Girls, Is it better to start a conversation talking about looks/attraction, or start with the other stuff first?

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In relation to something like online dating or some other scenario where the potential for dating is known, I always start my conversations with non-sexual or non-attraction stuff.

What kind of music do you listen to?
What are your favorite shows?
Tell me about your dog.

I figure the intent is to show up front that I'm interested more in her and not just her body.

But I get the feeling sometimes like girls think I'm somewhat uninterested or not sexually attracted to them. In the case of online dating, I wonder if they're expecting me to head in the attraction direction right away. But I always figure the attraction is assumed when I picked her. But perhaps they don't see it that way, and maybe a bit of flattery right off the bat makes a better impression. Or maybe it sounds like I'm tiptoeing around my intentions rather than being up-front.

What are your thoughts? Would you prefer to get the conversation started with being up-front about attraction and intentions, or do you prefer to wait until things progress a bit more?

Get to the juicy stuff right away

Slowly head that way by getting to know them before making the attraction known

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[Bethany22]

Studies show that while guys prefer to be messaged by girls about their physical attractiveness, girls prefer to be messaged by guys about their hobbies/interests. Aparantly, both genders are flattered when the opposite gender sends them a message that implies that they've read between the lines of what they've described in their profile. So guys might appreciate it if a girl infers that he is really reliable based on what he's described, and a girl might be flattered if a guy infers that she is very insightful.

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Yeah that was always what I had figured. We like being complimented on the things we aren't usually complimented on. Girls are mostly complimented on looks. Guys are rarely complimented but it's usually for something like a talent. I try to pick up what I can from her profile and start a conversation that way.