I quote mr Ed Sheeran and say that the club isn't the best place to find love.. in case you want something more than a one night hook up. Go to a bar instead, take a friend with and find two girls to talk to. It's easier when you're a little group
The club is way too loud and people generally just come to dance with their friends, not to find dates
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You dont pick up girl from clubs, unless they wanted you too. A club is a dark place people who go there usually enjoy music and get drunk i dont think it is easy to get girl when the crowd is overwhelming
15 stand ups with online dating? As an online dating coach that is hard to digest. You would think after 5 stand ups you would recognize a pattern or something you are doing wrong.
At your age you should be killing it on Tinder or Bumble. Period. Clubs should be the last option available. Just my opinion.
Clubs are a joke. Stay away from them. Your question shows you are either ignoring the current situation, or unaware. The risks of false allegations and other crap are out there. Be smart. Go do something social that does not involve loud clubs where alcohol, drugs and fights brew.
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I'd only suggest going there to practice talking to girls and dancing with them instead if meeting someone.
First you need to figure out the reason you're struggling at the moment. It is slightly easier to meet girls face to face if you have the confidence to do so, when meeting girls face to face they tend to be less flaky than they are online, but if you can't get a date online you're probably gonna struggle there too. Something you're doing is wrong if every single girl you talk to is flaking on you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wfNXWGCeNGIhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r1KOfj6y7FM
It's usually fixable so you shouldn't give up, however it will probably take more than just a post here to fix it having looked at your replies to others here. I know this because I had to do the same.
First things first, what do you look like? Have you done everything you can to look attractive? As in hitting the gym and building an athletic/muscular physique, dressing well, getting a decent haircut? This is one of the simplest things you can do to help yourself here.
Next, I'm guessing from what you've said to others about having few friends, not being able to make new friends etc. that you're lacking social skills and confidence. That says to me that this is also something you need to work on, your conversation skills, flirting, reading social situations etc. I'd suggest learning "game" from guys like Steve Jabba, Richard La Ruina, Adam Lyons, RSD. Those guys all have their own websites and tons of videos on youtube.
The reason I say it will probably take more than one post to fix this is because the above takes a lot of time. You learn those things through experience gradually, it can't be learned overnight. It also takes time for you to fully understand those things. You just have to listen to/read their stuff and then go talk to people, learn through trial and error.
You should watch these videos when/if you have the time:This might not work for all guys but I was the most fun of all fun, the boldest of the boldest, the most social of the social, and I wore a pink shirt. Check out my pink shirt:
if you want to be the coolest guy sitting in the corner with arms crossed, my advice will not work. My advice is opposite -- you high-five the staff, get to know everybody, everyone around you when you dance, you goof around with DJ until he lets you fool around on DJ equipment, then you will score girls and it will be easy.
But you have to be #1 at something. In my case, I was #1 idiot, and proud of it. I even got some very good-looking guys coming up to me asking how I did it and I recommended to them to become more of an idiot. They were too smart, too reserved, in my opinion.This is very simple to do. It takes a little practice to get your body language, and tone of voice right. Once you get that down you can start a decent conversation with lots of girls. You won't get every single one, and you will get shot down at least once.
Once your body language and tone give off the right vibe that says I'm not a weakling, and I'm not creepy; you can start a conversation with nearly any girl, any where.Girls in clubs aren't interested in conversation tho... Especially at your age, Jesus Christ! Clubs are pure unadulterated reptilian brain dynamics. Look good, smell good, and be confident. Hell at your age they're still giggling teenagers more afraid (and self conscious) of you than you are of them. Unfortunately you have nothing to offer at your age so they're often checking out guys much older than you. Hence that stupid study that says men are having less sex... yea they neglected to mention girls are all fucking the same 30-40 something aged men, thats why.
Are ya in shape? Do you drive a NOT pos car? Are you going somewhere in life? Can you handle 3 giggling 1/2 drunk idiots yelling "OH MA GOD I LYKE YOUR SHIRT, WOOOOO!" at you?Thank me later. In essence, learn game. Learn what women want and how to give it to them. Learn how to be a better person.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uQ6f-bzRhIM&t=247sSMOKE PIT! the club itself is hard because you can't talk properly with the ladies to flirt, but in the smoke pit all the ladies are down for convo while they smoke, I have more luck in the smoke pit then anywhere else and I don't even smoke except at clubs for this reason! Another way would be to get good at dancing and go to a country club, all the ladies get smitten over a man who can two step properly
dont be that creep in clubs who goes around finding pretty girls and starts grinding on them. its super weird seeing guys do that and unless the girls so drunk she doesn't know whats going on, she won't like it. itll be too loud to talk or hear one another, your best bet is learning to dance and having girls come to you. dont be the obnoxious hip thruster or do the lasso shit on girls, its super cringey. learn the stock dances, get some coordination, have fun.
A waste of time , and also , they are typically a sausage fest , with 10 + males per female , you will have a huge amount of competition , and on top of that , only a handful of the women there will be receptive , most are on " girls nights out " mode only.
Dude, in order to be successful in chic pickup u need something more than desperate desire and the magic wang. U can youtube hundreds of pickup lessons. But the most wisest say "Don't waste your time running for the skirts. Take care of urself".
They won't be able to hear you, so looks are super important. Dress like a typical guy and just be patient. Dont leave the club early, keep shooting your shot, until 4am.
Also go with a group of friends, preferably bring some female friends with youWomen are just as insecure as guys if
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Situations too so just approach them, talk to them and get to know them.. they donโt bite. Most of
Em anywayIt's hard to engage when their's 100s of other guys in the same club + blaring music all the time, try join a club instead or go to bars instead
There are a lot of guys in the club and itโs very difficult to try to seduce a girl in that type of setting with loud music and so many people.
Well if you want a keeper. Dont go to a club
Clubs are the kind of place you find a ONS. If thats what you want then go for it
But id advise hanging around places that you like or places with people who share similar hobbiesSubtly seduce them with covert attention grabbing methods, and touching. I just saved you $40.00 of buying the online course. Your welcome 😋
The club is a bad place to meet women, unless you're just looking for someone to warm your bed on that night.
Same as anywhere else, you put one arm behind her shoulders and the other under her knees and then lift.
Grab them by the hips and start dancing. It is very simple bro, what have you been doing all these years?
There are a lot of ways.
What to do depends on what kind of person she is.
The question is if you have what's needed (the skills) to do any of the ways yet.
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