Can a woman do anything to impress a man she wants to go out with, or are men the only ones who have the power to impress?

[Bethany22]

Does impressing a man with one's intelligent thoughts or morality systems or athletic routine work in order to make him start considering her as dating material? Or perhaps talking about all the recipes that she regularly cooks? Does any of that make him clue in that she's worthy of dating? Or is it mainly all physical attraction first, meaning women shouldn't be so hard on themselves trying to sound smart and moralistic to try and impress a man?

So, can a woman do anything to impress a man she wants to go out with, or are men the only ones who have the power to impress?

[RavVid]

Spare me from being impressed. For a while girls wanted to appear 'interesting' to men. I think that period is finished - thank god - because it was a pain in the ass at the time.

It seems to me that girls mistakenly think that whats on their checklist is also on men's checklists and it ain't necessarily so. So good question.

We don't care about intelligence or smarts. I don't want to hear another girl tell me how smart she is again. Its as much a pain in the ass as listening to how interesting she is. Faking interest is hard work.

Athleticism interests me only in terms of her likelihood of her staying in shape. Five sentences or less please.

I don't cook so I am not interested in recipes and I just need to know she does. One sentence will do. "I cook" or "I like cooking". Extra points for "I like cooking and cleaning".

I am extremely interested in her morality framework. Most every man is because when she says "Honey, we are having a baby" we don't want to immediately think how much do DNA tests cost and can I get a coupon. Just her sexual morality framework. Don't want to hear about her woke morality framework.

In short I know that women do try to impress men. They tend to speak louder when they do. I've heard my house mate doing this and immediately thought 'poor bastard, he's not calling back, she's being a pain in the ass'.

Just as women can think a man's checklist is the same as her checklist (when it ain't), I think the female desire to be impressed leads to women thinking they should impress men. I've mentioned pain in the ass before haven't I. Women really seem to need to feel respect for a man. That is a part of hypergamy, with him being a couple of tiers up.

Men don't need to feel respect for a woman. One of the big things we want is a cooperative attitude and all the impressing stuff is contrary to that.

It isn't all physical attraction but there needs to be enough that we want to have sex with you. There is a lot more on our checklist.

[Nikki1989]

What utter nonsense. 🤦‍♀️

[Sasha0426]

You would make THE worst partner ever. You’re that type who would tell your partner to shut up when she talks about what she loves and what makes her happy. And once she leaves you, she’ll be afraid of talking to her next partner because of you. And as for you not cooking or cleaning, how did you survive on your own this long?

[mrlongdongsiilver]

Why so mad

[RavVid]

@Sasha0426 Not entirely surprised swiftian humor is missed.

[soulbabe]

Well your pretty fake hate to break it to you but better learn to cook and clean because just because a woman likes to cook and clean don't mean we are going to be your mommy who cook's and cleans for you and I work just as hard as my husband frick im the one who taught him to drive and he's older than me. I typically do the cooking and cleaning but he does it from time to time and will help if I ask him to.

Hope you relise you make yourself sounds like one of those men who think woman should be seen not heard if so I suggest you look for women in those highly religious groups because that's where all the brainwashed women are

So the fact you saying women should act stupid just for you benefit is dumb and a woman who encouraged your behavior has lost my respect

[RavVid]

@soulbabe Oh well then.

[Pyrofox]

Cooking is a convient plus is what I'd start off saying.

If you wanted to impress a man probably the most impressive and intimidating thing a woman can do to attract a man is probably just confidence similar to what a man typically does. As to what that specifically means well the outfit you pick to wear you shouldn't like pick at it once your wearing it in front of your man you wanna attract.

As that just attracts the wrong attention. IE: Every guy staring at your rear or chest. This includes any upskirt shots. While some guys yeah may find it hot a lot of guys find it just cheap and tacky if they don't know you. And if they do know you its just embarrassing.

But back to what you can do, what can be done is make eye contact when you are talking to the one you are interested in and stay present in the conversation. And if your phone is the center of your world DITCH IT around the guy you wanna impress.

Why ditch the phone, cause it makes you look BUSY. If you are aggressively typing, taking selfies and seeming just busy. No man is gonna approach you EVER!

The basic key is just look beautiful, serious, attentive. and approachable to sophisticated men. And before you know it you will have the inverse of this questions topic. It will become how can I get rid of all these men. XD.

