I miss him so much its driving me crazy. But I can't go talk to him?

[Anonymous]

Things got really messed up with us and he is gone now and doesn't want to talk to me. We weren't together but I'm pretty sure we both wanted to and in truth all we needed to do was tell each other how we felt. But that somehow seemed an impossible task and things got really awful and now he is gone. I don't think he ever wants to talk to me again but the thing is I know in my heart and soul he felt the same so how can that suddenly change?

That's why I can't deal with this . Any advice? Anyone go through something similar?

I can meet other guys and move on but they're not him. We clicked. We were right. I know that. I want him.

[solitaire]

I've been in a situation like that and I massively failed at making things better, so I can only tell you from experience what NOT to do:

1. Don't go try talking about the past up front with him and making it better. Let time heal things and if you bring up the clash that you had together only do it casually and diplomatically.

2. Don't express anger or hurt or distrust. If you express how hurt you were only do it if he asks about it.

3. If he pushes you away, don't insist too much. Give him time, and don't waste yours.

Good luck!

[Asker]

You've just about nailed every mistake I've made. Great advice. Thanks. Will surely Keep it in mind if we ever talk again.

[anonymous2121]

Wow. I can so relate to your situation.

So far what I have seen is he might be going through something personal inside himself, where he's trying to figure out who he is, what is supposed to do, and his relationships.

Give him space and time. If you want, you might send him a text or email (a brief "hello") and see if he responds. If he does respond to you, keep your conversations positive, no negative topics or any blaming or criticisms of his behavior.

Hope things work out.

[Asker]

Thatll be hard considering he was an absolute as*hole. But I appreciate what you're saying. Thanks.

[anonymous2121]

Sorry to hear that.

[kokum25]

in the words of the elders things happen for a reason sometimes we realize that we lose the most precious moments in life by being selfish or stupid or proud... my only advice is talk to him about it write an email or text message... and try to get on the same page with him ... because its not only about what you think he is in the relationship too... you just can't look at it from your perspective and make decisions for the both of u... you have to remember that you both have feelings... 50/50

[Rei02]

You know, I am passing moreless the same as you, but I think that mine is worse because I think a lot.

I agree with solitaire with his points, only just adding this: take your time, don't rush on the things and talk to him after a short time. If you want to do it right, then you have to be in a relax period, that means keep you mind busy with other things but him, then it will be easier to do what solitaire mentioned.

Let's trust in the memory loss.

[Asker]

Thanks a lot. Means a lot

[moloz]

Can you elaborate a little about why he's so mad?

[Asker]

I wish I could. I can tell you I did nothing wrong. Anything I thought I had previously done wrong I explained and tried to correct. But I don't know he was just always so angry and wanted me to go away. I guess all I can do is respect that. But still, an explanation would be nice. But I don't care about any of that anymore I just wanna talk to him