How do you tell someone you’re into them?

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Legendarylegacy13 · Accepted Answer

Actions speak louder than words but I am super straight forward so even if I don't just say I want you. The hint is not saddle nor is it a hint... lol

shades777 · Accepted Answer

I've never had to say it explicitly, but it's heavily implied if I ask a woman out on a date, or give a tight hug, slap her ass that I like her

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

First I see if said person is single or taken. If he's in a relationship or married? Nope, not even wasting my effort.
Then I gauge, or try to, if he's interested in me or not.
Again, I'm not telling a guy I like him only for him just to like me as a friend, sister, buddy, etc...

If I think I have an iota of a chance with him, I usually just hang out with him, talk and text with him as much as possible- basically put in an active effort to get to know him.

And if he seems interested, I just ask if we can go out. I'm too old for games, so I just get right to the point. Either he's interested or he's not, and if it's the latter? Meh, move on.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Why would anyone rely on texting to say something this important?

Avicenna · Answer

Some people need to be told directly, they just don't read body language and other clues well enough

coachTanthony · Answer

I'm into you let's grab a drink.

tennisgirly · Answer

i'm definitely a very in-your-face, direct person so i tend to let them know one way or another. ngl this has scared some guys away in the past, but as i've gotten older i've learned that guys really do appreciate the honesty because they really can be so oblivious sometimes! plus i'm a naturally flirty person so it's kinda hard to let guys know that you like them when you kinda act like you like everyone in the first place. i mean, unless they already like you and are paying like uber-crazy-insane attention to you, they're not gonna notice if you're trying to show them that you like them and "act" like you like them when you're in my boat because i literally already flirt with like everyone without even trying!! so honestly i pretty much always either just tell them to their face or try to find some bold but also cute way to tell them over text... some people might think that's too direct but that's just what i do and it's worked out for me so far i mean i can't complain or anything😂😂

catiecatie · Answer

So I get nervous and talk a lot to not a bunch at all. Nervous as the guy I really like rn who I think also likes me but neither one of us want to make a move. I think he did one time after I took my first test he asked me what I was going to go do and I told him I was going to shoot archery. We talked about that for a bit and then I asked him and he said he was going to go flying. I think he was hinting at me to go flying with him without telling me to go flying with him. Last time I saw him, we were talking about nightly cross countries. I told him I saw one when I was heading for work and he asked me when I go to work. So I told him well when you texted me on Monday I would’ve been at work already and then I told him that because I was off he actually woke me up and I think I gave him the exact time he sent it. I just remembered that because I couldn’t fall back asleep. He apologized for it and I told him not to worry about it. So I don't know if I ruined my chance but I hope not. He said to text him when I schedule my next test so I’m going to wait a week or two just so it isn’t fresh in his mind of what I did.

nolabels · Answer

Back in the day, I was unbelievably shy.

I've been married for many years now, but these days if there is someone that I'm interested in conversing with, I just start talking and see what happens.

I'd never cross a line, but I see no harm in open, honest relationships between any two people.

I just try to be judicious in how I proceed.

If I weren't married, I'd do the same, although sometimes with additional intent, which I would make known at the first opportunity.

Anonymous · Answer

The reality is guys tend to like a lot of different women, male sexuality is not like female sexuality.
We go by looks more than anything else. This is simply because nature programed men this way. Nature programed men this way because of it being the optimum reproductive strategy for men given our limited role in the process over the last several hundred million years.

Women, specifically mammalian women who have to bare their young have likewise far more invested in the choose of who fathers said young as they do in the young themselfs. As such women naturally are more selective.

Daniela1982 · Answer

The only thing you can lose, if they turn you down, is your pride if you tell them in person. So I guess it depends on HOW MUCH you are into them. Nothing ventured is nothing gained. Of course, you can go the WUSS way and just text them. But that is SOOOO impersonal. Plus, they can just delete a text. In person they can only hide under a rock.

Faith18letsgo · Answer

It depends like if I know they like me but they haven’t directly told me I just hint to them that I don’t like them by

1. not touching them unless it’s for an actual reason.
2. saying things like “I’m not really into anyone right now or” “oh I’m into ___(other person)”

if they’ve actually told me though I’ll just say something like “I’m sorry I have a really flirtatious personality and am very fond of you as a friend but not more then that.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

I'm not good at it but..
I try to be of use, openly prefer her over other activities and prioritize her. I will try to be good for her, I will build her up, offer personal compliments and be curious about her. Ask to hang out, if we get at all close.
Usually it's a bit much though and I end up going my own way. I might take too long to make an actual move, like asking to hang out snd then time's up and I move on.