[Pyrofox]

Oh and one other thing SMILE more. Its part of the whole seem beautiful. And its like +1000 to guys who may wanna ask you out. Frowning or stern looks make it feel already uncomfortable.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Smiling is huge. Agreed on that one

[Guy13]

A gentle spirit, good judgment, graciousness, an exuding soft confidence, traditional feminine, and intelligence.

Overly analytical, obsessive, and hyper self-critical is annoying. Know more about cars, Futbol or football, beers, or guns than i do then we are done right at that moment. I already have "drinking buddies".

[coachTanthony]

You can be fun to be around. Smile often. Have a sense of humor. Yes there are many things a woman can do.

[Anonymous]

First of all, there is a difference between a woman being attractive and being impressive to men. They are related, but different. A woman can be beautiful but unimpressive.

What makes a woman impressive to men? It's not her education, career or professional accomplishments. Those are things women find impressive in men, but men don't really care about in women.

I find it impressive when a woman is classy, kind hearted, confident but humble. I know a woman who volunteers her time at a homeless center, and I am really impressed by that. I'm impressed when a woman thinks marriage and family is the most important thing in life. Many women don't anymore, and to me that is very unimpressive. I am very impressed when a woman knows how to cook well and shows her love through cooking for her loved ones. That is increasingly uncommon today, so it's more impressive than ever.

At the end of the day, what men and women find impressive in the opposite sex are the same things their ancestors were impressed by, even if they are different manifestations of those things. A man who is strong, confident, charismatic, capable and honest with a strong sense of morality will be more likely than other men to be able to protect and provide for his mate and family, just like men with those qualities were thousands of years ago.

Likewise, women who are attractive, healthy, moral, kind, unselfish, nurturing and loving will make better wives and mothers than other women. And despite what feminists want you to believe, those are the things that actually impress quality men.

[soulbabe]

Not going to lie I would dress prettier and cook them food all the time and try to get them talking about things they like like get them monologuing about something really interesting to them.

By not talking about myself getting them talking about things they enjoy and feeding them I have created a 3 things I have learned more about them. I have created a mild curiosity and a dopamine response to my presence so they currently know little about me but are happy to see me because they will get a hit of dopamine it takes a bit but then they relise they like being around me but also relised they know nothing about me so they start trying to be around me more for a the hit of dopamine and B to figure out who I am

I do the same thing if I want to be your friend just be careful when you do this depends on the person but you can create a unhealthy dependence I was moving to a new town and this boy and girl in my class wrapped around my hips and started screaming I can't leave. Both had become a stocker the girl kept a log of when I went pee during the day and the boy stole my shoe and kept it in his backpack

[OfMiceandMen]

For me it's the initial attraction, physical appearance, but then it comes down to whether she has the brains to back-up the beauty. If she can hold an intelligent conversation and be articulate, while discussing something she is passionate about, it makes her more interesting to me.

If she complains about life or her job constantly, then I am less interested. There is complaining and doing something about it, and then there's complaining for the sake of complaining and getting sympathy. It gets old real quick!

Someone, who only focusses on being at the gym 24/7 is not my cup of tea, unless she is working towards something like the Olympics or Tough Mudder Challenge. She has to have more in her life than someone who spends all their time preening to attract a mate.

If she's a happy individual, then she definitely becomes more appealing to me.

[Tinana]

I don’t believe in impressing anyone do you. Do what makes you happy if you keep focusing on impressing men you’d have to maintain it. Then we you guys are in a long term relationship it would be hard to do you because of this facade you’ve created. Sure once in a while add some spontaneity to your relationship but only do that because you want to and not to impress him to wife you. Because if he wanted to wife you the littlest things you do would attract him to you already. Except this is in a loveless type of he’s rich situation and you just want to be spoiled so then again go ahead and impress him

[Chazmatazz269]

My experience suggests that a woman who does anything to impress a man will almost certainly succeed, because so few women even try.
This is also why so many average men fail to even try anymore. Women’s expectations have skyrocketed. It’s so bad out here that women have normalized the saying, “Nice guys aren’t nice.”. They’ve literally vilified the nice guys that women have claimed to long for for generations! Ell oh ell!

