There are a lot of men who are overwhelmed by overt displays of physical affection. Just remember that they need their space, their own air to breathe.
Try taking half the things you do and tone them down. Instead of making out with him when he walks through the door, give him a light peck on the lips and go back to what you were doing. When you're sitting on the couch, don't lay on him, just curl up near him and let your hand or foot linger near him. When you are out and about let him reach for your hand instead of grabbing his. Also, if you sleep together, give him space at night. Men sleep insanely hot, having your body heat added to it probably means he's not sleeping well.
Telling him you love him all the time might make him uncomfortable, especially if he's not used to hearing it.
Touch and affection should be special, private moments. Think of it like chocolate or cookies (or whatever dessert food you favor): the more you have the less special they are, eventually you'll get an upset stomach and you just want them to go away for a while and be special again.
Make your time special. Cuddle and love, but don't make him sick with too much sweetness. Even chocolate can turn bitter
you can't be not who you are (affectionate) and still be you. You have to know not to be clingy. Maybe you are clingy. Maybe he didn't wanna call it being ''clingy/needy/mushy'' he said affectionate. I would say don't change who you are, if you feel too much affection towards him, well that's who you are when you are with this person. But if you are controlling, too clingy, too mushy, I think you can tone it down by calling him less and letting him miss you. Or if you treat your man as if you are his mother, quit that. He has a mother and a girlfriend. Play YOUR position. But if you aren't overdoing any of these things and he still feels overwhelmed, then I would say he isn't as much into you as you are into him.
Emotionally clingy people are a burden because they require constant attention and input. Try finding hobbies that enable you to spend time alone and make you a more interesting person. I know that sounds very trite, but I swear it isn't - most men require a certain amount of alone time to feel emotionally healthy, your constant affection can be interpreted as an invasion of his space.
Wow, I'm not sure because I'd love a girlfriend like you.
I think the best thing is to have a serious talk and find out what exact actions you do which he feels overwhelm him. Then you can explain why you do them and also determine how to back off just enough to not see so overwhelming in his eyes.
but fyi, you don't sound overwhelming to me and I'd truly love what you were doing.
This is from my personal experience. Find someone else. I'm sure you love your guy very much, but he probably doesn't love you back in the same way. As difficult as it is to be without, I can GUARANTEE that there will be a sweet guy out there that will be crazy for all of your affection and never stop wanting more, and he will reciprocate it every bit as much.
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I feel you don't really "love" him but in love with being "in love". It's OK to be like this and my advice is to find someone similar to you who loves to be affectionate so you feel satisfied and he doesn't bug you wth the "overhwhelming " word! You're a loving affectionate girl & that's very true and rare to find..you deserve someone special my dear :)) someone to run at same speed ;)
I'd back off a little or tone it down a bit, guys sometimes need their space and so do girls.
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