that quote in "The Way of the Superior Man", unfortuneately he is right, i hate the cards i was dealt with for being born a guy because i never had a rite of passage ritual on how to be an Alpha Male or a so-called real Masculine Man!, being assertive, taking the lead, being the initiator never came natural for me, for guys it's literally a matter of knowing how to get a girlfriend, for girls they don't need to literally know how to get a boyfriend

SecretSomeone · Answer

I don't know what is the big deal of asking a girl out or being friends with her, it is only hard when you talk for the first time but then it all flows, as for guys who never ask women out they either end up single or marry in the cultural way, here in Egypt your parents will introduce a girl to you and if you like her you'll go and ask her from her parents or you can just have a gf and introduce her to your parents

TheWorldIsUrs · Answer

If I get to know those shy guys who're afraid to ask women out & I think they're cool guys who've a lot to offer but are always too hard on themselves; then I usually get annoyed & I force them to go ask girls out. Literally they've no say in it at all.

Harsh_5299 · Answer

Well, i'll be the devil's advocate here and support optimism in this case...

You won't have to waste half of your life, energy and time trying to please someone or gain their approval

No one will stop you or try to change you into changing your goals

You can now afford bigger risks to succeed in life

Men who are abstinent and unmarried have a higher life expectancy than any other type of human and have higher iq levels

You can take care of your elderly parents

Have pets/ adopt kids or have surrogate ones if you like kids

Enjoy a long, healthy , peaceful and hassle free life... this is what happens to guys who never ask women out... there's nothing wrong dying a virgin if you have a more happy life than 90% of others lol

Tokana · Answer

This question will probably send shockwaves to 50% of male GaGers who are afraid to approach women. lol

kamaehameha1234 · Answer

asexual? or gay? or extremely reserved (hermit level)? or straight didn't give a fuck shy people usually figure out a way to ask women on dates.

steven5678 · Answer

I think that is rare because I think most of the time a woman eventually asks them out.

Anonymous · Answer

i guess yes... women are more shy than guys (ok there are some exceptions though) and they usually wait for the guy to make a move.. if he never does then even if she likes him too nothing will happen...:)

Klaatu51 · Answer

we grow wings on our back and horns on our heads once we turn 30 and never do it. LOL

and you don't have to be shy. i'm not shy but i don't ask any women out because i don't want to. i only pay prostitutes for sex

Anonymous · Answer

I've had 7 girlfriends and 3 weeks ago was the first time ever I'd said to a girl, "Do you fancy meeting up for a drink". I can't explain it either.

Anonymous · Answer

Thank God I find a girl friend. She made the first move, I am not proud of not been able to do It at the time.

ÉlanVital · Answer

Im sorry to hear that your uncle never experienced one of life's great gifts. Well at least he lived a somewhat long life.

itsme_goodsamaritan · Answer

If u want something you either have to seek it, or wait for something to come along and not miss it. Option A is easier.

Eternallylucky · Answer

Well hopefully not like Elliot Rodger. But mainly reclusive and afraid of people for life.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't ask anyone out. I'm not attractive enough to garner female attention either. That being said, yes, I fully expect that I will die alone.

cavmanier · Answer

From my experiences a lot of times they will ask us out too.

Anonymous · Answer

I know a guy who is 39 years old, who hasn't ever asked women out. I think he has SAD (Social Anxiety Disorder), and probably will never get any help for it.

skinnyblack28 · Answer

get drunk, meet a girl, one night stand, relationship

Anonymous · Answer

I'm half way there I'm to ugly for dating hell, I'm to ugly for female friends. I'll end up dying a virgin.

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