But I don't simp, I won't agree to anything and I will be honest and argue my point unless made to see perspective. I'm not a slave and will not be pushed around or used. If I think she's better off with another suitor then I might drop back and wait for her to chase me or point out his advances.

_Lynx · Answer

Both my actions and direct words.

As I experienced losing people (death) at an early age without having the chance to express my love/care or call it whatever you want, while them being very precious to me.

That's why I cared learning how to express my feelings, and made sure to let the other side know them, especially those kind to me.

As I sometimes also show those I hate my disgust towards them. But not really as important as they know they are disgusting anyway.

Rei13 · Answer

I show it through my actions. I am more touchy, make more effort to spend time together, and will go out of my way to do nice things for them. If I feel like they like me back and reciprocate then I will speak up even though I have a hard time with it (I am really shy and awkward). Luckily my boyfriend confessed to me first and saved me from struggling cause it was coming lol

StormChaser838 · Answer

Any girl that takes you to be meat will not let you eye her for even a 100th of a second without her catching you. So let her catch you 2 or 3 times slyly eyeing her. She will at once get the message. Then if she wants to respond, leave the rest to her. That's what I do, works like a charm.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

If I like someone and I feel there is a great connection, then I don't mind going all old- school on them and sending them some flowers and/or a letter/note that I made. If they texted, they received the flowers and/or note and seemed happy, I would follow it up with a call and see if she wants to go out sometime.

I like to keep things simple and move forward.

Leapfrog00 · Answer

I'm a shy person. This girl called me earlier, she was someone I got the courage to ask for her phone number, and when we were talking, she said I sounded nervous, and I was stuttering and mhy mind kept going blank, she hung up on me, lol.

I think it's safe to say, I'm never going to get a date ever again, lol.

Dargil · Answer

If I was in close proximity to them and they knew who I was, I would say:
I'm interested in knowing you. Can I get you coffee someplace and we can talk?

If she doesn't respond positively, the matter is closed. The only thing I have chased in my life is an 10-point Buck deer with a Nikon Camera. It let me get close enough to catch it.

Steelcore5280 · Answer

I tend not to bother very much anymore, as in the past, I'd usually get hostile and unlikable responses and reactions from women I fancied. I also know women do things like play the Rejection Game, where they see how many guys they can reject in one night, in order to boost their already inflaged egos.

So I don't frankly care enough to bother with these things. That's just my opinion.

Massageman · Answer

I've gone through the first three. You could certainly tell them, FTF. My love language is "acts of kindness", so I would probably do things like help wax a car, plant your garden, cook a special meal, etc. If it came up, I would simply tell you that I save my time and talent only for those I like/love/respect.

DarkCarousel · Answer

I haven’t told someone that in a long time.
The last person I dated was a Bumble match, so I didn’t really have to directly tell him. We got to know each other and it felt natural after the initial conversation.

Wild_princess · Answer

If i like someone and like see future with them... i confess to them i like them... living a life without regrets😂😉

lightbulb27 · Answer

directly with confidence and don't care about the answer or response.

when I was younger I'd tell them by hiding, running away so they never saw me. I'd ignore them so bad they didn't think I existed.

Poliker · Answer

I have had crushes. I act really obvious around them, not because I want them to know, but because I cannot help it. I've never told any of them that I liked them, and I do not regret keeping that to myself.

chrissykerdock · Answer

if i'm into someone and he's showing interest by making out with me and he's touching my butt... i'll go ahead and give him a blowjob by doing that i hope he'll know that i more than like him

Hanrej · Answer

I simply tell. Sure actions speak louder but it's wasted effort unless they're aware, think of you "that way" and considering it. Not to mention saying it instead of acting out of the ordinary is better to avoid any case of your efforts being unwanted. Some may feel pressured/bothered by the extra attention.

Badkitty41 · Answer

I tell it like it is.. i am straight forward because it takes away any guessing game there is no need for between lines.. it's simple straight to the point with less room for error. It's just easier..

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

You don't need to tell me... Yeah, dats rite.  ... because I already know you're into me.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I don't say too much. You know the saying, “give them an inch, and they will take a mile.”

