Anxiety is mostly an inner thing, but you might see it as heavier breathing. If I'm comfortable around her, it won't be as bad, but I'm still gonna feel anxiety. I'm confused about the greeting part, what do you mean?
I think he'll tell you if you ask him out or something. That's what I would do if I were you, so you know loud and clear whether or not he's interested.
if the guy is as shy as myslef then you have to do a lot of the work or most of the time you will find yourself both sitting there being quiet and doing nothing... sorry for us guys who are like that
It depends on the person. For me, I get uncomfortable but if she continues touching me, I'll eventually get used to. If I like her then I'll probably be filled with joy.
That happens when I like her. Being shy, I am uncomfortable/nervous around her. Don't know how to act or how to respond. I try not to look like an idiot around her.
Probably the latter xD people tend to get the idea that I'm not interested... But I think if I kind of know that she's totally into me, I'd not react that awkward.
It takes a lot for me to get the idea xD a girl had been watching DVDs at my place and we did a lot of stuff together but I never thought that she might be interested. She even leaned against me while watching movies but she always said in her family they are just that touchy, feely so I thought it was just normal friends behavior.
As you can see from most comments, shy guys over react to touch :D So they treat is as a bigger deal than it actually is, and probably will make things awkward. So if guy is shy, don't touch him :)
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I don't usually touch guys I don't like... So I treat it as a big deal too. I'm assuming shy guys also won't touch without reason either.
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If the woman is smiling at me while she's touching me, then I'm going to want to... kiss her. Would that be acceptable?
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I would probably shiver a little and get anxious, whether I like her or not. But if I do like her, it'd be a little more severe I think.
Anxious how? What if you are somewhat comfortable around her? Even greeting her on your own? Does that make a difference?
Anxiety is mostly an inner thing, but you might see it as heavier breathing. If I'm comfortable around her, it won't be as bad, but I'm still gonna feel anxiety. I'm confused about the greeting part, what do you mean?
Sorry... I know with most shy guys. You have to go up to them.. Well he is now comfortable enough to at least come to me and say hi (insert name) ...
Oh that's a good step then. Once you're already talking, it should get much easier from there.
Thanks! I'm just not completely sure he wants to talk to me.. he is super nice guy...
I think he does. Give him a chance to get more comfortable, I'm sure it'll turn out well :)
How would I know he didn't? Just to be safe...
Well you won't know for sure for sure unless he tells you. Shy people are hard to read sometimes.
But will he tell me? That's what I'm afraid of. I'd rather know I have no chance than to keep wasting my time...
I think he'll tell you if you ask him out or something. That's what I would do if I were you, so you know loud and clear whether or not he's interested.
The party invite wasn't enough? That his sister said no to for them both? Well.. She said they couldn't make it. But they appreciated the invite...
I don't know if that really counts. I was thinking more like on one on one type of date. If he says no to that, then you know he's not interested.
Ok...
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if the guy is as shy as myslef then you have to do a lot of the work or most of the time you will find yourself both sitting there being quiet and doing nothing... sorry for us guys who are like that
True... xD
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It depends on the person. For me, I get uncomfortable but if she continues touching me, I'll eventually get used to. If I like her then I'll probably be filled with joy.
Will you jerk away?
I probably have like a "What The F***" look, trying to figure out what just happened. I'll probably do a small jerk but still smile after though.
If you like her or don't?
That happens when I like her. Being shy, I am uncomfortable/nervous around her. Don't know how to act or how to respond. I try not to look like an idiot around her.
Ok... I doubt you do half as bad as you think... What if you don't like her?
If I didn't like her than most likely I wouldn't be bothered by what I did or if I did something idiotic. I would be more relaxed than tensed.
I'm not talking about you.. but her touching you...
Oh.. my bad, if she touched me and i didn't like I would probably just smile but not reciprocate anything back.
Thanks.
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If I don't like her I'm like... No touching, ew.
If I like her, it's awkward BUT comforting.
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I would Kind oft don't know how to react. I'd probably pull back or appear shocked xD
Would you smile if you did like her or do something to indicate or do it back? Or would she assume from your reaction you didn't cafe for her?
Probably the latter xD people tend to get the idea that I'm not interested... But I think if I kind of know that she's totally into me, I'd not react that awkward.
I emailed him I care about him.. Does that count?
That's friendly behavior :D so not really. It may take a lot to make him get the idea xD
Not in my book... I don't have guy friends really... He does know that... Oh well.. we shall what happens.
It takes a lot for me to get the idea xD a girl had been watching DVDs at my place and we did a lot of stuff together but I never thought that she might be interested. She even leaned against me while watching movies but she always said in her family they are just that touchy, feely so I thought it was just normal friends behavior.
Yeah. He's a little older than you and has some sisters...
I've got a sister too. She's ten years younger than me though.
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i am a shy guy, but if some girl touches my arm, i would be calm but you know.. if i like the girl.. i'll start showing the interest..
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As you can see from most comments, shy guys over react to touch :D So they treat is as a bigger deal than it actually is, and probably will make things awkward. So if guy is shy, don't touch him :)
I don't usually touch guys I don't like... So I treat it as a big deal too. I'm assuming shy guys also won't touch without reason either.
If it's accidentally, I'd jerk my hand away, if she meant it, I'd feel awkward and walk away. :(
well if we're shy would we each react in our own way? its not like a 'one size fits all' type deal...
I wouldn't react much. If I am speaking and she touches, I would maybe stop speaking.
Depends on the woman, ifs she's creepy, freek out... but if she's lovely. ... burst with chillz on the inside. ...
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If I was shy, I'd freeze up as to not look stupid. Then reminisce about what happened!!
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i would start to get nervous and heart would start beating.. then i would unexpectedly kiss her :)
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I get freaked out unless I'm comfrotable with them. They can even be attractive, but I still don't like it.
No, if i like her, I'd flirt back some, depending on how i knew her
I love it when girls do this. It shows they have some confidence and thats sexy.
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im a shy girl and i would a bit shy but after some minutes iwould feel more confortable to get closer.
.. As a sort of shy guy.. it's kinda cool, even when your in the car and they lean on you as you turn the corners lol.. It's cool lol!
I hate being touched, so I would pull away reflexively, whether I liked her as a person or not.
What if you are comfortable with her?
I still would be uncomfortable being touched.
Alright but would you glare at her? Run away? Smile? Anything to indicate you either did not want to talk or do?
Wow.. Are you married or have a s. o. ? How do u handle being touched on an affectionate?