Girls, if an unattractive girl asked me out, does that mean I'm unattractive?

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Disclaimer: I'm going to be pretty crass with this question. I certainly don't mean to offend anyone, I just want to understand a certain dynamic. I got asked out recently by a girl at my college. She isn't a very attractive girl, and I've been made fun of by friends after this happened because of her looks. I didn't really understand why there was such a furor over it. When I asked a close friend, he said that it was a big deal because girls only ask out guys if they think the guy is on their level. In other words, if an unattractive girl asked me out, that means I'm unattractive. I don't buy into this, but I do worry that there's some truth to it. She clearly thought I would say yes, so it stands to reason that she would think we were on the same level. Is this what happened?

missjayne · Accepted Answer

That's bull. She asked you out cause she had the guts to do it! The answer will always be no if you don't ask. I like her already, she doesn't let society stop her from doing what she wants regardless of what everyone thinks of her. She lives her life which makes her pretty awesome despite the fact that people can't see the beauty in her personality. Sorry for the tangent. Some of us aren't afraid to approach even when we know we are out of someone's league. Sounds like you and your buds had a good laugh at her expense though. But I don't think it means you are unattractive it just means she is brave. I told a guy once I liked him even though he was way out of my league. Then again, I'm not really the type to care what people think of me.

ashleymaries1990 · Accepted Answer

Honestly... At least for me, girls ask out guys who they find attractive. There are so called girls who are a "5" asking "8's" out because they find them attractive and/or like their personality. She probably thinks she has a CHANCE with you. Girls may not be as shallow as men.. (some) so they are asking you out based on because they see a potential and a possible relationship.

Please, do not listen to your dumb guy friends. If you like this girl for who she is.. PLEASE for the love of GOD DATE HER! So many nice girls not getting chances cause of guys being shallow or to wimpy and caring what their friends think. If you want her go for her!

ConfusedShyGirl · Answer

They are speaking complete bullshit. She finds you attractive, which is why she approached you. Stop over thinking the situation because you are just driving yourself crazy. Your friends are immature and uneducated ( which is understandable because they are only in college ) don't let them put you off. Maybe this girl approached you because you seem nice and don't go around making their friends feel ugly. Also think did you actually find this girl unattractive or did you just fear your friends would make fun of you because they did. Don't let it get to you cause come on you must pretty good looking if you had a cool enough girl to be the one to approach you because a lot of girls won't even do that :)

StewieRH · Answer

I don't think so. That girl could have just been confident or really liked you so she thought she would at least try ask you out?

Beauty is subjective anyway, some guys may find her attractive.

I've had guys I find unattractive like me before, does this mean I'm unattractive? Not necessarily.

I have also had cute guys take an interest in me and I find my boyfriend to be cute but does this mean I'm cute? Again, not necessarily, just a matter of opinion.

TrainwreckAdvice · Answer

No way buddy, she probably spent the whole day psyching herself up the courage to approach you. It means she likes you and wants to get to know you better. If a really big and scary looking guy asked me out would that make me a big and scary chick? I disagree with your people. I feel flattered when approached, never has it made me feel poorly about self image. Your friends probably just wanted to give you hell for fun. At least you got asked out..

WpCurious · Answer

Maybe she just has great self-confidence and doesn't find herself to be inferior to anybody. Just because she is not attractive to you and your friends does not mean other people have not complimented her on her looks before. Maybe she thought you were a nicer person and not so superficial, that she might stand a chance.

Anonymous · Answer

No not at all! It just means she was into you she might not know your "out of her league" she just has high standards. Even ugly people have high standards sometimes. Millions of unattractive girls are in love with drop dead gorgeous celebrities does that mean those celebrities are unattractive? Just be flattered and let her down easy.

habbahabba · Answer

no? never think that ok maybe she never gets attention from boys and maybe y looked at her one time which prob was max attention she ever got and now thinks u love her or something. away how about u just post a pic of ur face and well rate u

Dulcedulcexoxo · Answer

Lol, so every time someone gets asked out by an unattractive person that means they are somehow unattractive? Lets put it this way , girl only go out their way to ask out guys they find attractive.

EllaC · Answer

Not necessarily... I've only ever asked out guys I found attractive and never thought about them being on my level lol. That is ridiculous. Your friends are jerks

new_me · Answer

Well it doesn't mean you're unattractive at all. Don't worry

SheSugarcoat · Answer

Please, get over yourself. It simply means that she is confident girl. Luckly you rejected her. She does not need such small minded partner.

Girls, if an unattractive girl asked me out, does that mean I'm unattractive?

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