[FilmGuy93]

Storytelling, conversational skills, good sense of humor, having impressive life achievements, good work ethic; all that stuff is very impressive in women. The biggest thing women can do to impress men is to be a genuinely interesting and enjoyable person to be around.

Men don't typically want doormats.

[fantasticass]

Sorry for your loss 🙏

[FilmGuy93]

@fantasticass my loss?

[Anonymous]

Men are more visual than women are. Men like what they see and go after what they like looking at. So physical attraction is definitely important to most men. However, many men who are looking for a partner to settle down with will be looking for personality. Don't try to impress people, just be who you want to be and people will naturally be attracted to that. If you're trying to impress men, be a little more flirty and don't be afraid to make moves. A lot of guys think it's hot when a woman initiates things.

[Anonymous]

Domestic skills I suppose can be an asset.
As a man I am programed to beleive I should be the provider and as such I find it difficult to admire and see value in a woman's non-domestic skills.

Her non-domestic skills at best tell me we might have something in common that would help with our relationship. At worse her skills tell me she may not be trustworthy and show me the proper admiration and respect.

So no, tell me you would be a better wife and mother to our children and if I am available I might be sold.

But honestly your career is more likely to be a threat.

[Heolurt]

Being impressive isn't a power guys have, it's something guys have to learn to do to get dates. As it's a basic necessity, knowing how to cook isn't impressive at all. It'll be harder for a female to impress a guy but just do choose something basic.

[nawtee_me]

Absolutely a woman can impress a man. The best times to impress a man is when you two are getting to know one another or if you already know a good bit about each other. Trying to impress a man when neither of you know that much about one another can backfire and seem like you are trying to hard. I don't know the situation but was just suggesting...

[JoshMa]

I'd almost ask yourself if you think you can do anything as a women to attract men as they can to atract you. You could bring a positive energy and a friendly feel to a guy without it being forced which can make it easier for a guy to what to be around you as you are someone that can bring a positive feeling to him. Imagine how you would want to make your husband feel, you wouldn't what to bring him more stress than the world is already bringing him and same goes both ways. Both genders what to feel a connection to feel that they have something and if both can take on the world together to make it better for each other that is true love and comfort ❤️ . Be yourself and don't fake anything to attract someone because you would be attracting the wrong thing becase it isn't true to you.

[catiecatie]

So there are many different ways to impress a man. With kindness to others, how they present themselves, interests, etc. Not going to lie but I asked out a guy and I’m hoping he comes around as we share similar interests. I think at the time I asked him he didn’t want to be in a relationship because we were coworkers, but now that I have a new job I’m hoping he comes around.

[Anonymous]

Your problem, like most women today, is that you judge what is impressive based on the things men do that impress women. But those things don't impress men. Women impress men in completely different ways.

[Bethany22]

how do women impress them?

[Opinion Owner]

Being attractive and healthy and having a healthy lifestyle, being confident, dressing well, respecting herself, setting reasonable boundaries and sticking to them, treating others with kindness and respect, having a good sense of humor, having high standards for herself, and expecting her man to do the same. These are the things that men find impressive in women, even if some don't realize it or acknowledge it.

[Lliam]

I wouldn't date a woman unless I found her attractive. But her thoughts, interests, talents and hobbies are very important. I don't want a relationship with a bubble head whose only talent is sex. I want someone who is both interesting AND sexual.

[Luffy1990]

Just take an interest in his life, hang out with him , get to know him. , and most importantly be yourself & accept him.

[genericname85]

well sure. but it depends on what you want. you want a guy to lust after you? very easy. just wear big cleavage to a date.

you want a decent husband, it's more difficult. be classy, be a great conversation holder. be funny/witty and pay for yourself on the date (still let him pay if he insists). acknowledge and compliment him on masculine traits. that's how you impress a man.

[Mansearching]

Both have to impress each other in one way shape or form.

One girl impressed me by opening door naked without a care in the world. When she came over i did same. We dated for a long while.

But she was killed by a drunk driver. That's why we're not together anymore.

[Anonymous]

Women impress the shit out of me when they have a sense of humor.
Ones that take everything serious and get all offended are a huge turn off.

And I'm not gonna lie, a girl who knows how to dress and do her hair to highlight her face and body is pretty impressive too