I'm dating an introverted girl who rarely opens up.
On very few occasions she did, but I missed the chances to give back a smart retort and instead just laughed sheepishly... I feel dumb and wish to improve.
Scenario 1. Her: I'm stuck at work today, I'll reply you later. Be a good boy, have your dinner and sleep early ok?
Scenario 2. Me: You should wear red for the new year.
Her: Don't wanna :P That's so corny!
Scenario 3. Me: It's 3am! Don't you have work tomorrow?
Her: Oh no! Why do I like talking to you so much? It's all your fault! :P
How should I flirt or banter back?
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Introverted girls are easily overcome. the best thing you can do is share presence without pressure. Once she knows you are comfortable with who she is and who she is not THEN she will begin to share herself. Too much pressure or same high stress tactics make them shut down more. If this happens then they are unreachable.
Thank you, can I ask for further elaboration and examples on 'Once she knows you are comfortable with who she is and who she is not'?
How does one attain that?
What should I do and not do?
You can't do anything much with introverted girls but be in her space, share location or proximity, do things together, make decisions and lead without opinion from her... as she will not express it.
First, she has to know your Experience to Trust your Judgment so that she can Risk and Reveal.
I always say that if it doesn’t come to you naturally then don’t force it or say things out of character just for the sake of having a retort. She likes you how you are and I’m assuming it’s the pace that makes her most comfortable. Maybe the better thing to do is rely on in-person chemistry and not texts. I never flirt with my boyfriend through text but when we’re together we’re very cozy and flirty.
Thank you!
As a I introvert girl I would be blushing if u came up on something while talking, for example of she shows u a picture of herself when she was a kid ans she say oh look at me now I'm not cute like before u can just respond with u still do, what I mean by that is give her surprising compliments in conversations where she doesn't expect you to compliment her.
I see, thank you!