A guy I've known for 5 years flirted with me and I ended up flirting back. We've been a part of the same friend group, but were never close (my friend group is large). We decided to see where things would lead.
Important details: I have autism spectrum disorder, a fear of intimacy, and I'm demi.
I've always been open about my autism and demisexuality, and we had a conversation about my fear of intimacy before we decided to persue anything. He makes sure I'm comfortable when we try things. We've done a little exploring. I've enjoyed everything so far. If something is too much then we stop and cuddle for a bit until I feel better. If I don't want to try something then he's respectful of that.
He's the first person I've ever felt sexually attracted to (the thought of even kissing someone was revolting to me prior) but I want to try stuff with him. The emotional attachment of relationships is more important to me, and he said he wanted to explore it too.
My autism makes it hard for me to communicate. I want to talk to him. I've tried asking him a few times if he maybe wanted to call but he usually doesn't reply. At first I didn't think too much of it because he's kinda known in our friend group for not answering messages. A couple times more recently that I've texted him, he hasn't bothered to answer me but has responded to someone else in our friend group, which hurts my feelings. If he doesn't feel like talking or is busy then that's okay. I just wish he'd tell me that instead of ignoring me.
It makes me feel like I'm not worth his time when he answers everyone but me. He usually answers when we make plans to meet up, but we often explore. I like exploring, but I want to talk and hang out too. I tried to mention it previously, but struggled to get my words out in the right way.
I don't want to give up without at least trying to talk to him but it's hard for me to bring up. If talking doesn't fix it, then that'll be that, but I want to try communicating first.
Important details: I have autism spectrum disorder, a fear of intimacy, and I'm demi.
I've always been open about my autism and demisexuality, and we had a conversation about my fear of intimacy before we decided to persue anything. He makes sure I'm comfortable when we try things. We've done a little exploring. I've enjoyed everything so far. If something is too much then we stop and cuddle for a bit until I feel better. If I don't want to try something then he's respectful of that.
He's the first person I've ever felt sexually attracted to (the thought of even kissing someone was revolting to me prior) but I want to try stuff with him. The emotional attachment of relationships is more important to me, and he said he wanted to explore it too.
My autism makes it hard for me to communicate. I want to talk to him. I've tried asking him a few times if he maybe wanted to call but he usually doesn't reply. At first I didn't think too much of it because he's kinda known in our friend group for not answering messages. A couple times more recently that I've texted him, he hasn't bothered to answer me but has responded to someone else in our friend group, which hurts my feelings. If he doesn't feel like talking or is busy then that's okay. I just wish he'd tell me that instead of ignoring me.
It makes me feel like I'm not worth his time when he answers everyone but me. He usually answers when we make plans to meet up, but we often explore. I like exploring, but I want to talk and hang out too. I tried to mention it previously, but struggled to get my words out in the right way.
I don't want to give up without at least trying to talk to him but it's hard for me to bring up. If talking doesn't fix it, then that'll be that, but I want to try communicating first.
