Does it mean you're unattractive, if someone ghosts or rejects you?

[Anonymous]

Obviously, you weren't attractive enough for this person, otherwise this wouldn't happen, right?

[MrOracle]

That's one possibility, but there are many.

• Maybe he's taken/in a relationship.
• Maybe he's not looking for a relationship or to be tied down.
• Maybe he was just "shopping around" because he was bored, but never intended to get involved with anyone (this is something a TON of women do, by the way).
• Maybe he discovered a deal-breaker in the girl - which could be anything.

Looks are probably the least likely possibility, because that's the first thing you're usually going to know about someone (how they look), and if their looks aren't acceptable to you, you usually know that from the beginning. But looks are NOT the only thing that factors into what guys find attractive. I know a lot of girls think it's all about looks, but for the majority of guys, it's not (though looks will always be a factor). Personality, attitude, and history/baggage are also major factors for most men.

[Michael49]

Doesn’t always mean they aren’t physically attracted to the other person. It could be emotionally not attracted or there aren’t many things you have in common. As far as ghosting someone: I never understood why people do that. In my opinion its because they aren’t who they say they are or worse they are in a relationship and their SO found out

[Asker]

Being ghosted really is just the worst. Especially in person. It completely destroys your confidence and feelings of self worth when you're left to afraid to open up to new people because you immediately assume they'll leave you too. I've been ghosted multiple times online and while that does sting nothing makes you hate yourself more and feel like a failure of a person like realizing you and the time you spent with\getting to know someone meant nothing to them.

[Michael49]

Sorry that you have experienced that. It really makes no sense to me. It brings no closure and leaves people wondering what they did to deserve that. Unfortunately we live in a world filled with selfish people.

[jennifer_bloom]

No, I’ve rejected attractive guys cause I liked guys even more attractive than the guy I rejected, like rejecting a strawberry because somebody offered you a mango, or rejecting a steak because somebody offered you a lobster.

[Twix005]

Most guys ghost girls because they run away from there feelings i know it sucks. Guys that ghost have a lot of healing and growing up to do.

[Khalid494949]

Sooo true I've ghosted many girls i liked and loved because i was getting too close and was afraid im not enough

[Twix005]

@Khalid4949 Sucks... I dealt with being ghosted by a guy before but he came back to me and ghosted me again & still be trying to come back... fear of love. Love is beautiful better then anything on this earth, don't fear it embrace it. Your worthy and enough!

[Khalid494949]

What I’m basically going through is not just feeling like im not enough it’s also that I’m dealing with childhood trauma and heavy stuff and the thing is this girl just came into my life and showed me all this affection that I can’t keep up with because of my negative thoughts so how would you deal with someone like me would you even want someone who is still dealing with trauma and negative thoughts or rather just him figuring it out first and come back when he’s ready

[Twix005]

@Khalid494949 No... I wouldn't deal with someone like you simply cause I already did & because i would think your not sure on how to love because of your past childhood drama. You need some healing and closure. I was with a guy that had this problem as well he had mom & dad issues and just overall had it bad as a kid to where as now as an adult he still holds on to that baggage and made our relationship toxic. He just couldn't love me the way i needed him to he was trying to heal through me but it became toxic he was in and out of my life. I couldn't help but feel bad once I realized why he was the way he was but... I had to to get away from him it drained me too much and left me hurt... hurt people hurt people so my advice to you is don't get into anything serious until your ready to actually let go and let love. My ex even told me he loved me but he rather go back to the streets and ghosted poor ole me. Because of fear. Never stays away though. Once he matures and heal I may let him back in cause I feel deep inside that he's my fucking soulmate! Its been 4 years now so yeah... But heal yourself you will start realizing so many things don't miss an opportunity on love cause I feel thats all you need.

[ohshee]

No that's not the case at all sometimes we just get caught up and get busy and don't ever take a break and then before you know it a few days to pass by and you say damn I need to get ahold of her

[Ephemera1]

If they hit u up to being with, they found u attractive or attractive enough. If they ghost, they found you dull or boring, or possibly got what they wanted already.

[Ironic_Method]

There are a great many reasons why someone would ghost. Being unattractive to them could be a reason, but doesn't mean that it is.

[Relux47]

I can’t speak for the guys that gets ghosted or rejected but for me

https://youtu.be/DdHTfG7Qpdk

[Iron_Man]

No not at all Kay those are just basically head games

[Asker]

Wtf?

[Iron_Man]

Lol 😂

[Asker]

I don't understand

[Hangry06]

Not everything revolves around looks

[Adogdog]

Not always