Approaching women: When is it appropriate and when is it creepy/weird?

Question

I feel like a lot of men don't know when/how to approach women and it either comes off as creepy, or they simply don't approach women because they don't want to seem creepy. Where is the line drawn?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

For me it’s all about timing, location, and what you say. If you approach me well I am walking alone in the dark (not that I would but for this example), kind of creepy. If you approach me and start saying a bunch of sexual comments (which happens to me a lot) then creepy. But if you just say something nice, non sexual, in like a normal setting then I wouldn’t find it creepy (unless you were like 20 years older). I may not find you attractive but it wouldn’t be like “omg get away from me you pedo” kind of situation

weasley8 · Accepted Answer

From my experience it depends more on what someone does when they approach, than the scenario they are in to begin with. (Within reason, of course. Don’t approach when she’s on a date with someone else.)

Be nice. Open with something sweet. Say your piece, unless she says otherwise. Don’t demand a yes. And then leave her alone.

Some_Goof · Accepted Answer

First make eye contact. And from that eye contact you'll know if she's interested or not. If she's you looking at her and she makes a not so attractive face or is not smiling or something... back off.

AllThatSweetJazz · Accepted Answer

There is no easy answer, that’s the problem. Any girl saying “just do this” is compromised by the next girls saying to do something different, and it all never quite lines up. The trick is to live in a culture that doesn’t invite the women to turn around and cry harassment for looking at them and then just go for it and if they like you then cool and if they don’t then the time they waste writing up that angry blog post is their problem.

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Accepted Answer

I suck at approaching women
My looks usually carry me passed the initial stage

I think as long as you are honest and authentic it will work eventually

My advice is to always approach women when they are with friends.
You can be polite to all of then and then single the girl you like the most

Also it shows bravery and confidence if a guy can approach a whole group on his own

Logorithim · Answer

Use your judgement. It's also how you approach her.

Sarah_77 · Answer

You have to be able to read a person's body language. You also have to be seen as friendly, because no one wants to talk to someone who seems off (men and women)

As for the appropriate time. That's difficult to predict because not everyone wants to be approached for a number or reasons.

6ada6ing · Answer

If you're a popular guy, you can treat women however you want, and most of them will just put up with it or even encourage it.

If you're an unpopular guy, women will shit on you even when you're being nice. But mostly, they won't even notice you're there.

simplyaramdomgirl · Answer

Creppy: If she's rejected you and you keep pressing the matter. If she's with a guy and you rudely interrupt. If she's not interested and you don't take the hint. And if she's trying to keep you at arms-length, but you keep trying to make advances.

Appropriate: If you approach her and she's receptive. If she initiates the interaction or if she comes onto you. And if she wants you around her.

LMNOP123 · Answer

I’ve noticed dudes aren’t very good at reading body language. If she’s not making eye contact or is suddenly preoccupied with something else around her; she’s not playing hard to get. Move on. I noticed I automatically speak with a flat tone when I have a dude bugging me and he’s not getting that I want him to leave.

Anonymous · Answer

easy. you just have to be a mind reader and know in advance if she thinks you're attractive or not. If you're not attractive to her, anything you do will be "creepy" and depending how much of the bs feminist Kool-Aid she's been drinking, she might even accuse you of sexual assault or "eye rape" because that's a thing now. lol

shades777 · Answer

Approaching is not creepy but once you know your golden or sour you should take your bow gracefully or dial in.

Also beware that some women are drama queens and don't actually get approached in real lifere-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Listen to me. Don't ever approach a woman from the back or side or without her giving you a sign that she is interested in you lest you just like to feel embarrassed and turned down.

When a woman gives you a sign that is she interested in you then you go and introduce yourself and say "Hi" and go from there.

LinkxPeach · Answer

Well, tbh I normally don’t approach women because I don’t know how to get in a relationship with her, find the words to say to ask her “does she liked me?”, and don’t have any good dating ideas to go out with her. Also, most of the time when a woman gives me a sign that she likes me or something. I don’t talked to her about it and don’t know what it means.

vivmatt · Answer

It's creepy of you're coming over for the sole purpose of getting my number. It's appropriate if you are coming over to say hi to someone you know. Then I may feel more comfortable talking to you

nerms123 · Answer

I think if someone is sincere and seems ok with rejection then I won’t feel he’s creepy. If I feel like he’s basically just expecting me to shore up his self esteem or he’s going to get upset then that comes off as creepy.

ROCKS128 · Answer

These days its hard to figure that out. Must do some precise observations before making a move, unless one is hot or rich or famous.

joanofarcher · Answer

Some guys just have to get better at reading nonverbal cues. People usually give signals when they are amenable to being "approached". And ditto for when they are not.

DDpsy · Answer

Never give a shit about what chicks think it's creepy or weird. Their fucking mind is creepy and weird so it doe not matter. If you delve to much in it you will go mad.

Thatsamazing · Answer

It's appropriate if the guy doing it is considered attractive by the female and it's "creepy/weird" if he's considered unattractive by the female.

cth96190 · Answer

I do not know. I gave up approaching women decades ago.

incelposting · Answer

It's appropriate when you are physically attractive and tall. It's creepy when you're short and ugly.

Texaskid1 · Answer

It depends on the guy.  Also from a women's perspective:  Ugly guy = creepy and please call 911. Handsome guy = I am all yours

ClosestMoss · Answer

The line is drawn at touching. Or saying weird stuff.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Don't approach in a closed confined space.  If she's giving only one word answers more on.

Anonymous · Answer

If you're ugly, it's creepy. If you're attractive and successful, it's ok pretty much anytime

kikissss · Answer

Don't say something bad about her when you approach her. Be direct do not stand there and say nothing that's creepy.

Lman3000 · Answer

Key word, You won't know at all that's the thing people never tell ya or answer, I mean think about it

Anonymous · Answer

Women think it's appropriate if they like the guy, but if a guy they don't like does the exact same thing they accuse him of being creepy.

Anonymous · Answer

You have to be brave. You might get slapped but that’s part of being a man. Just do if... like Nike.

jonesjessica812 · Answer

Appropriate: if the guys handsome Creppy: if they find him unattractive or if he's a bum

Anonymous · Answer

It's extremely simple, if you're handsome, it's appropriate. if you're average or ugly, it's creepy.

BrookieCookie0422 · Answer

Don’t approach them in the bathroom

demonics · Answer

Cheat code: >Be attractive >Approach any time

Agem123 · Answer

If you're ugly don't go for hot chicks.

MarketNews · Answer

It's only creepy if you're unattractive.

Hypnos0929 · Answer

If you ugly it's creepy, that simple to women

HereIbe · Answer

It's always creepy, so don't worry about it.

warrior0345 · Answer

I have never approached

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