yes ,in my own personal opinion. this generally only happens with shy quiet guys that have low self esteem . who have been rejected several times in many cases very rudely and always in an embarrassing way that theuy gets gun shy about approaching any girl.
he may see a girl across the school yard that to him is the perfect girl. he may stare at her from a long distance away knowing that the distance can hide the possibility of him starring directly at her. if he does get closer it will only be momentary glances. and if she notices he will quickly look away. while looking away he may be blushing feriously and may stay looking away until he feels he's stopped. before he'll take another momentary glace. just to see if she might have reacted to almost catching him looking at her.
most of the time they may act somewhat normal around others unless she gets anywhere near then he freezes up and or gets unusually quiet as long as she's around (again taking quick glances at her.)
sometimes he might even try to be in the same general area as she is to be near her. however if by some chance she happens to notice him at all and comes up to him he may look for a way of escape. he doesn't trust himself afraid he may do or say something stupid (and at times does if an escape isn't possible)
this guy may see and notice the various different guys she may tend to associate with. if popular type guys he'll compare himself to them. he may consider himself as lesser than them and think why would she even consider me she's way out of my league.
the whole school could be aware of his crush on said girl but he'll never approach her. the girl could even know of his crush on her somehow and be expecting him to approach her espoecially if she's noticed his feeble attempts to look at her when he thought she didn't know.
he still won't approach or talk to her. it might even appear as thougfh he was stuck up which isn't tru but his actions might make it appear as such. one of the reasons he will never approach is he's afraid of the rejection and embarrassment. he may even feel that other girls might look upon him with ridicule an esculate the embarrasment even more so he'll never approach.
some brave girls have broken holied ground by asking guys out first and for some shy insecure guys this may work. but if she asks he may feel as though she's just trying to be nice and not really mean it.
the above is sort of me when I was in high school ,so I guess I gave you a personal recounting
of things that affected me back then because I was just that shy . I had several crushes but don't think (they may have known I don't know) they knew. one girl from 5th grade to 7th I had a major crush on her father was our Sunday school teacher . 8th grade I had another crush . 9th grade a new girl started and I fell for her that first day as shge was introduced to that period class (I guess one might call it love at 1st sight) well I hoped some of rthis helped
Can someone help me this is actually happening to me right now... I can't speak to her, she comes to my house for parties that my brother throws with his friends they are all like 3 years younger than me (they are 20-21) but she is awesome and she has style and gorgeous and pretty and keeps well... But we seem to have had some sort of quiet connection... She tries to say things sometimes to get me to speak but I just can't... Do it.. And I havnt seen her in 11 days.. And she's added me on Facebook that I just made.. And she's posting stuff like "I wake up every morning hoping there's a message from you" like I have a feeling she's reffering to me, but what if she isn't? And if she is!!! I don't want to get into the texting habit with her because I will open up so much and be so talkative and in real life im so quiet... So I'd rather just keep it in person or call her but... I have no job and no car and no money and no friends... Why? HOW! Could she like me? And she likes rap and hip hop and shit and I like death metal... I am no gangster, I have no style, my personality takes weeks of comfort before I can show it and then it's just like annoying im a wacky immature person, and although I like that about myself, why would she... I don't know man... I like her a lot... And she added me on Facebook and didn't message me and I will not message her... And I can't get off Facebook... I have no one to help get my mind off of her... Like I said NO FRIENDS... I really hope my brother throws another party soon but... All this anticipation is making me nervous for when she innevitably DOES come over.. And I can't say a word... And we won't ever be alone... And... I really like her... And I think she likes me... But I'm too afraid to make the first move... So will she get frustrated because she's going to have to make a first move or at least invite me to make a first move? I have no clue what to do please help... Comment.. Opinions... Something... Please im dying here for 12 days in a row... I can't stop looking at her Facebook not photos I just log on hoping there's a message from her... Telling me to call her... I Go on to see if she's online and then log off real quick... Because what if she figures out I don't do shit all day but be online... Am I simply not ready for her? Should I just let her go? I really like her...
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Yes! Of course! It happens all the time , more then you'd probably think actually .
Them looking at you , being shy towards you. You would have to talk to them .
Stuttering is normal especially with shyer guys. You can tell if a guy is shy quite easily. Depends on popularity and confidence .
Yes, I do I have big crush on her I never meet her in real life but she get my eyes and she almost got my heart to be honset with you I don't know I feel so attracted to her for no reason but she is very special person, she didn't know she is special but I'm scared as hell to tell her how I really feel about her but I don't want her think I'm creepy or obsessed with her. it not true but I can't stop thinking about her, I tried do everything to stop thinking about her but it stuck in my brain.
When it comes to crushes, boys and girls are the exact same, in my opinion. It's completely for a guy to have a crush on a girl that he hasn't spoken to. It usually doesn't show.
~Distant
Of course we can! It shows in our eyes when we look at her.
Girls are more sensitive to relational matters; you should be able to spot this easily.
Don't girls also do that?
I think they act the same way, really.
i totally love girl I've *only* talked to on the phone and through Facebook
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