Christsdisciple15 · Answer

I’ve never told somebody that I’ve liked them I just have silent crushes and sometimes they can tell I think.

I probably never will, I can never see myself ‘shooting my shot’ or approaching somebody ever

Johano · Answer

I've told some girl that when I was 13/14 y. o. in high school knowing full well that she probably didn't care and had way better friends than me. I told then on a bus. Felt weird and stupid coming home that day. We talked a bit here and there on the bus and on Snap chat. I also didn't have any close friends at that time. Soon after we stopped talking entirely.

Thinking about it now made me realize the importance of being face to face when saying something important and understanding the person more before saying such thing. Based on that experience, I feel more confident doing something similar if it occurs again. There were some actions I didn't which I won't go into detail but actions should only be done so much. Don't rely on actions as the most important indicator.

helping_hand · Answer

dont play around if you find someone attractive you like tell them that... that shows you are serious and confident. Although dont be like "i like you.. i want you.. kinda way... like im too macho (if you are not that macho dont act like one be yourself '''.. be a gentleman about it. If she likes you she will tell you and if she dont you will know that too and can move on

kacr10 · Answer

I am too shy like my nerves always get to me mainly bc my whole entire life I've been rejected by the people Im interested in. So I just either write a letter or just never tell them. 😢😢

TheMadLad · Answer

You don’t, You just wait until you’re sure they like you.

Wisdom-Strength-Love · Answer

He tells a good joke and you're both sharing a laugh, right afterwards immediately respond by asking “so when are you going to fuck me?”  You will get results

RespectfulGuy · Answer

Ask her out, make it a posh restaurant, and have a romantic meal. This act tells half the story. The rest, talk during meal and let her know that I'm interested.

exitseven · Answer

i tried the actions speak louder than words route and I really was getting nowhere. She started to hang out with another guy so one night I psyched myself up and went and told her how much I cared for her.

Fuentes · Answer

I will tell or text them I think they bad and if they reciprocate I ask what they looking for and I tell them I'm tryna fuck lol

Belgie · Answer

If I like someone I ask them out. If they say no, I'm not wasting time on pursuing a no hoper. Lifes too short.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

I never thought about this, it never happened. I have only had celebrity and character crushes which too change after every few months or so.

boobliker · Answer

i would ask am i getting laid tonight while dancing

weysally · Answer

I think my eyes can tell them providing they themselves can pick it up

Sarahr123 · Answer

I just stare at them a lot lovingly and usually they figure it out in a few days

menina · Answer

I don't know what to do or say when I'm into someone. But sometimes my behavior shows it.

Paris13 · Answer

People Always Get My Helpful Hint When I Brush Them Off. xxoo

DJB72 · Answer

I'm Gen-X so I tend towards the direct. It likely scares people these days because I refuse to be politically correct...

es20490446e · Answer

Hey Peter, I was thinking if you would like to grab some drink together? Tea, smoothie, juice, coffee, fine wine, a glass of water. I'm open to anything liquid.

Scania_driver · Answer

There's nothing better than being honest and keeping it simple, regardless of the outcome.

Curious_teen07 · Answer

I feel like saying/doing anything will make things worse, so just stop doing anything 😄

NathanDavis · Answer

actions definitely show that... and always made quite obvious, lol

LiamJHayden · Answer

1. I ask her out. 2. If she says yes, we go out. 3. If we click on multiple levels, I let her know I am into her. The direct path is all I know.

RavVid · Answer

I think the way you act with the girl/guy has already said it before you say it.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

I tell them or at least call them to let them know how I feel. Actions only mean so much if you have no words to go with them

annabananna · Answer

I’m shy so when I was single I wouldn’t be the first to say it but I would show it by being friendly and want to spend time together.

TruthBringer · Answer

Actions. Most definitely actions. I've dealt with people who tell you they love you and their actions disprove those words. Whereas actions never lie. Someone who genuinely is into you will go above and beyond.

Jazzy54 · Answer

Well, I’ve always been bold with the men I like. Therefore, tell them straight up. 😊

humanearth · Answer

I'm a bold person, I'll tell them right to their face

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I get shy talking to Ladies over text, so I clam up.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I tell him if I'm sure, or I ask him out on a date.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I usually sweat profusely, start hyperventilating, and make fun of their boyish hips.

Anonymous · Answer

I will never understand someone who thinks saying "I like you" is important. It should be fucking obvious through your actions

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