Do hugs actually mean anything to you guys?

So, the story that I behind this question is that about a week or so ago one of my guy friends (that I like), well we actually started hugging for the first time. And one day after school we were playing Frisbee in the rain and after that I said he and his best friend needed I hug each other. which they did not do. So he starts walking towards me saying how his friend probably needs a demonstration and we hug. Well, a few days ago (and a few days after that) we were at a football game and like we hugged when we would randomly see each other and then when I left. And here'd the last part. So, Today we were at church hanging out (and its one of those casual churches) and well I hugged him once and when he asked why I hugged him I said it was because I didn't get a hug right when I saw him before. But later I said I had to go and (I forget whether it was him or me who started the hug...think it was him...) and I come back after because I didn't actually have to leave just yet. Then...We hang out and I finally have to go and I say bye and start to walk away but then he wants a hug so we hug and then I left. But I'm trying to figure out this...Does a hug mean anything at all? is it like a friend thing or like a 'i-like-you' thing? or both?


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  • Can be both for sure. In my opinion, when he said he needed a "demonstration" I would sondier that to be flirting. I may be wrong but it jsut seems to me that he went above and beyond to get a hug with you. The fact that he frequently has become more comfortable hugging you is also a postive sign that he may like you. As for me, I'm prettys hy and I almsot never initiate a hug, I usually leave that to the girl (especially when its just a friend) so I would sondier it a big deal to reach out and ask. This is jsut my opinion though. You would ahve to thinka bout a lot ,ore factors to get a better picture. Do you guys hang out alot? Do you feel comfrotable around him? Does he act closer to you than most other guy friends? The line betweenf riend vs. guy/gir friend cna be pretty blurry. I would try and "test" him, liek put him in situation to get closer to you or share certain thoughts etc. and see what happens. He may also feel nervous or shy so make sure if he doesn't respond that you give him a few more opportunites.

    • Sry I typed this in haste, its loaded w typos

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    • Ok, well its kinda ahrd to put an exact idea, but you could like say stuff that sounds appealing like say if there's a cocnert you might both like you could say "I would go but I don't have ne1 to go with". You can do little playful things that aren't exactly full blown flirty but that give him an opportunity to respond. Like a lot of my firends that are girls, if their tired or something and were stadning around they'll rest their head on my shoulder. based on what you wrote heseems like hell respond.

    • Ohhh..great idea (:

      thanks (:

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What Guys Said 2

  • I think who gives and who gets the hug decide what it means. And, for me, it can mean both.

    I have a friend who is very huggy. We are like brother and sister. Every time I see her, she gives me a hug to say hello. It means she is happy to see me, but not that she wants to date me. I also have some friends who are not as comfortable hugging. When I hug them, it is very quick and there is little to no physical contact. Again, just a hug between friends.

    When a hug turns from a short hello to a prolonged sharing of space, like with my girlfriend, when you hold it for more than a few seconds, I think you get to share more feelings and show someone that you care about them. The first few hugs are awkward, but once you or they become more comfortable, it can mean more than just hello.

    He probably is good friends, but you likely need more than a hug to know if he likes you as a friend or more than a friend. Hope this helps!

  • It can be either...I have a very close female friend. She and I will hug a lot at random times...but it's more of a sibling-like hug. I have another female friend that I'm interested in romantically, and hugging her is different, and I always want one for the closer intimacy. Short of physically asking may be difficult to differentiate


What Girls Said 1

  • I could relate to you. Except the hugging often because just a few days ago, I was heading home from a holiday party and I waved good bye to my crush since I was talking to him and I began walking away when he said, 'that's it?' And confused I walked back near him and he added, 'no hug?' So me being me said 'oh' stupidly and hugged him quickly. But ever since then I have been thinking what the heck that was and I am wondering the same thing as you but unlike you that was the first time he hugged me.